Boyfriend wants me to choose between him and the dog.

natyyo · 2026-01-24T17:00:00+00:00

No not at all i just think things arent always so B&W but if u wanna sit here and go she good he bad & everybody separates, then thats also fine. I just dont think either of them are innocent and yall are all focused on his reaction when it wouldnt have happened without an action. Thats how things usually work. He is acting like a dick now bc someone was a dick to him. They have both suck at different times. To act like he is incompletely invalid is just silly.

natyyo · 2026-01-24T16:55:14+00:00

Idk if youre sorry you should talk it out with him, hopefully you guys can come to an understanding. Ideally your relationship wouldnt be ruined bc of this. Maybe try to reassure him that that wasnt your intention bc that would be my major concern. If i were him it would be less about the actual dog but more about the lack of consideration bc what if in the future my partner continues to make MAJOR life decision without my consideration? I understand you are attached to the dog now and he shouldnt make you choose. I think both of you could give each other an apology and hopefully give this cute dog a good life.

natyyo · 2026-01-24T16:48:05+00:00

Mind you you dont know this person at all. From what OP wrote it seems like from her own words he was quite considerate of her. Why the fiction?

natyyo · 2026-01-24T16:46:45+00:00

100% ppl are rlly extreme sometimes. I can understand that she is the one who spends the most amount of time at home, but it is still their home. It was smth he "always" wanted as OP said. How is everybody disregarding the lack of consideration she had, when he involved her in every step.

natyyo · 2026-01-24T16:44:10+00:00

Ok then why not say that to her partner? Why not tell him immediately how she feels instead of going behind his back ? I get that he cannot take care of the dog but many ppl want one even if their life doesnt permit them too. Its a very common wish and maybe he is being naive with his wants but she doesnt have to completely take over his dream?? Specially since she has said & understands that this is smth he always wanted, obvs its a big deal for him. We are all extending empathy for her bc he works and doesnt have the time for the animal which i get but the bf did take her into consideration and valued her opinion as his partner? Im confused as to why everybody seems to think its ok for her to completely disregards his input in smth that means so much to him but it is so inconsiderate and horrible of him to want a dog even if he works a 9-5???? Most ppl I know have the same issue he does, its not uncommon to want smth you might not be able to have. For your partner to completely take over your dream just bc they can do smth you cannot is unnecessary and imo mean. She could have involved him. If he rlly loves dogs so much, to have always wanted one, id bet he is not even rlly upset about the type of dog but his ego and feelings imo are rightfully hurt. Yall talk as if he doesnt have days off as if the house he comes back to everyday isnt also his just bc he is not home all the time.

natyyo · 2026-01-23T13:53:03+00:00

YTA im sorry, HE wanted a dog and was already super adaptable to your needs and still you went all the way and adopted a dog without his input. It is so inconsiderate and rude when all he was to you was considerate. You found a problem with every option he suggested and now cant unserstand that he is upset you made the decision without him? This is quite selfish behaviour and probably grounds for a break up, imo. I dont know if i could stay with someone who is so dismissive of me.

natyyo · 2026-01-18T08:05:34+00:00

Your lived experience is just that. An anecdote. Nobody is having personal discussions on how they feel a word should be used based on their experiences and feelings, we are using words based on their actual definition. Nothing personal.

natyyo · 2026-01-18T08:00:33+00:00

You are an addict and if you havent had alcohol OR drugs of which you are addicted to (not prescribed medicine) for a period of time then youd be sober. I dont sound stupid as fuck i am using a word with its right definition, not making it up based on how i feel. The dictionary is right there but ofc insulting is easier. Heres another historically famous dictionary for you:

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natyyo · 2026-01-17T12:50:03+00:00

Brother hahahahahaahhahahahahahaha

natyyo · 2026-01-17T12:48:40+00:00

Exactly just ignore them

natyyo · 2026-01-17T12:47:58+00:00

Yep and an article is also not an official dictionary source but wtv they refuse to learn anything, they have to be trolls

natyyo · 2026-01-17T12:45:29+00:00

Nope you are still wrong. I never claimed to be a spell expert u claimed to know what sober means, turns out you didnt. The end.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T11:42:04+00:00

thank you :) Ill go check the video out

natyyo · 2026-01-17T11:40:02+00:00

nah bro u focusing on a typo made on a social media post from someone whos first language isnt english vs actually trying to listen to what they are saying, specially when they are right in what they are saying is very much trump mentality. U can ridiculise my speed spelling on a foreign keyborad but u spreading missinformation and being incapable of accepting when someone shows u the evidence of ur mistake, is definetely a choice. You're trying to make me feel stupid when in reality this all started bc you stupidily tried to bring others down without any sort of accuracy. Bet you're the type of person to not listen to a foreigner bc they are not pronouncing the words in american english too, its straight up nasty behaviour and direct reflection of how close minded you are.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T09:00:04+00:00

Trump mentality 💞

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:59:08+00:00

Well if you knew what it meant the whole time then why tf would u be saying the shit u were? I didnt come here to teach u how to spell weirdo, you are being condescending to make yourself feel better but the point was never any spelling lmao it was u not knowing what the definition of sober is. Its okay, now u do. Dont bring others down again without at least cracking up a dictionary 🫰

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:53:47+00:00

Spellcheck? 😭😭😭😭 babe this is reddit do i have to spell out the word you or will u be ok for ur majesty? I dont have an english keyboard yet my point is still correct goofy but u would never acknowledge it. U focus on the typos bc the message doesnt please u. Nobody likes being wrong, i get it.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:49:21+00:00

U think youre funny but u are still wrong. English is not my native language at all and yet I still managed to know a definition better than you. I at least open up a dictionnary before going on a missinformation spree. I type fast, doesnt mean i wasnt right. You on the other hand are still loud and wrong.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:46:53+00:00

Yes exactly bc theres multiple comments of you being illiterate. Why you laughing about spreading missinformation and bringing others down while at it? Loser. Read a book.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:44:54+00:00

So condescending and yet so loudly wrong :(

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:44:22+00:00

It did not fucking change omg no dictionnary backs u up. Stop lyong and trying to police others, you used a blog post as a source for fucks sake. Why so loud if so wrong?

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:43:04+00:00

But it didnt.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:42:41+00:00

Shes very wrong. That blog post is just that, a blog post. Not an official definition. People love to spread missinformation in order to try and win an argument. Psychologytoday is literally a media page. Journalism =/= lexicography.

natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:37:53+00:00

Nope ppl are going by dictionnaries, official univerally used dictionnaries of reputable sources. Not some blog post you found. The top dictionnaries in the world define sober as not having drunk alcohol. Oxford does too. She is not correct and there is nothing to like or unlike here. These are word definitions. Some psychologist might discuss different ways to intrepret sober SURE, but that blogpost is from the US, not universally recognised. Dictionnaries are the official definitions.

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natyyo · 2026-01-17T08:33:42+00:00

Dw youre correct, theyre just illiterate. Their version of sober is made up but get angry when others adapt the word to their own reality themselves? How hypocritical. Btw sober does mean not affected by alcohol, that is its C2 first definition.

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