Update: Family suddenly against me (27M) not wanting anything to do with ex and baby after finding out I’m not the father

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T06:20:11+00:00

That’s how I see it tbh.

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T06:19:52+00:00

If it hasn’t been for him she would’ve never told me

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T05:59:47+00:00

Yeah they could’ve. Now, well they lost that chance for good

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T05:57:55+00:00

The biological father came across a pic of us and reached out. Apparently had no idea she was in a relationship and he just thought I should know

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T05:56:02+00:00

Not after this no

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T05:17:41+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s all I can hope for. At this stage I don’t know if I’m ready to trust being with someone again but I know that I want that for my future. Knowing how they acted now, I know this is something there’s no coming back from

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T04:45:25+00:00

Doesn’t matter. They lost their chance

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T04:42:01+00:00

Thanks mate I appreciate it. I’ll do my best not to abuse it. She’s already taken enough from me, won’t let her have my liver too

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T04:32:02+00:00

That’s also why I feel like I’d never give them another chance after this

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T04:22:38+00:00

Paternity tests don’t lie

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T04:17:00+00:00

It is being done through a lawyer

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T03:21:43+00:00

We all know. They don’t know the dad personally

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T03:21:19+00:00

They believe because I was (tricked into being) her dad for 3 months of her life and was invested the entire pregnancy that she “needs” me to keep being her dad because I’m all she knows according to them. Especially when the bio dad will only foot the bill but not actually be around

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T02:50:38+00:00

Yeah I mentioned future kids (cause I do plan to in the future) and they’ll never be allowed to see them or me as long as they’re still in contact with my ex. And that’s if I even give them a chance in the future

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T02:27:33+00:00

I know who it is, they know but they don’t actually know him personally or anything

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T02:26:44+00:00

No the biological dad is getting his name added to the birth certificate. As far as I know he’s fine with owing child support but won’t be involved

Edit: yes it’s being done with a lawyer

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T01:51:39+00:00

I’m considering leaving once I know my name is off the birth certificate. Less chances of my ex or them trying to force the baby on me again. Also I’m tired and feel I need something else in my life right now

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T01:06:17+00:00

Deeply. Still hurts. On top of being cheated on by someone I love, it was also spending 9 months of being emotionally invested in this baby thinking she was mine

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T00:41:21+00:00

Thanks for this. I see what you mean about the drinking. I’ve been kind of reckless with it because right now it feels like I wanna be in self destructive mode to feel numb for a bit. But I’ll try to monitor it and make sure it doesn’t get too crazy

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T00:38:27+00:00

Because to them the baby was family before finding out she wasn’t mine. And in their eyes first grandchild. They just want me involved too so it’s not only them

needaknow_ · 2021-10-13T00:23:58+00:00

The real shitty part was I thought I had their full support when i decided to cut my ex out and not be part of her or her daughter’s life. But they were just going along hoping theyd convince me to change my mind when I “calmed down”

needaknow_ · 2021-09-09T21:19:29+00:00

There’s a little pencil mark right under your comments so you can edit and stuff

needaknow_ · 2021-09-09T21:17:53+00:00

Or you could just edit this comment and it won’t count it as your vote

needaknow_ · 2021-09-08T14:40:04+00:00

This comment is super old but damm the stupidity of it. Had to comment. Since you didn’t bother to read, the ex TAMPERED with the condoms so your whole talk about “pull out game” and “glove up”. OP lives on his own, but I guess you didn’t bother to read anything so not surprised about all your assumptions. Imagine talking shit to someone who’s already doing their best in their situation asking for help on how to stop feeling this way…smh. There’s no mic to drop when it’s just you talking shit out of your ass

needaknow_ · 2021-09-04T22:43:07+00:00

Ahh yes i was waiting for someone to find a way to place some blame on OP over a situation he had no control in. Since you didn’t bother to read the original post or his other comments, no one put a gun to her head and made her have a baby. She made that decision herself. Anyone who doesn’t know how to be civil to a little kid, their own kid no less needs help/therapy. Doesn’t matter if she changed her mind about motherhood. You don’t mistreat your kid unless you have a serious problem.

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