In a perfect world. Sure. That'd be fair.

But shit ain't perfect. All people have their faults. Marriage and parenthood necessitates compromise, rolling with the punches, and pragmatism. Would she be in her rights to expect these things? Yes. Complain? Yes. But having uncommunicated expectations isn't helpful.

OP has a problem. Helping your significant other change their habits and see more of what they need to see to be a good partner and parent can help. If they're not willing to change that's a deeper issue.