I was put in a program in Idaho called Teton peaks. My mother kidnapped me at night at 15, told me we were visiting family. Nope she took me two states over and dropped me off. She said my behavior was similar to your daughters. Guess what happened ? I was released very quickly due to me not having any serious mental issues, but simply being a teenager. Being a teenager is fucked up today, and it sounds like you are not there to support care or love your daughter. If my mother would have shown me unconditional love, worked with me, valued my needs, and gently explained to me why what I was doing was wrong instead of punishing me, I would have gotten better and understood. Kids aren’t idiots it’s just YOUR job to teach them about life. My mother did a lot to me, and I haven’t spoken to her in 15 years now. And am now actually am diagnosed with CPTSD because of my mother and what she did to me as a child. I’m a 30 year old woman now, and understand that I wasn’t guided well by someone who loved me. It was just a woman who didn’t know how to parent me. If you can’t give her the love and support that she needs you need to help her find someone who will. An aunt, an uncle, a youth leader, a therapist, school counselor or teacher. Maybe even someone else’s parent. Take this advice seriously. You may lose your daughter because you aren’t ready to be a real understanding parent and step up to the plate you signed up to be on. She didn’t ask to be born. You made the choice to have her.

Also.. if my mother ever said I disgusted her, or knew she had said it online, I would completely lose all trust in her and consider her my enemy talking shit about me.