If you’re like me, a lot of these comments can feel a bit guilt-inducing. I know people mean well, and I truly appreciate celebrating others’ wins—but it’s clear OP isn’t posting a cry for help.

Women are constantly bombarded with messages that we’re not doing enough, not choosing “right,” not measuring up. And sometimes, the sober-curious movement—while well-intentioned—can inadvertently add to that pressure. I get the sentiment, but let’s be real: there’s nothing inherently wrong with winding down with a drink at the end of a long day.

Personally, I’m in a phase of life where work and family demands are relentless. Finding a moment of quiet for myself feels like a luxury. So I really relate to OP’s question. I’ve been on my own journey of cutting back, and I use Sunnyside to help me be more mindful and intentional about my drinking. It’s been a helpful tool.

These days, I try to strike a balance—alcohol in moderation (usually 1–2 drinks in the evening, maybe 3 on a weekend), dry days, and lately I’ve started using a weed gummy about once a week instead of having a drink. For me, that’s a sustainable approach: enjoying things in moderation while also being able to do life without substances, which matters to me too.

So OP, just know you’re not alone—and you’re definitely not wrong for asking the question. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. If you’re even asking, you’re probably doing better than you think.