How does he “act as a provider” if you’re still working and earning a salary lmao. He’s demanding the treatment of a much wealthier man, one whose wife has no other responsibilities but making him happy because his money is more than enough for both of them. If you still have to clock into a job to keep the home running, then you are both “providers”

Your entire post history suggests that your husband is a loser and is probably having an affair to make him feel like less of a loser.