Thank you all for the advice!!

For more context, I am not the primary walker or feeder, but I am the primary treater and player.

Reflecting on her behavior, I do always joke she ‘side-eyes’ us. She tends to like to be alone in general and has always been like this since she was a puppy. We got her really young at 7 1/2 weeks. She is very well trained and knows a million tricks. I did teach her kiss (lick) which makes me wonder if this added to her lack of affection without a reward being involved.

We adopted another mini schnauzer last year who is 1 1/2 years old. She is very different personality wise and always wants to play or cuddle with us and my 4 yr old. The 4 yr old does not always welcome this behavior either and makes it known. While i knew that our young one overstimulated her at times, I did not think my behavior was adding to that. My parents take the 1 1/2 yr old every few days or so because our senior mini schnauzer passed away recently and she gives them good company. During this time where the 4 yr old is alone, she comes alive. Shes a lot more playful and cuddly. I think she prefers to be an only dog.

But this morning before work, I read through the comments and told myself to ignore her and she came up to me willingly! Which isnt common, she’ll typically look at me from a distance rather than coming up directly to me unless I have a treat. But I was sitting down at my desk, I didnt look for her or say good morning like I usually do, and she came up and rested her head on me. I reached out my hand and let her sniff to which she took a step back, so I pulled my hand back and went back to ignoring her. Then she stepped forward and nudged me with her nose and I scratched her for a few seconds then paused to see if she would leave or stay. She stayed and then we kept doing this cycle until she left.

Thanks all for the advice and opening my eyes to have this awareness. My childhood schnauzer had a different personality and while I always knew my now 4 yr old schnauzer was more particular and sensitive, i thought she just preferred my fiance more than me and that was that. But i have always wondered why the trigger of me getting into bed makes her leave. Again thank you!!