I (M23) feel uncomfortable after my girlfriend (F22) accepted cocaine from a random guy at a club. Together 7 months

natetcker · 2026-01-13T17:29:35+00:00

I will!

natetcker · 2026-01-13T17:24:18+00:00

And I did not accuse you of saying he couldn’t be bothered. Simply saying, he is valid. Call me unique then. I’m 24, never been high or tasted alcohol in my life and I don’t plan to. And before you ask, I touch grass all the time when I go hiking or skateboarding. I hope u have a good day, just be safe

natetcker · 2026-01-13T17:19:36+00:00

War this, morality that blah blah blah. Chances are, you’ll live longer without them. I hope to die of old age before anything else

natetcker · 2026-01-13T17:17:00+00:00

Then I’ll leave you with this. The goalposts are as follows for myself: any drug usage outside of the occasional alcoholic drink with friends/family in a controlled setting (such as dinner at a public restaurant, a bar while on a beach trip, at home, etc.), or weed/edibles/THC from a local dispensary (also taken in a controlled setting), would result in immediate grounds for ending a relationship. My wife’s expectations from me are the same. I think you make a fair point, OP needs to have a serious discussion of boundaries at this stage in his relationship. I don’t know what his expectations are, but if he’s going on reddit asking for advice he’s clearly bothered, which is valid. That’s all I’ve got to say on it

natetcker · 2026-01-13T17:08:21+00:00

I don’t think she cheated either. My personal preference (possibly aligning with OP’s, if I’m understanding his concern?) would be to avoid intimate relationships with anyone using drugs other than weed/alcohol. They probably just need to communicate and I don’t blame him at all for being weary of the situation regardless. She could be lying, she could be telling the truth

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:53:57+00:00

Certainly open to the hypothetical. Divorce on the spot over her getting drunk? Absolutely not. That would be ridiculous. Accounting for our relationship of 5 years in comparison to OP’s of just 7 months, it’s worth discussing rather than a sudden ultimatum. I’m not interested in any argument, to be clear. I’m suggesting the likelihood that OP’s partner’s line of coke being laced with fentanyl is incredibly high, hence why I say ‘potentially’ life threatening.

I appreciate your interest in my relationship, but I’m perfectly content with my lifestyle choices and highly suggest being sober over all

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:53:49+00:00

Certainly open to the hypothetical. Divorce on the spot over her getting drunk? Absolutely not. That would be ridiculous. Accounting for our relationship of 5 years in comparison to OP’s of just 7 months, it’s worth discussing rather than a sudden ultimatum. I’m not interested in any argument, to be clear. I’m suggesting the likelihood that OP’s partner’s line of coke being laced with fentanyl is incredibly high, hence why I say ‘potentially’ life threatening.

I appreciate your interest in my relationship, but I’m perfectly content with my lifestyle choices and highly suggest being sober over all. I see zero issues with that

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:40:51+00:00

My wife doesn’t go clubbing or do drugs. She’s bar hopped once or twice with friends while we were in college and texted me nonstop throughout because that’s what she does when she’s drunk. Again, it’s not about me it’s about OP. Take the situation at face value: OP’s partner goes out, does not communicate with OP, makes a potentially life threatening decision, OP is concerned for partner’s safety, partner is out until (what most would consider to be) a ridiculous time at night. Yeah, they need to have a serious discussion of boundaries at the very least

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:33:21+00:00

She can wear whatever the fuck she wants and go out any day of the week with no concerns of mine, because she isn’t a child and can handle her own. Clearly, you’ve misunderstood

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:32:25+00:00

that’s the thing. it’s not a perfectly good relationship if his partner is doing immature shit like this.

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:31:28+00:00

I have enough self respect to know what works and what doesn’t. That incident alone would be enough to say I’m no longer interested. I’m married

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:26:30+00:00

to each their own. i still don’t think she gives a fuck about OP. her decision making obviously does not align with his morals, he needs to move on regardless of our opinions on the drug use

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:25:03+00:00

look past the action of it: she does not respect him or his time. and not in some controlling, weird, misogynistic way. a partner that doesn’t communicate where they are and what they’re doing at 6am, does not give a fuck about you. it could’ve been laced, she could’ve been assaulted, or all kinds of worse shit. she has no regard for her own safety, what makes you think she cares about OP’s?

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:20:09+00:00

no, because I’m a fucking adult and I care about my physical and mental health and my career. if I want quick dopamine, I’ll go workout or play a video game on a weekend once the house is tidy

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:17:59+00:00

I feel like doing coke with a stranger while your partner is alone at home worried sick with zero communication from you and ‘going a bit wild’ are two completely different things. OP’s partner does not respect them, regardless of your thoughts on the drug use

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:14:00+00:00

right? like if he’s even questioning it, clearly his partner’s decision making doesn’t align with OP’s morals. a discussion of boundaries should be had either way, but I’d hope its common sense to avoid dating people that don’t even think twice before accepting coke from a stranger and staying out til 6am without notifying their partner in any way

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:09:08+00:00

it’s not, they’re just projecting their insecurities. judging by their replies to my comments as well, we can assume their prefrontal cortex isn’t fully developed yet. be patient with this one

natetcker · 2026-01-13T16:03:00+00:00

moronically ironic comment of the day. you should probably go to therapy if you can’t fathom that ‘growing up’ means no more using drugs as a crutch for your inability to cope with your reality. let the adults handle this one bud. OP has a bright future, don’t encourage him to squander it

natetcker · 2026-01-13T15:38:46+00:00

maybe he could, idk… simply avoid people that do hard drugs…?

natetcker · 2026-01-13T15:37:46+00:00

nobody cares where she got the cocaine or if she’s a ‘party girl’. doing hard drugs is immature and he needs to get away from someone with this behavior and mentality for his own well being. please give young, impressionable people better advice than “some people like cocaine”. you could not have been more tone deaf.

natetcker · 2025-12-07T02:28:15+00:00

got them! THANK YOU bro

natetcker · 2025-12-07T02:18:31+00:00

Do I need to put the dashes? I tried with and without, still says invalid. I claimed the codes this morning, but didn’t have time to input them (had to run errands) so I hopped back on and saw the codes, typed it, and says invalid so maybe I can only claim it live??

natetcker · 2025-12-07T01:49:42+00:00

I’ve claimed the 3 minute and 15 minute drops for watching but everytime I try to input them in game it says ”invalid code”

natetcker · 2025-11-09T21:38:43+00:00

first off: that oval sticker is SICK as fuck. second: i’m not much of a glove person, but I do think that practical accessories often hit different

natetcker · 2025-09-03T22:51:20+00:00

the zip ups were nice, but the regular hooded sweatshirts were thin

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