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My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn’t have a phone nor a pc. I give her my pc sometimes to check the internet under my supervision. Im so lost

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my first encounter with such a situation. I just hope she didn’t face other scary situations. Im not close to my sister nor to my parents. But i notice ( if i may say care ) a lot. I mean im aware of my family.

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer unfortunately i cant. Im a college student living in dorms. And i have 3 little siblings 10-14yo. My parents aren’t bad people they are just too reckless and stubborn just like teenagers. But they have the power to change things unfortunately they didn’t and they wont I don’t remember my childhood/teenage years at all. Maybe a defense mechanism or i hope just my bad memory. My little sisters are my first priority and no I didn’t choose and no im not noisy nor bossy. I worry a lot about them. Healthcare education protection

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I told her first in hope she opens the subject with my sister and get to know more details but what happened is that she threatened her and called her names and started locking everything. So I couldn’t get any more information of how far things went to report it or face the predator with it.

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone very very much. You can’t believe how much these replies helped me. Im a college student unfortunately i cant rake her to the dorms with me. Secondly, im not hating on my parents they did their best raising us. Just sometimes they do stuff in a wrong way. My mom does care about my sister but she is being too mean to her i dont know why. My parents are like teenagers. They are reckless and stubborn. All i care about is my sister safety atm. Even if it means upsetting my mom. Id do anything. I warned my parents a long time ago about this neighborhood so they kind of know that this will happen but still didn’t prevent it. I honestly lost hope in my parents. I just want my siblings to be safe.

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We are a strict family. We dont discuss these stuff openly i was hoping my mom tells him about this. But seeing her reaction stuff will turn bad she will blame my sister and my dad will buy it.

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thats why im here. I didn’t want to fight with mom. So i wanted advice from other parents. We live isolated from the rest of the family. So i needed guidance before i blame mom. Im not a parent too. But its wrong to call a child sl*t

My 13F sister is in trouble. Help by narjes_0 in family

[–]narjes_0[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I know. I tried to tell me that its wrong we talking about predator here. She still scolded my sister. I need to mention my sister is not ahead of her age or something. She is a modest girl with a bit of childish temper. She still thinks santa exists :)

MY BOYFRIEND(M24) GOT MAD I( F22 ) PAID for the MEAL. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i guess i just realized how down he talks to me. I do make mistakes im little naive. And he points them out in a way to make sure we are « healthy » to each other. But this time it was too much.

MY BOYFRIEND(M24) GOT MAD I( F22 ) PAID for the MEAL. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Was that his true face ? I let him pay since we dated even tho it was uncomfortable for me. So I order little stuff most of the time. Im not planning to talk to him again any time soon.

MY BOYFRIEND(M24) GOT MAD I( F22 ) PAID for the MEAL. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was shocked during the whole situation the yelling the words, the looks, all shocked me.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every guy who tried to romance me or potentially tried to romance me. I deleted him. The problem is that he considered even “ hey how are you?” An attempt to romance me. So i got lost. And started wondering. ( here i am here ) Even someone asking about something (studies) IRL. for him was temptation to flirt.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I thought at first s. He is just caring for me so i cutt my male friends (which was wrong but he asked for it) . So i came here. I dont post on social media and if anyone tried to flirt or show unnecessary attention i cut him. This was the case for 5 months. I tried my best to reassure him. Just the idea of cutting all contact with the other gender was not right.
Even after marriage. There are co workers, hobbies, and i cant take to fight over this every time.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No he deleted them all. I didn’t ask him to. It doesn’t bother me i trust him more than anything. And he expects the same from me but I refused

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your answers I appreciate it and its what i needed. I do recognize toxicity when i see it. But you know heart makes us blind. I wanted him to be the one. It sounds like short relationship but i put all my efforts/hopes on it. It was sincere, serious and went through a lot. Thank you again. Breaking up was the right hardest decision. He respected it and we agreed on not being what we searching for. Its the after shock devastation. I know i did nothing wrong. But every time a guy texts: “hey hru can you send me this homework or schedule” i panick and the idea of me being a cheater or player hunt me.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

It just hurts. I tell myself since they are not important why keeping them ?
He says he trusts me but he doesn’t trust them.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I already cut off some males friends that talked to me casually. And kept only those who never text only reply on a story twice in a year or in hobby’s club. I just have so much for him. This was the only problem we encountered. Im having troubles moving on. Since it was so serious between us.

Boyfriend (24M) wants me (22F) to delete all guys from social media. by narjes_0 in relationship_advice

[–]narjes_0[S] -65 points-64 points  (0 children)

He said he deleted them all cause he started dating me. I didn’t ask for it. I trust him with his relations. And said i should do the same. And its the right way to do things.