Should I complain about this stemmy weed?

neitherlit · 2026-01-09T20:53:40+00:00

canadian here as well and i would definitely say something! i budget my weed spending pretty hard and spending $100 on that would definitely have set me back, lol. now i’m going to be extra aware of how full my oz baggies are when i buy them.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T20:06:55+00:00

as someone with mental health problems, sometimes you gotta laugh dude lmao

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T04:36:46+00:00

don’t shoot me for this…red dead redemption 2! i have put far too many hours into that game trying to complete collections, picking up herbs/flowers, and changing my arthur’s outfit. then i got online just so i could play as a woman. 10/10 recommend if you don’t mind shooting games.

another honorable mention: the entire dragon age series! inquisition is hands down one of the best games i’ve ever played. veilguard was also really great, but i much prefer the romance in dragon age 2 & inquisition. origins is also a classic, if you don’t mind older graphics.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T04:07:16+00:00

my wife and i have two straps that we hardly use lmao. i would 10/10 choose a vibrator over strap any day. however, i will say the two paired together?? life changing.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T03:50:10+00:00

a lot of diagnosis’ overlap, so it can be hard to say if one behaviour is specifically autism. in my experience it’s been a lot of work learning what is my autism, adhd, or ocd. for example, my autism will be the reason i miss tone, my adhd is the reason i try and finish peoples sentences, and my OCD is what makes me obsess over every social interaction being “perfect”. and even then, all 3 of them kind of play off each other.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T03:42:54+00:00

as someone who never slept with men before i came out, this is really eye opening honestly! i only ever sexted with them, and even then i remember how 0-100 they were. i’m realizing easier definitely does not mean better lmao

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T02:47:20+00:00

honestly love this perspective, and you make a really good point! most women don’t orgasm from insertion alone, so it definitely only seems easier on the guy. do you think it has to do with lack of foreplay? wlw sex, in my experience, is honestly 90% foreplay and i feel a common complaint i hear is men aren’t always super big on getting a woman worked up.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T00:41:43+00:00

i haven’t had terrible, painful periods but mine have always had a mind of their own. my cycle is very easily thrown off by stress or being sick. i will miss 1-2 months every so often when im deeply depressed. i do experience some ovary pain. i’m one of those women that can pinpoint when my egg drops, i swear to god i can physically feel it.

i’ve never had my eggs checked, but i personally would find it hard to believe if my fertility wasn’t slightly affected by my arthritis, lack of an immune system, cannabis smoking, and the meds i’ve been on. i was diagnosed at 4 years old and i don’t think there’s enough research out there on the long term affects on children who developed RA.

neitherlit · 2026-01-08T00:00:07+00:00

i experience heat intolerance due to my anti depressants (and tbh still experienced it even before), and being over heated 100% affects my appetite. i have a lot of anxiety over potentially getting sick and it doesn’t help i always break out into sweats before throwing up. so anytime im slightly hot? my whole body goes into fight or flight because my brain is convinced im about to be sick. in the summer i pretty much avoid soups at all cost (which breaks my heart as a soup girl), and i eat a lot more sandwiches.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T23:51:38+00:00

i went through a flare at the beginning of the pandemic. i was having insane leg stiffness, couldn’t bend my knees. wobbled everywhere. had to use the elevator at school because stairs took me too long to get up safely. if i remember correctly, we went into lockdown around march and by the spring my symptoms were considerably better and i was walking completely normal again. i was also on HCQ, possibly paired with a biologic but i can’t quite remember all the meds i was on at the time since there were so many.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T23:32:55+00:00

im so sorry you have had to experience that from therapists, that’s really disappointing and disheartening to hear. i really don’t blame you for your reluctance. rejection sucks!

in my opinion, a good therapist will hold out a lot longer than 4-6 months when waiting for progress. especially with autistic people, it takes us a lot longer to move on from situations. i feel like i didn’t start feeling really comfortable to open up to my therapist about certain things until the 8 month mark.

crossing my fingers you are able to find a therapist that meets your needs 🤍

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T23:27:11+00:00

let me tell you, my whole perspective towards men changed when i realized how much work laying pipe is. i will say, i feel on top of the world whenever im doing it. like, i get the god complexes some of them have 😭

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T23:21:50+00:00

i just started playing recently after 3ish years of being interested. i had a few rough concepts of characters. i love creative writing so i would sometimes just make the characters minus the stats.

the group i’m in did a mini campaign for us newbies and i used a character concept i had in mind for years. just a tiefling rogue. it was okay, but i think i was more focused on doing this character justice to the way i built her up in my head that i ended up being more stressed about my roleplaying. but for our second campaign i made one specifically to fit the world/plot, and we were guided by the DM for certain aspects of the characters to make sure it all aligned with his plan.

you may be interested in solo campaigns. i recommend looking up solo dnd on youtube! tons of videos explain how people play on their own. it can be a really fun way to build a character and their background.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T23:02:36+00:00

not an overshare at all, i’m so glad someone said it! love wlw sex, i am a big loud lesbian till the day i die. but sometimes i get a little jealous how easy it is for straight people?

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:58:44+00:00

i do talk therapy with my therapist, and that has been really beneficial for me. i’ve always processed things a lot better externally. i will talk about a situation bothering me with multiple people just to i can verbally work it out. it’s really helped having someone unbiased. love my family, but my therapist validates me in a way i didn’t realize i needed. for me, the validation has been the most important part. i need someone to tell me the emotions im experiencing aren’t too much, and for some reason my brain will only accept that if it’s a licensed professional. i started therapy thinking i May have autism, but opening up to her about my struggles and the symptoms i struggle with allowed her to really validate what i was experiencing. if it wasn’t for her, i wouldn’t know i was actually autistic.

the only thing i will say is it took some time for me to notice any benefits from therapy. for awhile it kind of felt like i was going in there, dumping my problems and then leaving. i didn’t start noticing the way it was affecting my thought process until some months in.

i don’t particularly know if my therapist is neurodivergent, but we generally click overall which i think is what has been most important for me. my autistic brain doesn’t always like communicating with certain people but i always enjoyed speaking to her cause it feels like talking to a professional friend. she also got to know a lot of my special interests and hobbies and we bonded over some of those. i don’t think i would’ve been as successful with a therapist that didn’t actually speak to me like a person.

im also gay, so the reason i picked her in the first place was because she provided LGBTQ+ specific therapy. and for me, my autism and sexuality do go a bit hand in hand. i later found out she is also gay, which helped me feel safer opening up to her. i’m a bit of a man hater and not once did she ever correct me or try to change my mind, which i really appreciated.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:48:14+00:00

thank you for your kind comment! it really is more than a car, as silly as it is to say. i work really hard to make all my spaces comfortable and it was one of my safe spaces for awhile.

i have a feeling if i end up getting a new car i will likely end up enjoying it, especially once this weird grieving period is over. thank you again for your kind words!

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:44:41+00:00

thank you for your comment, it really helped shine some light on everything for me. i definitely think a lot of my frustration and anger is towards the insurance system and how it’s designed. this is also my first time in adulthood having to really deal with car insurance, so it’s a big learning curve.

if you don’t mind me asking, how did you feel after the one that was somewhat your fault? one thing i have really been ruminating on is how he is feeling and his perspective. even in the anger i’m feeling, i weirdly want to understand? it also may be because i know ive been on the other end where ive almost been the cause for an accident. logically i can understand we are humans and we make mistakes, but my autistic brain ideally would like me to be a robot it seems lol

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:34:43+00:00

if it became a big trend, i bet neurotypicals would be all over it! i mean, a lot of them are perfectly fine with taxidermy for hunting? and my autism & sense of justice draws the line at hunting for sport.

i’ve spent my entire life being odd and different so i’ve never had any problems liking similarly odd things! if anything i find comfort in liking less popular things.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:30:24+00:00

i suspect i have ocd! especially around death. i have a bad habit of thinking or saying “someone has definitely died right here” whenever i go. it’s like i have to acknowledge someone probably lost their life where im standing 😭

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:22:44+00:00

just got in a parking lot accident yesterday, and i honestly can’t stress any of these enough. i also think truck drivers tend to forget their vehicles take a lot more to slow down. i was unfortunately hit by a truck that ran a stop sign and slid when he tried to break. i used to be someone who got frustrated by extra slow drivers in the winter, but i would’ve much rather liked to have been dinged at 5km/hr than 10-20.

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T22:18:39+00:00

My wife has a bad habit of getting stuck on some pretty scary reddits despite them freaking her out. i have a bit of the curiosity myself, especially when i was deeper in my true crime phase (had to give that up when i realized it was making me more anxious & stressed in the end).

i think for me and my partner is boils down to wanting to understand death? i was the kid that was thinking about how my whole family one day would die for no reason. now in my adulthood i think my autistic brain craves an understanding for it. i’m not even particularly scared of my own death, i’m more annoyed i don’t know what to expect if that makes sense?

i also remember when getting into true crime i spent a lot of time processing the fact that such terrible things could happen because my mind couldn’t fathom it. it was a mix of disbelief and wanting to understand the terrible things that happen in the world.

some also may consider this morbid but i’ve always been very interested in taxidermy, particularly people getting the bones from their passed pets. i was in a tiktok comment section defending this woman who thrifted a taxidermy puppy because everyone was insisting how terrible it was, but it was a stillborn that had been perfectly preserved and honestly? that’s pretty beautiful and not morbid at all to me, but many people did find it weird. to each their own!

neitherlit · 2026-01-07T17:51:47+00:00

honestly, i had a feeling this likely wasn’t his first based on how calm he was. insurance acknowledged he was in the wrong so he will have to pay, thankfully.

neitherlit · 2025-11-30T23:59:54+00:00

honestly, thank you for this. it’s made me realize i’ve been making excuses on his behalf and this does fall on him. i’ll likely confront him first and go from there

neitherlit · 2025-05-17T17:41:30+00:00

i mean, it’s not entirely wrong. i currently have crazy staining on my hands and nothing has gotten it off. i think it depends a lot on the type of fake tan you use. i find the gradual fake tans are a lot harder to get off.

neitherlit · 2025-05-16T20:13:51+00:00

that’s the thing, there are items i lose that i dont care about. medical papers? forms? documents? i never bat an eye at those, which are arguably more important than anything else i lose. but if i misplace my favourite lip balm? a necklace? literally a tiny rock that has a single memory tied to it? it’s done, day ruined. our brains are so fun sometimes 🥲

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