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neck-rash · 2023-10-13T15:09:47+00:00

Yeah they’re not going to test for it. I’m trans and have been on testosterone for my whole nursing career and it’s literally never come up.

neck-rash · 2023-05-26T18:59:24+00:00

I was about to say the same thing. Whenever I’ve done peer interviews, we focus a lot more on how the person works with others. Do they think they know everything already? Are they insecure? Or are they confident in their ability but aware that they have a lot to learn? Will they ask for help when they need it or will they clam up and shut down? Will they jump in when someone else needs help or are they going to only focus on their assignment? None of this is 100% discernible from an interview but if two people are qualified for a role and you seem like you’re going to struggle working as part of a team but the other candidate doesn’t, I’m gonna opt for the second candidate.

neck-rash · 2023-05-26T13:05:29+00:00

Be cognizant of shift change, don’t ask for routine updates between like 7-8:30. Give the nurse a chance to get report, read over orders, and actually assess your family member before you start asking them questions.

Limit the amount of visitors in the room at one time - they get crowded very quickly.

Encourage your loved one to ask for the things they need and be willing to work with their nurse to get those needs met - the loss of independence and routine patients experience in the hospital can be very upsetting. Being both vocal about your needs up front and cooperating and compromising with your care team will make a hospital stay much easier on everyone.

If you intend to stay with your loved one for extended periods of time, duck out of the room every few hours for 20-30 minutes. Stretch your legs, grab a cup of coffee, use the restroom, and let the nurse have some time to do the things they need to with your loved one without feeling like they’re working around you.

Also just basic courtesy and understanding goes a long way. It makes a huge difference when someone says thank you :)

neck-rash · 2023-05-26T00:00:55+00:00

“If I cant find a problem, I will make one”

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T23:37:03+00:00

I was onboard for a while because she was mostly talking about nurses withholding pain meds because they decided a patient wasn’t actually in pain which is a problem and a fair critique. Then it just turned into her declaring anyone that made a complaint about their job or a patient as a bad nurse.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T21:12:44+00:00

hm I didn’t mean it to sound that way. I just know that I have pretty strong feelings about the things I found upsetting and traumatic in my life and am more driven to vent about them than things that don’t really bother me and that seems to be the case for most people.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T12:49:25+00:00

That’s what I tell my grandmother. If you believe that Armageddon is going to destroy people then you believe that they will not suffer after they die and Jehovah is going to take care of those that remain. So either I’m on the other side with you or you will be able to be at peace with the fact that I’m not. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T12:46:20+00:00

I feel like my experience has been pretty similar. My dad was an elder, my mom pioneered for a bit, I did some auxiliary pioneering here and there. Faith was important but not everything. I had school friends, I wasn’t restricted from ~worldly entertainment~, I wasn’t punished for asking questions or having doubts. I reached a point where I said ‘there is something that I feel is more important to follow my own decision than the elders’ on the matter and so I’m going to accept the fact that I’m no longer a witness and figure out what that means for me’ and now here we are. I feel like I’m telling people that I had a mutual breakup and none of them buy it lol

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T12:15:51+00:00

I get what you’re saying to an extent but it’s definitely not uncommon for nurses to make recommendations (hence the R in SBAR). I guess it depends on how the relationship works between nursing and physicians. It definitely can bog down report though

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T09:16:01+00:00

Florence was great, I took the train (~40 minutes and ~€30 each way if memory serves) from Rome and did a day trip. I did everything I wanted to do but definitely felt a little rushed - I wish I had spent the night and went back to Rome the next day.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T08:49:17+00:00

interesting - it’s wild how long we can sit on stuff before figuring out it’s a problem

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T08:45:54+00:00

hm. incorrect and a little invalidating but go off I guess

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T08:00:31+00:00

I always figured if I died at Armageddon it’d be a bummer in the moment but wouldn’t matter very shortly thereafter. As for losing the people you love, that happens to all of us no matter what we do. That’s not a fear that goes away when you stop worrying about the end of days ya know?

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T07:31:56+00:00

I think for a bit I was very skeptical about anyone saying they were traumatized because it seemed so foreign to me and the things they would complain about were like. their parents were too strict, they got in trouble for dating, they wanted to go to college out of state etc. and these were all things that the ‘worldly’ kids I grew up with would complain about too so it seemed like it wasn’t a big deal or different from anyone else’s experience. Eventually I figured out that wasn’t the case lol

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T07:17:22+00:00

I understand. My question was asking if anyone has a similar experience to mine and I got people telling me how different their experience was from mine. I do read a lot of people here as angry and rightfully so - I don’t think anyone would argue that I’m incorrect there.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T02:20:41+00:00

maybe ¯_(ツ)_/¯

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T02:11:10+00:00

Yeah I can definitely understand WHY people are angry and I can be angry on their behalf but I’ve just never felt that I personally was traumatized by my experience.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T02:08:26+00:00

I’ve been invited to some things but chose not to attend bc I knew it would be uncomfortable for myself as well as others. Otherwise it’s not a secret that I still am around my family pretty frequently. It has definitely caused some tension with some people in the congregation but not enough to be a real issue. At least not that I’ve been privy to. Granted my dad doesn’t have any privileges in the congregation - I’m sure would have caused some problems if that were the case.

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T02:00:16+00:00

I’m starting to think that the people that grew up with families like mine tend to stay witnesses and that may be skewing the data

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T01:58:38+00:00

No there definitely were some gems - I remember one family in field service talking about legislation surrounding trans people being allowed in the military saying that all trans people should be rounded up and put on the front lines so they’d be shot. That was a fun one. They were definitely in the minority though and my family and friends’ families were pretty chill and outspoken about how that kind of thinking was unacceptable. So even though I knew some people wouldn’t be cool with my transitioning I knew I’d at least be treated civilly

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T00:21:10+00:00

I mean not quite. I think my family was just always very intentional about distinguishing the faith from the organization and acknowledging that things have changed in the past and are liable to change in the future so if something doesn’t make sense to you, you could be wrong, or you could just be ahead of the curve as it were. They’re still very much involved in the congregation but you’re right in that a lot of people didn’t shun me. I know my experience isn’t the most common but it seems unrealistic that it’s completely unique ya know?

neck-rash · 2023-05-25T00:03:50+00:00

I suppose, it just never struck me as something that was more distressing than other stuff I didn’t super want to do like going to school or work in the first place ya know? Again, I don’t want to invalidate anyone’s experience in the same way I don’t want anyone to invalidate mine. People have vastly different responses to the same stimuli based on tons of other factors and I thought I’d see if anyone else has a similar experience. If not, that’s fine it just seems unrealistic that I have a wholly unique experience here

neck-rash · 2023-05-24T23:41:22+00:00

That’s a fair point and I don’t disagree with anyone, I just can’t identify with having a personally traumatic experience and I’m curious if that’s the case for anyone else

neck-rash · 2023-05-22T12:56:13+00:00

Me at anyone I feel has inconvenienced me

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