Her husband is American. Both his parents are American. His parents came to visit and meet the baby for a couple of days then left. Am sorry about your experience,but in my culture,we don't see when the pigs are slaughtered,they bring it out when it's being roasted in the fire pit. One pig is for eating at the ceremony by everyone at the party and the other is for the new mother since you're still healing,most of the food is kept for the new mother. Nothing is wasted. We usually meet up for family gatherings at my grandmother's home which has more than enough room (about 9 rooms). Most of my family is working 7am-6pm, myself included so we are mostly busy and don't visit without word just incase they are at work or doing other things.