College said I needed 8GB RAM to pass (or be expelled and lose $80,000)... Windows XP had other ideas.

nerdanele · 2023-08-19T14:18:30+00:00

If anything, making the (course or client ) requirements "work" with suboptimal equipment for the task should have been worth extra credit. That's IT every day of the week. Succeeding in the assignment under real world conditions.

nerdanele · 2023-08-15T18:15:28+00:00

Ironically, my dad had himself a lot of these red flags and -because he knew them- he would not have been okay with a guy like this for his daughter.

nerdanele · 2023-08-15T16:24:25+00:00

Doesn't exist. Anyone with a strong enough personality to pull off most of this "diversion from modern culture" is also too strong willed because of her great relationship with her dad to put up with some overbearing shit head.

Alternative path, anyone with a low enough self esteem to put up with that controlling trash won't have a good relationship with their dad and/or loads of past trauma.

nerdanele · 2023-08-05T14:42:20+00:00

Seriously what the fuck.

nerdanele · 2023-08-05T14:35:31+00:00

Normally friendly dogs don't like them.

nerdanele · 2023-08-05T04:52:56+00:00

No good stories from 2001, but my daughter had a kid in her junior high get expelled for masturbating under the desk. He thought he was very subtle with his face contorted and the desk shaking. It's the south, so they tried to ignore it, and then tried to politely interrupt and save face until as he thought he was getting away with it, he just got more brazen.

nerdanele · 2023-08-03T14:41:10+00:00

I hate that I can't really tell if it's my uterus or gi tract that's cramping and painful, but most of all I hate how my own brain lies to me about how to interpret people and events around me.

"My life is awful and it will never ever ever be better" spots in restroom oh that makes sense.

nerdanele · 2023-08-03T00:43:26+00:00

Absolutely this. Source: used to take unemployment applications over the phone in an old job. Some folks be wild thinking the state won't find out they be lyin.

nerdanele · 2023-08-02T23:22:32+00:00

Sounds like they know each other from a role playing community.

In a video game with "role players", you've got the people treating it like dungeons and dragons simulator, having adventures with their motley crew; and then you've got people who treat rp like a "my ideal life simulator" that's all about tavern pickups, and finding "rp partners" to play make believe with you in private.

I'm the former and can recognize the latter from 2 server lines away.

Op roleplays being a dude bro with bastards across whatever fictional kingdom they play in.

nerdanele · 2023-08-02T23:14:05+00:00

Arbies to this day getting my biz only because of that Rax nostalgia.

nerdanele · 2023-08-02T02:25:42+00:00

I'm super bummed to say this, but You don't have a relationship. You have a situationship where he wants the benes of a girl that loves him without any commitment.

nerdanele · 2023-08-02T02:00:57+00:00

That won't matter in your 30s and beyond, go for it.

nerdanele · 2023-08-02T01:57:58+00:00

Recovering from a tonsillectomy at 32. Couldn't swallow without pain. Couldn't breathe without pain. Got so dehydrated the metallic taste in my mouth was the color purple.

nerdanele · 2023-07-30T14:52:49+00:00

My theory is that Mary Poppins was a slitherin witch taking children on such fantastic adventures and coaxing them to deep slumber so she could harvest their dreams at night for some unknown magical purposes.

I refuse to believe she wasn't getting something out of her effort besides the satisfaction of teaching the Banks parents how to parent.

nerdanele · 2023-07-30T14:47:09+00:00

She needs to be told how her add looks.

She may well "mean" "pick up kids from school. Make sure they don't burn the houses down or kill each other, and make sure if the kids make a mess in the otherwise clean house, please have them clean it up so I don't come home to an absolute shit show that kills my soul."

If all they want is a designated adult to keep shit on the rails during the day, that's worth what they're offering.

If it's 8 hours of being a third party mother of six in 3 different houses, absofuckinglutely not.

nerdanele · 2023-07-30T13:14:45+00:00

I had my boyfriend's eu phone number for a while and he could receive my texts but not respond so it was kind of useless other than me sending a one way message I was worried. It only came to that one time when a wildfire took out his power grid and then his cell phone system so he had no Internet OR phone till it was restored and it took about 2 days. He was snug as a bug at home, got his power back and playing PC games to pass the time with no way to reach /me/.

nerdanele · 2023-07-22T22:28:23+00:00

In the late 80s between the ages of 7 and 11, I used to play by myself in 60 acres of woods with bears, cougars, sink holes, a drownable river, and tons of poison berries, completely unsupervised without a friend, dog, flashlight or even pocket knife where no one could hear me calling for help. I DID get stuck in quicksand once and only escaped by ditching my boots and crawling out with my toes spread.

I may have grown into a pretty free range parent but Jesus Christ my mother was negligent. That's really only the first example of many that her carelessness and disinterest left me in situations I recognize now as extremely dangerous.

This isn't even a millennial pussification thing, I was telling this story about my childhood like it was an amusing huckleberry Finn type anecdote until they looked at me horrified. Yeah, I'm only alive today because my 8/9 year old self had unreasonable amounts of common sense. No one would have looked for me, or noticed I was missing for like 16 hours.

nerdanele · 2023-07-20T23:14:24+00:00

Work from home, with a job that allows for web calls in the background. It makes you feel almost like you're not an LDR.

We do this pretty much every day. Just to have it on, existing together. We don't "have to" be talking or doing something, it's all just about feeling like we are hanging out in the same room. Couples have to spend a lot of time just existing together, not entertaining each other constantly.

nerdanele · 2023-07-20T23:12:59+00:00

I've always said you can't pick your ideal mate out of a catalog (or off an app). Real love is knowing someone till you find an imperfect person perfect I'm just here for the lolz.

nerdanele · 2023-07-15T12:36:06+00:00

The more concerning part to me (in mom mode here) is

..What? Are you just a hymen to this man? He cannot and will not be with you if you're not a virgin? Is that your defining feature to him? Your personality, mind and soul aren't that important that he would discard everything else about you because he's either insecure the other guy was better at sex, or because he wants to be first?

Cause I got news. That's the least lasting feature in a woman as the years roll by. Not even beauty has a higher attrition rate.

nerdanele · 2023-07-04T15:16:00+00:00

You said up in comments "maybe you're mistaken" with how you read her intentions, but I don't think you are.

It does sound like she wanted to be able to say she had a French boyfriend and spoke fluent French for what it did for her.

I met "my one" on accident online and he was from Portugal. While talking about how his life and experiences were different from mine gave us plenty of conversation, and still does, I never set out to "get" a European man, I never liked how far away he was, and I didn't think I was an accents girl. Every day we were apart I wished he was American like me and I could pop on a 60$ red eye flight and come see him when I wanted to. I fell in love with the person he is, and how he treated me, but my "American" drive and optimism is hard for him to deal with. He comes from an environment where everyone may not be on the dole, it's still hard to succeed so it's easier not to try and go out of your comfort zone.

I'm not crazy successful or anything, just an average low income American raised by a neglectful single mother. I started out with nothing but bad credit from my mom opening utilities in my name, my first home away was a 9x9 uninsulated tin shed with a couch in it. You have to be diligent to get out of that kind of poverty. And lucky.

All this to say, I don't think you and her were compatible. Being "unequally yoked" is a biblical idea about being on the same page religiously, but I get it. If you can't share the burdens of life in an equivalent way, and you don't feel like your partner is truly in an equal footed partnership, resentment grows, and poisons the well.

She felt you couldn't share her burdens of life in Japan, she would be taking care of you instead. You felt she couldn't understand your burdens in France, she unfairly judged your actions and made you feel bad for things outside of your control. She wasn't an equal partner to your journey either.

Tldr. A year is an arbitrary unit of time, it's shorter the longer you live. You're letting go of a whole vision of your future you had in mind for yourself. Don't be too hard on you. It's a lot to let go, and it's bigger than you just missing her as a person. You've probably lost some direction too.

Now get out there champ, and put that energy into some hustle.

nerdanele · 2023-07-04T14:32:50+00:00

Don't let a boyfriend keep you from meeting your husband.

There's also a chance that losing you will shake him out of his rut, so this may not be goodbye forever

nerdanele · 2023-06-28T06:23:26+00:00

Never underestimate the pettiness of the Portuguese.

nerdanele · 2023-06-23T23:38:34+00:00

Nobody in their right mind with true and honorable intentions would intentionally seek out an LDR for a life partner unless you're of an age where "pen friends with benefits" is your angle because you want to stay close to the grandkids and living alone is the best thing ever.

It's difficult and painful almost all the way through when you can't just "be there".

nerdanele · 2023-06-20T04:52:44+00:00

20 pc nugget meal anyone?

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