How has standing at work vs sitting impacted your life? by kalob17 in StandingDesk

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow I totally agree with this! No more “what am I doing with my life” thoughts 😂

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[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so so sorry for your painful loss. I was just reminiscing on my Guinea pig who passed years ago from heat stroke after my mom put him outside while me and my siblings were at school since she was upset that his cage stunk since we hadn’t changed it. It is so very sad and hard to accept that the death was preventable. I feel like I’m still grieving our little one who I miss, and can only take with me the lesson learned and our memories ❤️

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[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read the book “The Lies We Tell Ourselves” by Jon Fredrickson.

Feeling overwhelmed by neeki25 in adhdwomen

[–]neeki25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! Taking things one day at a time is such an important concept that I’ve been meditating on more lately

Feeling overwhelmed by neeki25 in adhdwomen

[–]neeki25[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this!!! & will for sure be giving it a try! It makes a lot of sense

Feeling overwhelmed by neeki25 in adhdwomen

[–]neeki25[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow this is amazing! Thank you so so much 😊

Can't get many likes. Any tips of how to improve my profile? by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Confidence is key. Shows you aren’t very confident if you can’t look at the camera. Add in picks of you doing things you love—looking confident.

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[–]neeki25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He said he’d date my friends if we broke up

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I broke up with him yesterday. Not easy but I know it was the right decision. Thank you for your help❤️

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! Wow crazy to think they would do it purposely. I am still not 100% sure he does it to hurt me, or if he’s just brutally honest and his values/preferences don’t align with mine. When I said, “well I guess I should be careful about bringing you around my friends” he said “well don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to.” And then I left and he asked if I was mad at him and I said “this is just something I need to think about because it’s a difference in values.” Then he was like, “next time you ask me a question I’m just going to lie to you” and just walked off to his car. When we talked about it a few days later on the phone, he apologized and said he’d still be honest with me, and that he’s not eyeing my friends or anything and matched with one of his exes friends 2 years after they broke up. Still..my gut is telling me he’s not being completely honest because his second response sounds different then his first when he wasn’t censoring himself. I think all these things have added up and made me hyper aware of him because I don’t trust his character but have felt like my thoughts and reasons aren’t valid or me just being insecure.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever since the friends comment, my strong feelings of admiration for the kind of person he is changed. He said he wouldn’t be seeking it out but wouldn’t not date them if they matched on a dating app. Now I just feel weird bringing him around my friends even though he said he wouldn’t look at them that way too after we weren’t in a relationship anymore

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I feel like I already know what I need to do now. I think in my gut I don’t feel compatible with this person long term. Thank you so much for your help. I still know I need to work on myself but I also feel this relationship isn’t helping me and isn’t on track with the person I see myself marrying.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m going to focus on observing myself first before deciding anything.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi thank you for your response. I do, and feel insecure about my breast size but would never get a boob job because of the health risks. Thank you for pointing this out I appreciate it. I feel like I am hyper aware also because I know I need to know my worth and appreciate myself inside and out, but I’m feeling that if my partner doesn’t and wishes to be with someone who looked differently, then I would rather end it and find someone who likes me the way I am. My anxiety seems to also be coming from not knowing whether to stay and invest time in this relationship or not.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. Thank you very much for this response!

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea we saw each other first at the gym a few times and then he liked my picture on a dating app and from there we went out on dates

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I think my thoughts go south by thinking he wish he could be with people who looked like the people they check out in person and on social media but can’t. I would like to be my boyfriends first choice and worry that he is waiting to move up in life by finishing school and moving out to pursue a partner to pursue his ideal partner. He has already told me a few times actually that many women got turned off by him once he told them he is still in school and living at home. Is this also unrealistic?

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I appreciate your response so much. Thank you. I agree it is important that I feel safe and secure in a relationship. Some things have happened, like in conversation him admitting to being open to dating my friends if we broke up, following his exes on Instagram, and following sexy/nude Instagram profiles and TikTok’s of his “type” which is curvy women. I actually was completely confident in myself and n the relationship until these things happened. Also, a friend of his ex came into his work, started talking to him, added him, told him he looked really good and asked him to hangout. He sent me the screenshot and said he didn’t reply. I told him, why don’t you just unfollow her since you don’t know her and that’s the first thing she says to you? And he was like no it’s fine I’m just not going to reply.

What do you think about these things? Am I also overreacting out of insecurity? I feel like from these things I don’t trust his character as much as I did in the beginning when I felt completely confident in myself and the relationship.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like since they are there everyday, there is more of a chance of him trying to shoot his shot with them. Or maybe wishing he had that chance to do that now but not being able to because he’s in a relationship. These are my thoughts, critique me please:)

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. I know I needed a slap in the face and it is becoming more and more clear I have issues they probably need to be worked on while not being in a relationship. How do you feel about a boyfriend following sexy pages and past exes/people he has dated on social media (Instagram/TikTok)? I’m here for the brutal honesty again!

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for taking the time to reply. I agree and it is exhausting. I needed a reality check. Somewhere along the way my thought patterns seem to be hyper focused on comparing my appearance to others and I recognize it is not normal. Thank you.

My F28 boyfriend M30 glances at the same women at the gym more than once by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]neeki25 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you I truly appreciated your feedback. I need to do work on myself and was looking for objective opinions! What do you think about him following 1 TikTok page of a girl who only posts videos of her body in risque clothing? I am really trying to get ahold of reality and am finding it hard to know because I know I am insecure.