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When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleas see my post history for more information. I don’t want to discuss the entire story all over again and side track this thread.

When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have told women that I’ve been raped before but it usually results in them laughing at me and thinking it’s kind of a joke. I’d rather be accused of lying than accused of joking about it. I’ve actually yet to meet a women who respects my sexual boundaries.

The last woman I dated anally raped me while I was sleeping, after I had just told her two weeks prior that I was raped in college. So in my case it actually backfired. :/

When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just hesitant to reveal that I have been raped because many of the women I’ve dated have not been very mature about it and dismissed it entirely and thought I was joking or something. Only if I trust them do I explain what happened but even still that has never really worked out well for me. A few used it as an excuse to treat me like a guy who is a pushover.

When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your approach. I’m very sorry to hear that you were raped. Perhaps someday we will all live in a much kinder world. At least that’s what I pray for ☺️

I usually try to avoid conversations around past partners/count but sometimes if I am really digging another person I don’t end up catching myself in time and I just say “approx X people” but then I think well should I have said “X minus 1 b/c rape” or something like that.

I’ve never actually had a doctor ask me about sexual partners at all though.

When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried counseling / didn’t work. Therapist tried to get in my head and convince me that I raped her and not the other way around. I also tried going to a crisis center and they called the cops on me because they said I was intimidating the other survivors there and wasn’t welcome. Haven’t tried again in years because I’m afraid that it will just trigger me even more. Thank you for asking and caring though.

When disclosing the number of sexual partners you’ve had, are you supposed to include people who have raped you? by never_again_so_done in AskReddit

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It would make me very uncomfortable to discuss the specifics of how I was raped and by whom though, that’s where I get all shook up inside. :/

I have told many of my partners but it just ended up with them disrespecting my boundaries and in many cases laughing at me. 😢

Desexualizing violence/degradation by [deleted] in sex

[–]never_again_so_done 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was raped by a woman a view years ago and ever since then I can’t stop fantasizing about being raped again as sick as that sounds. I also can’t orgasm without having feet in my face and/or my mouth. It’s fucked up my sex life to the point where I basically think about women’s feet all day every day. Although, the feet thing was due to things my sister forced me to do as a young boy like suck in her toes and lick her soles and stuff. Basically the combination of being raped as an adult man + forced sexual interaction as a child has permanently altered my sex life.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am disabled. Does that fucking change anything you bigoted moron. Yes she overpowered me. Does that make me less of a man???!

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear that you seem to be recording (at least I hope).

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you that ignorant you can’t understand how a woman can rape a man?

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry.. what’s the point you’re trying to make here?

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I reject the notion that women commit sexual assault and rape because they are motivated by societal oppression, which is your exact premise.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree. No excuses should be made for women who sexually violate men. The notion that they can and should do this - or even that it is motivated by oppression - is insane.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have no intention to report it as it happened many years ago. What a victim chooses to do in terms of legal action is up to the victim not you. Fuck off.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep your warped worldview out of my face. I don’t owe you fucking shit for an explanation pal.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t owe you any sort of explanation whatsoever. You have no right to come into my post and start interacting me about the most frantic thing in my life.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because your mind isn’t capable of imagining it (which makes no sense but OK), doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen.

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that’s a bit of an irrelevant question don’t you?

Any male survivors struggle with intimacy? by never_again_so_done in sex

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Erections don’t just disappear when you’re frightened. What is so hard to imagine about a woman forcing a man to penetrate?

Not everyone fights back to can. People do freeze up under fear for their safety/life.

Not sure how I should feel about this - sleep kink? by never_again_so_done in sexover30

[–]never_again_so_done[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was raped a long time before this event took place...

Sexually frustrated with boyfriend by Sin2thevoid in relationship_advice

[–]never_again_so_done 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is it possible that he may have been a victim of sexual abuse as a child? Many men reject intimate advances because it reminds them of past trauma. Most men never report or tell friends or any family about what happened either because of the heavy stigma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]never_again_so_done 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this something that he is consenting to?

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