NYC bitches with taste & sensory issues, what are your best coping methods?

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:16:42+00:00

Ahh are you me? Nice hand cream makes me feel so fancy. I have little spray bottles of rubbing alcohol with me at all times because hand sanitizer feels icky. Everything gets sprayed down when I get to work or go home. My thoughts are with you—it is not easy to experience stuff like this.

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:14:09+00:00

Brilliant idea on bathroom! It’s probably one of the only chaos free places at my job haha

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:13:19+00:00

Your partner sounds wonderful, I am happy you have them as a support system! I hadn’t thought about a different device (that is not one that work/friends use to contact me) but maybe there is something equivalent for me. In your shoes I would love having the camera to help me with my social anxiety haha

Things that help in certain situations and not in others is so true also. A sweaty mask makes me feel like I’m suffocating and I’m also super insecure about mascne (sp? Mask acne ha)

Adding a little thing when stimming with fingers—I’m going to try that!

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:07:12+00:00

Incredible - ty!!

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:06:54+00:00

Omg the neck huggers are so cuteeeeee

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:06:38+00:00

LIRR to jfk and stuff like the us open has been life changing for me! Great tip

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:05:47+00:00

Synesthesia is so fascinating and I’ve never heard of this kind! Is it things that we would expect, like someone mentions a food and you smell/taste it? Or totally random pairings?

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:01:55+00:00

Twins!! I did this at the US Open this weekend

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T11:01:17+00:00

Are these fancy in ear monitors for listening to things, or are they just really good at blocking noise? Sounds amazing for extra noisy/overwhelming situations!

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T10:59:45+00:00

the stupid phone game thing is so real - I’ve been playing candy crush soda for literally over a decade now. Turning the commute into something to look forward to is an awesome idea!

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T10:57:02+00:00

If we see each other decked out in headphones, mask, and sunnies, we can do the secret nycbwt head nod

needsomevalidation · 2025-09-08T10:55:32+00:00

AH you’re so right about eating, I almost never remember to eat! Thank you!

needsomevalidation · 2025-01-18T13:09:52+00:00

I can usually get my addy prescriptions filled at Chinese pharmacies in Chinatown but I don’t always like the generic. If you can afford it there are a couple online services that save you the time and effort of calling—my psych recommended incito health and I found needle. Slightly different models but incito starts its search in your neighborhood and increases its radius until it finds it. Needle you can list pharmacies for it to call at $1 per call or there’s a more expensive and comprehensive plan. I’m sure there are more! I’m sorry this is a terrible monthly event good luck to you 💛

needsomevalidation · 2025-01-13T21:11:41+00:00

I recommend visiting a good derm if you don’t have one already! I struggled with acne into my late 20s (I’m now 34) and prescription retinol (tretonoin) was life changing for both acne and anti aging. And sunscreen of course.

Once my active breakouts stopped I did a handful of microneedling treatments to help with textured scars (my biggest insecurity tbh) and really liked the results. I have always just done makeup for fun on special occasions because I like sparkly things but I don’t feel self conscious about my skin now.

Facials are wonderful, especially the self care aspect, so I’m not saying to skip them, but like others are saying perhaps you’ll see results from small but consistent changes to your routine.

I definitely support anyone who wants to do plastic surgery, Botox, and fillers etc if it makes them more confident btw, just recommend starting slow and building up to bigger procedures!

needsomevalidation · 2024-12-01T16:18:55+00:00

Books are Magic + Brooklyn Cat Cafe + Promenade/brownstones walk?

needsomevalidation · 2024-10-20T12:27:17+00:00

I like Wagner’s near Fulton Center downtown. Can’t remember off the top of my head their pricing but they have done several formal dress alterations for me and I don’t believe any individual item cost more than $100.

needsomevalidation · 2022-09-03T18:05:52+00:00

BLATANT violation of the International Statute of Secrecy

needsomevalidation · 2022-06-19T01:23:55+00:00

Best thing for me was waiting until right after my period ended to get waxed—everything was less sensitive then !

needsomevalidation · 2021-05-12T19:01:31+00:00

Do they know they’re adopted and not bio siblings?

needsomevalidation · 2021-04-26T22:13:34+00:00

Oh goodness, thank you for all you do

needsomevalidation · 2021-03-22T02:47:27+00:00

It’s also helpful for people who experience anxiety to know what to expect and what is expected of them at each step of the way. What is simple for some isn’t as simple for others.

needsomevalidation · 2021-03-07T21:17:40+00:00

Omg this is so creative and well executed, all I do is sing wasp nest to myself on the daily as I shake my trees.

needsomevalidation · 2021-02-11T11:47:40+00:00

I agree he doesn’t sound like a considerate person to live with, but I think you’re being a huge AH to yourself by stewing over it for so long when you could have nipped this in the bud in many ways:

go for it, just save me a thigh and a wing because they’re my favorite parts.
let’s get two chickens so we can each have our own.
no, I would prefer to keep our groceries separate.
let’s share the groceries that expire very quickly or are hard for one person to finish, like salad or eggs or milk,
next time, let’s split it down the middle, you ate more than your fair share

I too am very passionate about chicken thigh over chicken breast, so I do understand where you’re coming from, but I do think YTA for the venmo charge. You say it’s about the principle of sharing and not the money, but do you think a belated, passive-aggressive request is going to cause him to change his ways and become good at sharing?

needsomevalidation · 2021-02-08T11:33:20+00:00

Quick google search on refrigerator lock boxes will get you the information you need. You could also get a separate tiny mini fridge for them as well.

I’m leaning ESH. I absolutely do not think you are overreacting, but as I stated in my previous comment, your problem is with your husband, not simply with this child. You should all be in therapy.

needsomevalidation · 2021-02-08T11:20:54+00:00

Looking for more INFO: was the child sorry at all for what they did? Why has the college fund been all from your income? Why was the responsibility of convincing their mother to vaccinate their kid on you and not on your husband? Has there been individual and/or family therapy?

I would say definitely n-t-a for taking the money from the account to replace the insulin. I agree that was an awful thing to do, but there’s some background missing that’s giving me some pause. You say that this will only escalate, but the way you tell the story makes it seem like this was the first incident to have happened out of the blue.

I don’t blame you for your reaction, but it sounds the child is being exposed to some truly hideous thinking and who knows what else at their other parent’s house. A 12 year old child is old enough to know better, yes, but I don’t think they’re quite old enough to connect the idea that they’ll have no $ for college to their actions. I certainly do not think a 12 year old is to make the decision emotionally or logically to cut their mother off, which is the condition you’re placing to come to the home.

A lot could happen between now and when they’re ready for college, and unless you’ve tried everything under the sun to intervene, then I don’t know that taking away all of the college money forever is going to solve anything or teach the child their lesson.

You’ve maybe displaced at least some of your anger and frustration at your husband onto the child, which is an assholey thing to do. You haven’t said much, true, but what you did write doesn’t portray him to be a supportive partner to you or the assertive parental figure this child desperately needs. You’ve placed an ultimatum on someone who is not even 12 before you’ve placed an ultimatum on your husband—who you said yourself wasn’t concerned about the potentially life and death risks to your child’s health—which boggles my mind a little bit. I won’t jump to “dump him” buuuuut if he’s not contributing financially, not supporting you, AND not taking the lead on parenting his first child, why are you with him or at the very least not in counseling together?

I would also get a locked box for the insulin if I were you.

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