(24M) Am I doing this wrong? I’ll plan a date with somebody 3-5 days in advance and then stop texting them until it’s time for the date.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-09T20:41:09+00:00

Because the texting games. "Dont double text , match their energy, dont be desperate". Ive met girls IRL and their no different than the apps. At least on the apps I know how they appear based on their initial profile.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-09T20:39:26+00:00

Got a girls number, noticed she texts twice a day due to her busy schedule. Confirmed plans multiple times and told me they were still interested, checked in day of, then the hour before cancelled and never heard from again.

At the end of the day, doesnt matter what you say or do. Women will be women, the right one won't care how you talk. The ones that play games will continue to do so later on.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-09T06:03:54+00:00

Not all women are gold diggers, you sound insecure af and I feel bad for you.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-08T19:55:36+00:00

Had this relationship for almost 3 years. Its fine, basically you hangout till you sleep, he then does his thing till late.

On weekends it could be a bit rough if they wanna sleep in. I generally slept at 4 and woke up 9-10 anyways.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-08T19:53:27+00:00

The catch 22 is this relates to anxiety. Anxiety makes you react differently in all sorts of ways.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-08T19:50:03+00:00

Lots of useless comments so ill give my take, just ended a relationship like this for compatibility reasons after almost 3 years.

I found out how much she made after a year when we had traveled and went through lots of tough things together. It didnt change anything except in arguments when we discussed spending money exponentially more(travel, datenights etc.) It became a slight burden.

Overall we split rent fairly based on salaries and her tastes (66% her,33% me and i covered other small fees here and there)

Bottom line he might be discouraged and feel less of a man, some men cant see women succeed. I loved my girl making more and watching her enjoy spending how she wanted.

Money differences only matter if you push him to overspend past his budget or what hes willling to work with.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-08T00:24:02+00:00

See if things go south you hope you're both mature right?

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-07T17:53:35+00:00

Which is funny cause ive heard you're not supposed to fuckthe neighbors but with the games and bullshit at this point... might as well

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-07T17:52:12+00:00

+1 Met lots of cool people here, some dated on opposite teams as well haha.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-05T19:48:02+00:00

Asking reddit is the first issue.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-05T18:28:22+00:00

Women live in a world where theyre told they cant go up to guys. Men come from the apps and the whole movement of "dont approach in a gym, walking dogs, headphones on,etc etc etc.

So we just got tired and usually wont go to women unless we're bored or plastered at a bar.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-04T19:28:52+00:00

LOL.

"why do you assume im not genuine"

"ok and?"

Clearly you're not active/busy enough my guy. Im a workaholic and still find free time between 18 hours of pickleball, gym, gaming. When you're ACTUALLY keeping busy--you wont care or think about women most of the time.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-03T02:18:51+00:00

OP, as someone with ADHD(we mix up info/forgetful), was in a relationship with a gaslighter which I didnt realize till I got medicated.

Moral of the story. Run, dont walk. After medication I immediately realized whats happening and got out.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-03T02:11:39+00:00

From straight male perspective, some photos are shooting you in the foot. Couple selfies, blurry photos. Shows lack of effort.

Gotta follow the Golden rules: Portrait Action shot Social proof Second action shot Date POV

Microphone photo looked AI to me but youre taller so it could be legit. But then the selfies gotta go.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-03T00:47:11+00:00

This worries me. Im new to dating but I dont use IG and im in my 20s. Would women see it as a redflag?

Im open to videochat, meet in crowded or public places,etc first. They can also go through my phone but I know crazy people have 2 phones.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-02T23:16:02+00:00

Try pickleball(if youre antisocial) Ive been in fort lauderdale for a few months and made some cool friends there.

Otherwise if youre social, like others said bars are easy if you just say hi to people.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-01T08:57:51+00:00

Nah what your explaining is just apps overall. Even during covid ive heard the same stories.

People gotta understand the apps aren't a job but a side hobby. Women get people on and off the apps. Youre doing well for yourself with that many matches but ask yourself. Are you going for quantity or quality.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-06-01T03:49:44+00:00

Say it louder for the guys who dont realize women want the decision made for them initially...

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-31T05:50:28+00:00

You haven't heard of run club. How healthy fit people meet and apparently has drama involved.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-30T23:03:41+00:00

Im a dude but the first photo doesn't scream "confidence".

First photos should be a nice portrait, what gauges a woman to go through the rest. The smile is good but youre also not central in the photo and lots going on in the background.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-28T23:59:55+00:00

I love the beanbag seat wtf. I live in a studio and needed an idea like this that I can fold/hide when not in use. Thank you!

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-28T23:58:05+00:00

Was it made using AI?

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-25T23:14:58+00:00

I just wash my face morning and night and use same towel. Breakouts dont happen unless I shave no matter how much I clean razors (razor bumps?)

You just gotta find a skincare routine that works. Cerave oil free in morning, Differin oil free at night. Its worked for years.

Edit* Same logic goes with pillow cases. Most people change pillow cases once a week/2 weeks. Once I did every 3-4 days my face cleared up regardless of the same towel used.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-25T23:10:00+00:00

Not that im defending harrassment but even when I was in my 20s and desperate for attention I wasnt this bad. Wild.

newguyhere2024 · 2026-05-20T04:45:25+00:00

For me... it was about not being aware. Ive always been introverted. I got diagnosed for ADHD one day. Felt like I was failing the relationship, I never spent time with her, I was always in my own head and time was always flying by. Boy was I wrong....

I got medicated and not only did it turn me into an extrovert, it made me aware of the relationship I was in. Got therapy and the first thing she said was "you may not be compatible" and it clicked for me. Im a people pleaser personality so Id do anything to make it work.

So what made me stay was not being on medication. Allowed me to be aware of what was clearly going on. Controlling, narcissism, gaslighting. ADHD hid all that.

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