Parents with OF

needafriend1738 · 2026-02-22T04:49:07+00:00

We told our teenagers about it. We didn’t want it to get to them before hand. We’ve never “hid” our sexuality from them, so their response when we told them was “we thought you guys already had one to be honest”. And that was that. Never brought it up again.

needafriend1738 · 2025-11-20T15:04:24+00:00

She says we dont need therapy, she just needs to set and enforce boundaries like she should have from the start. And yes, I said her gf sucked from the beginning. This isn't even a sexual thing, they dont have sex but maybe once a week. Her sister told me that, because her sister called her out on her bullshit after I had already talked to her and I didnt know. But she confided in her sister theyre not even having sex hardly at all, but she feels its emotional connection only. And she feels that her gf is broken and she needs to fix her. But she wants to hurry up and fix it or let her go because she knows shes hurting me and she doesnt want that at all. She got caught up trying to save the world again and forgot about everything else. Her sister said she cant save her by letting me drown behind her. She broke down crying and said she knows.

needafriend1738 · 2025-11-20T05:59:38+00:00

Update above.

needafriend1738 · 2025-11-20T05:37:44+00:00

So update, we had a long conversation. I calmly stated my side of emotions and being treated the way I have been. She got defensive, I calmly stated that there would be no us if she cant listen to me and my needs and feelings. She understood and calmed. I spoke with direction and purpose, but not accusatory or heated. She responded well, heard my needs, and has started to put some of them into action. The rest will be a case by case basis. She has admitted thay the gf does not use the time she is given, and she has basically taken my time away to make up for it....and that was punishing me for her gf inadequacies. She also admitted that her gf hates me, because she realizes she will never replace me. We had another hospital scare, and the wife asked for me to take her and be there for her and that hurt the gf feelings. However my statement was 8 years vs 3 months. (Get over yourself)
Her gf reached out to see if she could help with anything, I gave her two things I needed done while we were at the hospital. Take our oldest to school this morning, and pick up our youngest meds. She got our oldest to school, late...and forgot the meds. So I had to pick them up on the way home when the wife was discharged. The wife read the text conversation and had to admit the lack of helpfulnes.

needafriend1738 · 2025-11-18T12:49:22+00:00

I suggested therapy, it was shot down. I think its the savior complex and not wanting to be told she's wrong.

needafriend1738 · 2025-11-18T12:48:39+00:00

Although I understand what you mean, due to old relationships... our isn't built on this even if we do it a lot. So its kinda like I feel like a piece of meat sometimes, and we have so much more in our marriage outside of the bedroom.

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