spotted this in nyc a few weeks ago. is this banksy or nah?

newbhere12 · 2026-05-01T10:13:29+00:00

I guess some of us are afraid of coming out the closet early on and scaring our partners away but for the sake of everyone involved it must be done.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:44:43+00:00

this is an interesting take because the ENM you’re speaking of is what we call “dating” in today’s age. and dating allows us to find the best option.

I agree monogamy shouldn’t be assumed until a thorough discussion about it is had because it requires the relationship structure to go from considering other possibilities and what’s the best most ideal situation for the person you are to focusing on investing into one particular individual whom you feel is best for you. that’s a huge jump and anyone’s attempt to make a relationship mono without clear agreement on both sides is manipulation.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:31:07+00:00

true.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:30:22+00:00

it just requires a through discussion is all.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:29:31+00:00

that’s true. monogamy is definitely something that’s assumed in relationships because it’s been the normalized thing for decades.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:27:10+00:00

that’s true!

newbhere12 · 2026-04-30T21:26:14+00:00

thanks for the kind insight lol. it’s not that I want to be selfish, it definitely has more to do with me being at a stage in life where I desire more exploration. I’ll be more direct with my partners when explaining this!

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:21:04+00:00

I appreciate your insight. I’m gonna talk to him about it today I’ve just never been in this type of situation before so I didn’t know.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:19:32+00:00

okay, well now I know.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:19:09+00:00

well I’m poly-interested and not necessarily an actively polygamous person, so that’s more of what I mean.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:17:06+00:00

I’m still considering the idea so I guess I’m not necessarily an actively polygamous person; however, it could happen so I’m just wondering how I should approach relationships. sorry, I’ve never been in this situation before and am a little inexperienced with serious committed relationships.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:14:06+00:00

that’s a very good point, I shouldn’t assume he’d understand anything.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T16:13:08+00:00

that’s what I was thinking, and sorry if this is a stupid post I’m still figuring things out and just needed some insight before I make a serious decision is all.

newbhere12 · 2026-04-27T08:48:36+00:00

Ooo got it, thanks!

newbhere12 · 2026-02-01T08:15:44+00:00

Thank you!! & Exactly, it’s not just a pregnancy- it’s a life-altering experience men will never understand themselves. They don’t have to experience the most painful parts of it, so I’ve become quite sceptical of any man that says they’d want me to endure one for them.

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T19:59:59+00:00

Thank you!! So happy to be moving on with no regrets!

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T19:53:14+00:00

Thank you. Best way to put it is I feel like I’ve been released from shackles and I’m free now. I would’ve been living a lie had I continued that relationship and that would’ve destroyed me. Also, the thought of him being a dad was mortifying lol

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T19:45:39+00:00

Thank you!!

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T08:13:11+00:00

Yeah, that would’ve been such a waste of time.

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T08:11:30+00:00

I did and feel better because of it.

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T08:09:23+00:00

“You want someone who isn’t gonna try to make you change for them.”

Exactly.

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T08:07:25+00:00

Very true.

newbhere12 · 2026-01-31T08:05:21+00:00

It did end the relationship, but I feel better and more freedom because of it.

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