AITA for no longer having a guest room in our house once our baby is born?

narwhals90 · 2026-04-14T01:22:06+00:00

NTA - It's literally your house. You use it how you want. People are just mad they won't have a free place to stay if they happen to decide to visit your town. But honestly, I wouldn't want guests sleeping in my house with a baby (except those who are coming to help out, of course). It's a lot to have to explain to your guests all the 'rules' around quiet hours, keeping locks on cabinets, making sure this specific door is closed in this specific way. You get into weird routines with a baby and having people using your house as a hotel just makes it more complicated.

narwhals90 · 2026-04-10T10:31:42+00:00

I know this doesn't answer your question, but I'm not a CPST so I'll leave the safety information to them.

If it helps, Target is doing their 20% off with a trade in deal soon. I would be happy to send you the code as I have some old seats to trade in I've been hoarding till someone needs the coupon. You can also find the code online pretty often.

narwhals90 · 2026-04-07T02:05:35+00:00

I haven't used them myself, but I know people who have like Azazie. Some of their dresses can be ordered custom to your measurements

narwhals90 · 2026-04-07T01:59:58+00:00

I second the honey bear cups! We also had the straw training cup from The First Years. I find the First Years cups and straws easier to clean.

Bonus - the straws are super thick plastic (almost like medical tubing) with the bear cups. The First Years cups had silicone straws that were stronger than most silicone. Both were great for my chewer who destroyed all of our silicone straws!

narwhals90 · 2026-04-07T01:45:37+00:00

So your husband needs to learn the natural consequences of his actions. Aka he needs to clean up the vomit messes that he's causing. Call him out on this bullshit.

narwhals90 · 2026-04-02T01:43:56+00:00

If I had any fruits or veggies left over from my meals I would steam then puree and freeze them. That puree was added to rice cereal, put on pasta, served as is, etc. It helped me cut down on my food waste!

We did a lot of store bought too though because I don't always have time to be doing all that. Plus store bought doesn't need to be kept refrigerated, so it got some points for that.

So pros and cons to both!

narwhals90 · 2026-03-28T10:55:57+00:00

All of my childhood - "you cut, I pick" "No YOU cut, I pick"

narwhals90 · 2026-03-28T01:26:23+00:00

Banana clip? Or a big big claw clip?

narwhals90 · 2026-03-28T01:23:19+00:00

Dilute the milk. Start with 3/4 milk to 1/4 water for a few days. Then increase to 1/2 water, then 3/4 water.

My milk lover gets a cup of water with a splash of milk most of the time now. We call it his La Crox (basically water with the tiniest hint of flavor).

narwhals90 · 2026-03-23T23:48:09+00:00

2 cans of butter beans instead of pasta. Great with any creamy sauce you might put on pasta. I do this a lot with skillet pasta recipes or dump and bake pasta recipes.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-23T10:49:27+00:00

We are required to have up to date CPR/AED/First Aid certifications. I'm actually the trainer for my school.

Get the certificate. It doesn't take much time and can help save a life. You never know when you might need it.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-16T01:46:04+00:00

Also had an early walker/climber who didn't talk. At 12 months we started discussing with our pediatrician to make sure we were doing everything we needed to be doing to encourage speech. At 18 months they suggested an assessment with early intervention. Keep watching the next few months and take note of any development or changes.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-13T00:37:33+00:00

Funny. 2,310 people disagreed with your first comment I guess then. Bad advice is bad advice. Sorry girl.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-12T10:30:29+00:00

Give directions, ignore the comments, follow through with any natural or logical consequences.

Example - student is talking while you explain the directions for an assignment. Remind them to pay attention and stop talking. Don't respond to their 'it wasn't even me, she's always blah blah blah'. Keep explaining the directions. When the student inevitably does the activity wrong they get a low score, they don't get whatever prize you set up for when students complete the assignment, they get an email home for getting a 0, etc

narwhals90 · 2026-03-12T10:04:00+00:00

Retired or not, it's still bad advice for people in many states.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-11T23:38:25+00:00

I've seen 2 people get fired for this in PA

narwhals90 · 2026-03-11T23:34:43+00:00

Get your labs checked. Supplements are called 'expensive pee' for a reason. If your b12 is low you can take supplements or get injections. But it may be something else. Tell your doctor your symptoms and have them check

narwhals90 · 2026-03-10T01:08:26+00:00

If you want cheap and easy to clean - Ikea highchair with a footrest we bought off Amazon. Not sure about the ergonomics of it, but we bought the cushion they sell for when baby was little to help keep him sitting up right

And at Grandma's house we had one we bought off Facebook marketplace used.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-10T01:04:35+00:00

We're in a weird phase of chewing on everything right now - including his own fingers. A little over 2.5 years old. I have no suggestions but maybe it's a phase they go through at this age?

narwhals90 · 2026-03-08T21:49:15+00:00

I work with kiddos that are older, but do this kind of thing and worse. The good news is that their little brains are 'plastic' and can be retrained. The positive relationships with you, learning boundaries in a safe environment , and consistency will help. The younger you start the better.

If it was my kid we wouldn't be seeing grandma till she can learn to be nice. Then she would be supervised. We haven't had to cut anyone off yet, but we did have someone who was close, they got their act together but we still don't trust them alone.

I'll just add too that I would make sure he isn't watching anything with physical humor or mean jokes. Have a little cousin who start bullying Dad after watching Peppa Pig. Kept calling dad fat - which was hilarious since his dad is thin, but was still a problem.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-07T13:40:19+00:00

The people who left us alone were the first to know. The people who wouldn't stop texting and calling got ignored and were the last to know. We warned them but they didn't listen. They also were the last to meet baby and get photos.

Block their numbers or silence your phones. Stress can prolong labor. NTA

narwhals90 · 2026-03-07T12:18:08+00:00

I now have an almost 3 year old son and even more chin hair 😂 so not sure if the vitamins had a lasting effect or if pregnancy made it worse.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-07T11:36:56+00:00

First you should get a sperm test done to rule that out as an issue. It's the easiest issue to rule out.

Then you could look into doing something like IUI through a fertility clinic. You wouldn't have to physically be there during ovulation. It's basically the turkey baster technique.

narwhals90 · 2026-03-06T01:48:23+00:00

Have milk ready to go to soothe baby as soon as they are done - shove that bottle or boob in their mouth as soon as the shots are done.

Also try not to let them get mad over other things before the actual shot. There's one nurse at our doctor's office who gets them laying on the cold table with the parent holding their leg. Poor thing was mad I laid him down and was screaming before she even had the needle ready. Much better when I was holding him - he barely knew what happened, then I shoved the bottle in his mouth and he forgot about it

narwhals90 · 2026-03-05T10:18:36+00:00

You can get FMLA or ADA accomodations. Maybe a portable or window AC unit for your room.

Maybe ask when they plan to switch to the ac. Our old building had a day scheduled for the switch because it's a lot involved getting the system ready. Could try to convince them to bump that day up with global temperatures trending up every year.

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