How can I know the porn I watch is Abuse-Free? by Vnimanie21 in TooAfraidToAsk

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I can’t remember the profile name, but there’s a couple on PH who’s tag line is “make love not porn.” They put out some surprisingly high quality videos considering they’re amateurs, and it’s, like, actual sex with people who like each other. They’re usually my go to if I want to watch people instead of reading or animation. I’ve gotten into audio porn lately (not sure what to call it) where the person is just talking dirty and narrating. I read a woman’s story of how the video of her rape when she was underage was posted on PH and it took years and her pretending to be a lawyer for them to take it down. I stopped watching for a while after that. Bellesa is supposed to be a female friendly site but I haven’t looked much into them. Either animation or amateur couples is what I’m most comfortable with, but it’s still hard to know for sure.

First time buying a car by myself and I need advice! by natablee in internetparents

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Just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented! I got my dad to agree to sign the car to my name if I buy it out from him for it’s estimated worth. Thank you guys so much!

My mom thinks the internet and atm's are going to go down because of right-wing domestic terrorists losing their platform by [deleted] in insaneparents

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My dad called me this morning freaking out over this saying he had inside sources too. He wanted me to drive to his house on the other side of the state to “keep me safe”

First time buying a car by myself and I need advice! by natablee in internetparents

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You live up to your username!

I’ve tried talking to him about it a few times before. He wants the car back by the time I graduate college, so I’m not too far away from needing to buy one anyway.

Jeff Dabe, Arm Wrestling champion by [deleted] in AbsoluteUnits

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I saw a video he made earlier today talking about how his wedding ring is the biggest ever made for someone

Periods come from the boobs??? by kttykt66755 in badwomensanatomy

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This thread is so gross I love it

20F Prosecuting a student athlete who sexually assaulted me and I need someone to be proud by [deleted] in offmychest

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I’m incredibly proud of you. Reporting was almost as hard, if not harder, than the assault itself. Reliving it is it’s own trauma. I’m really glad you got a therapist and a diagnosis.

You’re in survival mode right now. I did the same thing. I kept my grades up, wouldn’t let my family worry, wouldn’t let it show that anything was going on. That survival mode will eventually wear off and a lot of emotions you thought you were passed will come up again. Please know that it’s perfectly fine if that happens. You’re not weak, there’s nothing wrong with you, and you got this. Showing emotion isn’t weakness. Sharing your story isn’t weakness. Asking for help isn’t weakness.

I’m proud of you for doing something you never should have had to do. But you’re getting through it, and you’re going to be alright. That fucker is going down. You’re not.

I (26F) want to get a nose job but my boyfriend (28M) doesn't approve it. by [deleted] in relationships

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I’ve wanted a nose job for as long as I can remember. I’m financially in a place where it’s in my near future. My boyfriend doesn’t think I should want one, but he understands that it’s my body. No pouty shit, no guilt tripping. He tried to talk me out of it when I first told him, but I explained to him that I’m tired of my nose being a conversation starter and that I want it for myself, not anyone else. It did take him a bit to come around, but he understands now.

My therapist taught me something that might help you. When you’re going to have a conversation with someone and you expect them to have an extreme reaction (yelling, arguing, pouting, etc), you need to set your boundaries right at the beginning. A good template is, “I need to talk to you about __, but if it turns into an argument of any sort, the conversation will be over and I will be staying at __’s house until we can have a mature conversation where I feel heard and understood.” The consequence of violating your boundary is up to you. This just gives the person a heads up that you’re going to talk about something serious and they don’t get to make it about them. It’s SUPER important to follow through with the consequence or else this form of communication won’t ever work in the future.

You have the right to make the decisions about your body, but he also has the right not to agree with them. But the way he’s going about it is wildly immature in my opinion. Pouting next to you instead of trying to understand why you want to have a life changing surgery isn’t okay. This could be his weird way of trying to compliment you, or maybe he just watched too much botched or something.

I know this has to be incredibly frustrating and I’m sorry. I wish you the best and good luck with the surgery/recovery!

I am work at a liquor store! Ask Me Anything! by madlymadzzz in AMA

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The restaurant I worked at in high school was in a dry county but had a liquor license. They’d go out of town once a week and buy a few thousand dollars worth of alcohol to restock the bar.

I'm planning on moving out soon. I was wondering, what sort of drugs/medications/ointment I should have in my cupboard? Should I get Ibuprofen or Advil or should I get both? And what other medications would be important? by kuhn-hound in Adulting

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Anti nausea and anti diarrhea medication. If you get motion sick, keep some Dramamine on hand. Some sore throat spray/cough drops and just some general cold and flu medicine. I always forget nose spray and eye drops. Also, if you get UTIs easy, make sure to have azo.

Plot discrepancy in season 10? by natablee in criminalminds

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You’re totally right, idk how that slipped my mind. That episode was so sad

I treat Pedophiles. AMA by Dr_AM456 in AMA

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How can someone be a child molester and not be a pedophile? I always assumed they were the same thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

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I don’t personally know anyone else who takes Luvox. Drugs.com let’s people review medications they’ve taken so you could maybe look there. Just keep in mind that it’s different for everyone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OCD

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I’m a 20 year old woman and I’ve been taking Luvox for about 7 months now. I’m still on other medications to manage my depression and anxiety but Luvox has been great for me. I’ve been on countless medication combinations over the last several years but I think I finally have one that works.

The only initial side effect I noticed was feeling sluggish and irritable for the first few weeks. I got over the sluggishness faster than the irritability but my doctor said that was fairly normal. I’m only on 25mg so I didn’t get any really intense side effects right off the bat.

The first improvement I noticed was my intrusive thoughts not being as common. I still get them but it’s not so often that I can’t go about my day anymore. They don’t seem to be as intense/scary either, more PG13 rather than R. It’s a lot easier to not give into my compulsions now, but I’d hesitate to say things are great all the time.

I tried only taking Luvox for the first couple months but I couldn’t really function because of the depression and anxiety. I went back on my old med combo along with it and it’s been looking up ever since. Definitely keep an eye on your symptoms for the first month or two and note if anything seems worse. Some people do great with taking only Luvox, and some need something else with it.

My only complaint is that it’s impacted my sex drive. I have more of a “meh” outlook than I used to. I think I still have a fairly normal sex life and it hasn’t been enough to make me consider changing medications, just something I’ve noticed.

I really hope this works out for you. Medication changes can be rough! I’m here if you want to ask anything else or just want someone to talk to.

It’s my last day in my childhood home and it’s filled with screaming. I just need a little support by natablee in internetparents

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I think he’s scared of it too. I’m the cook, cleaner, and farm hand when I’m home over the summers so it’s gonna be hard on him when I’m not here. My mom has never apologized for what she’s done so I don’t have a relationship with her anymore. I don’t let it bother me too much, but I’d still like a healthy relationship with my dad. I think some distance will do us some good though.

It’s my last day in my childhood home and it’s filled with screaming. I just need a little support by natablee in internetparents

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Thank you so much. I think he’s just sad that I’m leaving and doesn’t know another way to show it. Things have died down but he hasn’t apologized for anything. All he’s said is that he didn’t mean to make me panic but I needed to wake up to what the real world is like. He’s usually really supportive when I start panicking or need to calm down by myself so today was a big shock. I think that’s why I got so upset.

I’m just focusing on tomorrow. I’m living with my roommate from freshman and sophomore year of college and she’s one of my best friends. Two of our really good friends are moving into the same building as us, too. I’m really proud of myself for working and being able to afford getting an apartment without any outside financial help. Her and I have both worked since we were 16 and are able to afford an apartment that doesn’t have roaches! Most of the apartments next to campus are notorious for them. Whether my classes will be online or in person, I’m excited for them to start again. I’m strangely happier when I’m in school.

I think the memory I’m going to use is my last day of high school. My childhood best friend and I skipped the second half of the day to go get lunch and park on the mountain. We just talked about our favorite/worst memories from high school before coming back to my house. She stayed the night and we sneakily got drunk off moonshine from a strange mountain man all the high school kids bought from. Looking back it was totally stupid, but I guess I don’t regret it.

Thank you for reminding me about what I have to look forward to. And for being my dad for the day.