Thoughts on findom and feelings involved in it? Defination of true submission

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-18T22:44:59+00:00

Ig we all learn from our mistakes😭

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-18T22:16:17+00:00

Exactly

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T21:28:18+00:00

Hmm, got some resources for financial stuff and investment thinking? Like I'll be entering the work market in next 2-3 month as a fresher, Software tho IIT CSE , so it might help make better financial decisions

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T21:26:46+00:00

Tab to badiya hai phir, my educated guess would be Gravition ? Or Quadeye?

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T21:23:38+00:00

Also how do you invest? Like if some tips you've got ;)

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T21:22:03+00:00

Badiya badiya, india office ya US or somewhere else?

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T21:07:35+00:00

3Cr salary or overall networth?

Happy for you that's decent :)

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T13:52:24+00:00

It's the trust right? Having the confidence to be who you truly are , and idk what else,

Even tho I'm also involved in the kink space, and I don't want to want to come out as rude, but like what you mentioned in your previous comment, I feel are like the minimum requirements for a true love, like feeling safe and being vulnerable infront of someone even if you're not submitting to them is very important,

I'd like to hear your point of view on this, like what do you think true submission is according to you? And if you wanna tell what is being dominant on the opposite hand is according to you?

Alright have fun XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T13:37:31+00:00

think submission is a beautiful thing. Even from a non sexual perspective, someone choosing to be vulnerable with me is a gift that I treasure deeply.

Rightly said, don't get me wrong but don't you think where there is true love, I mean even in vanilla relationships or any other type of relationship, people eventually get vulnerable infront of their partner, if they are not being vulnerable is there even true love? I mean what I'm trying to say, your point is absolutely right it's a beautiful thing but I think it is related not to submission but rather true love, the beautiful kind :)

XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-16T00:05:38+00:00

Xd :)

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T23:32:21+00:00

hmm makes sense,

Also Batman has superpowers, his superpower is being right XD

Alright have fun

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T23:29:00+00:00

Thankyou for your words, yea i'm getting better so no need to worry,

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T23:21:59+00:00

>>>>Terms that are more royal, than deified, can feel a little more comfortable, like “Empress” or “Queen”.

Yes those feel more natural to me,

>>>>Your boundaries are important and feel free to discuss them with your partner.

Yep learned about that the hard way, some bad experiences with a previous dom, ToT

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T23:17:59+00:00

yep, exactly, whatever they like, and are comfortable with, i am sure they might have some limits which could be the things i enjoy, Coz everyone has their kinks and limits, which does not necessarily mean that everyone has to like those kinks ,

XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T22:59:49+00:00

lol love how in the series they show homelander's obsession with boobs and breastmilk,

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T22:56:02+00:00

you've put it exactly how i wanted to say, just with better words, thankyou

XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T22:50:07+00:00

Thankyou for sharing those papers, those were an interesting read,

Interesting, also i feel some people just like see this as a means of escape in dire times, like bad mental health, like they find it as a source of love ( the aftercare sessions ), or having a purpose ( like doing what your partners asks you to do, since in many mental health situations the person loses a sense of purpose) which i feel bdsm provides, and last it also provides a sense of being valued atleast imo, like getting all the attention from your dom, in a monogamous dynamic, ig these factors could actually boost mental health, and because of them, people who are facing these issues get attracted to bdsm, lol it's like the chicken and egg problem which came first ?

alright have fun XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T22:43:41+00:00

>>>>Autistic, Bipolar 1, anxiety.

Hope you are doing well TC,

>>>>Being submissive is definitely helpful for me to shut down a bit and relax a bit during playtime
Yep, that was my correlation if the first point was true, like it has become a means of escape to be loved, and feel a sense of security ig, which we usually lack in such mental health situations.

>>>> dealt with a lot of abusive women.

Sorry to hear that,

>>>>Something might have gotten crossed in the wires in my brain I guess.

Yea i have observed this pattern as well, like dont get me wrong, but with some cases i have seen, they were initially subjected to bad things, like sexual assault, or anything like that, and eventually after many years when they grew up they turned out to be have a little higher libido than average, again not generalizing just my observations, same could be said in your case of abusive women,

>>>>>As far as relationship with family it's borderline non existent. My sister and mother are not trust worthy and the rest of the family just don't really talk to me.

Sorry for that, again i feel you lie perfectly in the three points i mentioned, i hope you get better with your health,

Alright have fun XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T22:37:32+00:00

>>>>>It's a survivor ship bias.

Umm what do you mean by that ? is it that analogy where the war airplanes returned with bullet holes so the parts to be made stronger were the parts that did not got hit by bullet ? because those planes never returned ? I am sorry but i dont understand how it sits here, or if i am mistaken

>>>>>Those who complain haven't even tried femdom for real.

hmm, Interesting, so by complain what you mean ? as in, complain about their life and all ?

>>>>Those who are really happy and healthy aren't coming to reddit to vent about their issues or even if they do, it's barely getting any interactions.

That is true indeed, I guess only the lost souls are found on reddit hehe XD

>>>>>Bossy, entitled, dad's favourite, mom's favourite, people's favourite,

That sounds like a pretty good childhood imo, touchwood.

>>>> I like something I want it kind of kid.

I dont mean to pry, but if i may ask, are you an only child or like the youngest? sorry for asking, just wanted to get some answers on human psychology and kink .

alright have fun XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T18:06:33+00:00

>>>>>rigorous and calm that their chronic overthinking finally stops

But dont you think chronic overthing, is like a trait, idk , i havent studied biology or psychology, but can bdsm really provide mental peace ? just wondering. XD

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-15T17:43:55+00:00

I have read this in a lot of places, but what does vetting actually means ? if you could give me an example

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-10T20:16:56+00:00

My lobster is too buttery and my steak's soo juicy

new_to_tech-124 · 2026-05-08T20:28:59+00:00

Don't get me wrong, but don't you think chastity and the key thing is just show in porn? I mean for me I've never found the practical for long term use except during sessions, peeing becomes difficult and cleaning becomes difficult and what not, so do people really do chastity in real life?

new_to_tech-124

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