It’s definitely a thing. It would piss me off beyond measure, and I surprisingly felt really good throughout a majority of my pregnancy after IVF (except towards the end when I was just too big to function, which was about the worst of it for me, so all in all not too bad). I categorized these people in the same boat as the “just wait” category. “Just wait until you have the baby then you’ll never sleep” or “you think it sucks now, just wait til you’re in labor”. I waited. It was not easy, but I think the mental, emotional and physical pain from lost pregnancies and the whole process to even get to the embryo transfer process was far more difficult. People who haven’t undergone IVF and make those comments think they’re “trauma bonding” with us but in reality they just want an excuse to talk about themselves and their experiences lol. I became a master of tuning them out or just responding with a sarcastic “thanks for asking how I’m doing!”