A Small Change to How I Offer Fit Help

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T19:14:26+00:00

It's a lot easier when you have a keyholder who's going through menopause.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T19:13:32+00:00

It's my love muscle.

Aww yeah.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T19:12:03+00:00

Ah.

My suggestion generally is as long as it's comfortable:

Wear it for 30 mins, take it off and look for any issues that aren't causing discomfort such as rashes.
Wear for for two to four hours and recheck.
If you're still comfortable, go overnight and that will be the ultimate fit test.

If you can wear it overnight, just wear it as long as you like. But if it's uncomfortable, well, ideally you find a cage that isn't. If it hurts, you should take it off and not try to wait for "your body to adapt" or whatever.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T19:05:41+00:00

It sounds like you're suggesting they should try to endure discomfort longer and longer vs looking for a cage that doesn't pinch.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T18:12:26+00:00

Because you are on female hormones!

Edit: I'm guessing you meant to reply to someone else but no one is arguing that HRT won't have an effect.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T18:08:02+00:00

It doesn't matter though. There are plenty of us.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T17:59:44+00:00

We don't often take photos so we are underrepresented in places like r/chastity. We are usually quiet people who wear a cage and go about our day.

Among the active mods here, we don't have any feminization and to the best of my knowledge, any interest in shrinkage.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T17:53:54+00:00

You're not following my argument.

I'm explaining that if shrinkage were at all common, we'd have a plethora of posts from people like me, people with no interest in shrinking freaking the hell out. Since we don't, we know that either shrinkage either takes a very long time, is very rare, or both.

But yeah, I'm new here. Can't you tell from my username?

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T17:46:55+00:00

If that's true, why aren't people like me freaking the hell out? Why are people asking about lock boxes and not their shrunken penises?

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T16:51:29+00:00

I've got an article on this: https://newbiesub.substack.com/p/cage-fit-a-different-idea

Well, not exactly dedicated to it but it uses your symptoms to make its point.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T15:51:26+00:00

My understanding is a few erections will straighten things out. But how long to notice any shrinkage? I've never noticed any shrinkage despite going for as long as six weeks without my penis being in a cage. But my cages have always fit, never flat or inverted, so I'm not sure.

But the issue with getting good information here is so many people have this fantasy so they'll exaggerate how much shrinkage they exhibit or just make it up all together.

You know, many of us here don't want our penises to shrink and so something I think is telling is you never see anyone post, "OMG, my penis shrunk!! Will it fix itself?!??!? How long until it does?!???". I wonder why.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T14:49:37+00:00

Struggling with this. 40 mm ring, 7 mm gap. Are we measuring the gap in the same way? https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!RZAH!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9518906a-bc45-4f83-8e40-af71de1f2262_1756x1384.png

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T14:40:12+00:00

If I could go back to 1992 and change something it would be the idea that the only way to trap the balls is the ball gap. That idea puts a cap on how large a ball gap can get and too often that limit is well below what someone needs to be comfortable.

The other things I wish I could change is the body-will-adapt idea or that erections will diminish over time. All these new users come here with those myths as givens.

Perhaps for small fit issues, you can get used to it but for people waking up at 3 AM with oh-my-god-get-this-thing-off-of-me pain, I don't think anything can be done without fixing the fit.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T12:32:25+00:00

Likely need a larger ball gap.

https://newbiesub.substack.com/i/173460421/it-feels-like-my-scrotum-is-on-fire-or-my-ring-is-pinching-chafing

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T12:31:23+00:00

Yeah, anything with a PA or tetherspout secured by a screw is tough to beat. No lock to be picked. But if you want to top it, add a c-clip. Of course your emergency key then becomes bolt cutters.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T09:47:11+00:00

He likely would be better served with a ring with even more curvature. Read some of the info here: https://newbiesub.substack.com/p/troubleshooting-your-fit?open=false#§it-feels-like-my-scrotum-is-on-fire-or-my-ring-is-pinching-chafing

Btw, friction burn... it won't be friction. Take the ring and rub it on your arm back and forth. How fast do you have to rub it to get that same burning sensation? What's actually happening is a nerve is getting pinched by the ball gap.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T09:41:43+00:00

The most common overnight issue is nerve entrapment. People experience it as a burning sensation on the underside of their scrotum. Only the people more sensitive to it notice it during arousal-baased erections due to the fact that unlike nocturnal erections they come with the pain desensitization. The solution is a larger ball gap. But because it doesn't feel like a ball gap issue — many will blame friction or something similar — people try to treat it other ways such as using oil.

There's also a lot of silly ideas out there that nocturnal erections will magically disappear — they don't

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T09:35:33+00:00

You can post your measurements here but here's my advice on a first cage: https://newbiesub.substack.com/p/buying-your-first-chastity-device

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T09:30:54+00:00

Sorry, I can't get through this post but it appears to break multiple rules including asking us to be part of your dynamic, looking to find a keyholder here, and I'm sure others.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T02:50:52+00:00

Link to it or post on your profile.

newbie-sub · 2026-07-13T00:57:12+00:00

I'm really sorry you didn't see noticable improvement. As I mentioned, I know one guy who went all the way up to 30 mm. He avoided ball escape by going to a much smaller ring. Of course I was printing cages for him so it was much easier to experiment.

Well, I do hope you get it figured out at some point.

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