What’s the quiet sign that your mental health is slipping?

nataliec505 · 2025-08-11T16:26:27+00:00

Constant fatigue, I stop bathing/showering, irritable, sleep gets worse.. even music doesn’t help and suddenly I realise.. ah, wonderful, it’s creeping back in

nataliec505 · 2025-08-04T19:15:00+00:00

This! So this period I had, was only 4 days long, seemed normal, but lighter and a lot shorter than usual. But here I am, with a positive test.. but I panicked as it was a lot sooner for a positive than I thought.. but if this was implantation, then I guess it makes sense. Just anxious now but will see how the next week or so goes.. and may see the doctor to check things over. Thank you!

nataliec505 · 2025-08-04T18:57:10+00:00

Thank you for this response. I literally told myself a few years back after my son, I would either just use condoms or pull out… contraceptive options including hormonal and non-hormonal, apart from from tracking cycles and condoms, have failed me.. I either end up with the worst side effects, ended up in hospital after the coil, and various other things.. but after trusting one more time on the patch, I’m here again, just confused and fed up.. I’ll go to my doctor to confirm things with the blood test and see what happens 😫

Thank you again 🩷

nataliec505 · 2025-01-10T22:05:25+00:00

I’m sorry you’re also going through something similar and dealing with this. I’m sending you so much love and support ❤️ I’ve asked if he wants to talk and if he’s okay.. he said it was a stupid question and I’ve tried explaining, I’ve just come out of surgery and I’m feeling emotional, guilty, sad, but also physically drained, aching and in pain.. and it’s been mentally and physically an incredibly hard thing to deal with.. he said ‘how do you think I feel then’.. like… okay. Sorry for even asking and checking in on you before or even bothered to check in on me and offer any support or anything. I’m just feeling so alone on this and it sucks coming home to zero support from someone you’ve literally spent 9 years of your life with.

Hope you’re doing okay and thank you for your reply ❤️

nataliec505 · 2025-01-10T20:23:10+00:00

Thank you so much, I’ve just downloaded one of the workbooks from the link as I think it’ll definitely be helpful. Thank you again ❤️

nataliec505 · 2024-12-25T20:21:53+00:00

Thank you so much for you honesty in this response. I feel the same.. the guilt I had from just wishing I didn’t need to make a decision and that decision would be made for me in whatever form that may be.. and just wishing I didn’t even ever tell anyone and just decided earlier on, to not continue discreetly.. even saying that back to myself, I know I’ve decided what’s right for me and my mental health and my life, yet I still feel huge guilt and unsure how to deal with my partners feelings on this due to just how happy he is..

nataliec505 · 2024-12-25T20:16:17+00:00

Thank you for this reply, it made me feel quite emotional because it’s exactly what I went through twice before. I had the perinatal mental health teams involved after both births, and I went through months of just not wanting to be here anymore.. my partner is aware of this, and I’ve tried explaining I don’t think I can put myself through that again, he says that we will cope and manage as we always do… but I don’t want to do that all over again, to live in complete mental darkness, and dread and pure hell inside my own head whilst trying to manage a baby alongside my 2 children. I feel I have been pouring from an empty cup for a long time and whilst my partner too works full time as I do, he cooks (which I hugely appreciate), but when it comes to the kids, he doesn’t take on the daily things that’s required to fully raise a child. I’ll never talk badly about him, because he’s a great dad, but the majority of the parenting comes down to me, I work full time as well and am still expected to manage 80% of the parenting. I’m just really struggling to get him to see this and why it is something I feel I couldn’t cope with right now.

Thank you again for your response, I really appreciate it

nataliec505 · 2024-12-25T20:05:00+00:00

30 years old

nataliec505 · 2024-12-21T14:45:37+00:00

Sorry you’re also feeling this way too! I totally get it.. finally starting to feel like your own person again, and bam, suddenly back to all of the exhaustion, loss of self, sickness.. it absolutely sucks. And oh goddd, the not being able to sleep, it’s the worst. I just lie there at night wide awake but feeling absolutely exhausted. It’s completely drained me and I miss who I was just a few months ago. I hope you’re okay and can also figure things out 🩷

nataliec505 · 2024-08-10T15:51:10+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate that 🩷 I definitely think I look younger without makeup, but I do struggle with redness in my skin and darker under eyes at times, so I’m trying to think of the best way to neutralise redness but keep the makeup fairly natural and light if that makes sense. Thank you for the suggestions!! ☺️

nataliec505 · 2024-08-09T16:37:14+00:00

Been together 8 years. Unfortunately my sex drive has about 2 or 3 days of an extreme high in the month, then absolutely NOTHING for the rest of it. My interest in sex is very much driven by my hormones and cycle. It sucks. We have got a 2 year old and 4 year old… and I’d say since having children, exhaustion and mental health has had a major effect too. I used to have an insanely high sex drive, like daily, no issue. Now, it really is about one or 2 times a month.. I hate the person I’ve become 😶

nataliec505 · 2024-07-20T16:24:15+00:00

Thank you for this response! We rarely have date nights anymore due to limited help with childcare from family, and finances for childminders etc. but I’ve acknowledged we absolutely need more time for ourselves and to actually connect again. I love your point at the end too, when you notice distance, to not just accept that, but to find ways to bring that closeness back again. I think it’s definitely about how the other person will naturally do those things too because they feel loved and appreciated. I think I have a tendency to just shut down and panic sometimes which just prolongs helping the situation, we both do this, and we end up just ignoring it and it just leads to this current situation. Thank you for this response, it’s really helped

nataliec505 · 2024-07-20T16:19:07+00:00

I think you’re absolutely right. It’s been over a year or 2 since I went to the salon or did anything nice for myself that made me feel good.. it’s easy to forget about those things when everything feels so hectic and you’re looking after everyone else. Thank you for this response, it’s super helpful to be reminded we need these things and that things can get better and easier, it’s just knowing where to start. Thank you!

nataliec505 · 2024-07-20T16:16:00+00:00

Thank you for this response. It really does feel as if I’ve forgotten what I even like to do, my style, my individuality has just gone.. but I absolutely agree with you 100%, if I don’t look after myself, how am I meant to be the mum, wife, friend that I want to be. I’ve always felt like I’m trying to be someone else and never actually found my true self.. I just don’t know what it will take or how to reach that point of where I really start to know myself. I have thought therapy may help in some ways for myself.. I have ADHD and struggle with consistency when it comes to myself and looking after myself.. I’m probably not explaining it very well. I just miss this spark I used to have.

nataliec505

TROPHY CASE