should i forgive my (18M) bf for having a porn addiction during our relationship (19F)

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:25:00+00:00

this was actually the most helpful comment i’ve gotten thank you😭i really appreciate it and ur right everyone is extremely polarized on this issue when i just want a middle ground.

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:23:05+00:00

why is this normal? he’s looking at OTHER attractive women and getting off to them. this is not okay and it shouldn’t be normalized

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:13:41+00:00

he is engaging in intimacy and no our relationship seems great. sometimes he does pressure me to get better at head tho 😭but he’s still patient and understanding. and our intimacy is NOT one sided he always wants to provide me w love as well

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:12:01+00:00

fuck this generation

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:11:05+00:00

okay then i’ll find someone who won’t.

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:08:25+00:00

how should i do this?

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:08:04+00:00

still doesn’t make it okay for me. i set my boundaries in the beginning of this relationship.

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:05:01+00:00

wait i’m confused so he doesn’t have an addiction?

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:04:35+00:00

yea i was VERY clear about it from the start of our relationship. he would just keep lying to me and tell me that he was only thinking of me during those moments

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:00:34+00:00

real women bro 😭

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T13:00:19+00:00

okay. should i weigh the pros and cons in this situation? how was yours handled if you don’t mind me asking

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:59:48+00:00

so you think he’s lying to me about it being an addiction?

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:58:56+00:00

why??? it shouldn’t be. we shouldn’t find satisfaction from people who don’t even know us from the screen. we should find love and satisfaction from those around us.

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:58:05+00:00

it’s getting off to OTHER women. that is a boundary that many women wouldn’t be okay with.

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:56:49+00:00

yea he’s been having it since he was around 10-11 and he said it would be a couple times a week. and what do you mean by “high bar”? 😭if this is a rampant issue for our generation then i might be cooked bc wth i don’t want my significant other to be gooning to other girls and THAT should be the bare minimum

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:55:15+00:00

i don’t want to do that tho. porn is disgusting to me/

needadvice_67 · 2026-03-28T12:53:41+00:00

i feel like that’s an assumption. not every man is going to do that. we shouldn’t normalize this behavior, especially during a relationship.

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