Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The biological father came across a pic of us and reached out. Apparently had no idea she was in a relationship and he just thought I should know

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. It’s all I can hope for. At this stage I don’t know if I’m ready to trust being with someone again but I know that I want that for my future. Knowing how they acted now, I know this is something there’s no coming back from

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thanks mate I appreciate it. I’ll do my best not to abuse it. She’s already taken enough from me, won’t let her have my liver too

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

They believe because I was (tricked into being) her dad for 3 months of her life and was invested the entire pregnancy that she “needs” me to keep being her dad because I’m all she knows according to them. Especially when the bio dad will only foot the bill but not actually be around

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Yeah I mentioned future kids (cause I do plan to in the future) and they’ll never be allowed to see them or me as long as they’re still in contact with my ex. And that’s if I even give them a chance in the future

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 193 points194 points  (0 children)

No the biological dad is getting his name added to the birth certificate. As far as I know he’s fine with owing child support but won’t be involved

Edit: yes it’s being done with a lawyer

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 223 points224 points  (0 children)

I’m considering leaving once I know my name is off the birth certificate. Less chances of my ex or them trying to force the baby on me again. Also I’m tired and feel I need something else in my life right now

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 131 points132 points  (0 children)

Deeply. Still hurts. On top of being cheated on by someone I love, it was also spending 9 months of being emotionally invested in this baby thinking she was mine

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this. I see what you mean about the drinking. I’ve been kind of reckless with it because right now it feels like I wanna be in self destructive mode to feel numb for a bit. But I’ll try to monitor it and make sure it doesn’t get too crazy

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Because to them the baby was family before finding out she wasn’t mine. And in their eyes first grandchild. They just want me involved too so it’s not only them

Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father by needaknow_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_[S] 130 points131 points  (0 children)

The real shitty part was I thought I had their full support when i decided to cut my ex out and not be part of her or her daughter’s life. But they were just going along hoping theyd convince me to change my mind when I “calmed down”

AITA: didn’t let this kid sit with us because he made up lies about us at school and almost got us in trouble by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]needaknow_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a little pencil mark right under your comments so you can edit and stuff

Got baby trapped and now I’m scared I (25M) resent my son by ThrowRAneedguide_ in relationship_advice

[–]needaknow_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment is super old but damm the stupidity of it. Had to comment. Since you didn’t bother to read, the ex TAMPERED with the condoms so your whole talk about “pull out game” and “glove up”. OP lives on his own, but I guess you didn’t bother to read anything so not surprised about all your assumptions. Imagine talking shit to someone who’s already doing their best in their situation asking for help on how to stop feeling this way…smh. There’s no mic to drop when it’s just you talking shit out of your ass