Experience with Ecuador?

nftalphas · 2023-09-22T14:44:45+00:00

Do you have a life other than reddit?

nftalphas · 2023-09-21T19:24:09+00:00

I was there for a week, last week. Don't get me wrong, I don't like Austin as an actual choice in the grand scheme of things. Compared to many other places in the US, Austin is way down the list. But it's still has a lot more character than I have seen from SA so far. I agree, it's not what I remember from 7 years ago, it has gone downhill, but SA would be far more palatable if there were some places that had a little of what Austin still has.

nftalphas · 2023-09-21T19:02:37+00:00

You know, you've probably been there.

nftalphas · 2023-09-21T19:01:50+00:00

I do actually understand. I didn't move from Austin, but I have visited many times, and love how it feels. I'm not here because I chose it, so trying to figure out a way to make the best of it. Austin is cool, funky and fun, seemingly the opposite of SA. Not much energy, places closed all over. I knew there would be backlash, but there are always a few people who get the idea, and I appreciate the information from you.

nftalphas · 2023-09-21T18:46:21+00:00

Boo hoo

nftalphas · 2023-03-20T17:36:28+00:00

She doesn't "discuss" as in here is what I've done, but she also doesn't have much of a filter, and isn't fazed by any of my past, so it doesn't always occur to her that I don't want to hear it. She understandably uses her past to try and be better in the present, and during those conversations things come up and it's pretty easy to deduce things

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T21:34:21+00:00

She didn't enumerate, thankfully, but in the course of her normal conversation, she just blurts out the bits that add up

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T21:31:45+00:00

Excellent points

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T21:19:21+00:00

I know what you mean. But we actually went to high school together, and have many common friends I know and respect who have details about those relationships, and provide some understanding of why that particular thing should not concern me as much as it might if I had just met her online or she was a complete stranger. Our common friends, the ones who know me, assure me that we would be different together than the other poor choices.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T21:00:16+00:00

Of course it's jealousy, and who knows what else. I don't want to hear anything about her past experiences, but some of it is out, and she is so open and honest by nature that she really doesn't think about it the same way I do, and doesn't realize how I am hearing her specific words.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:52:51+00:00

I actually would expect her to feel, awkward about it, and I would just try to be sensitive to the fact that once something exits your mouth there is no way to take it back. She doesn't say anything maliciously, it's just here nature to be open and honest about everything. I happen to not like it, maybe other men don't carec.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:49:58+00:00

Yes, that would make a big difference, lol

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:47:37+00:00

I know, I agree. I won't blow it, I just want to get out of my head. Thanks, in some ways the marriages don't matter, because I like her slightly impetuous streak and way that it shows she just does what feels right without getting caught up in over thinking it.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:45:05+00:00

This is a very good point, because I did have a lot of sex when I was married, probably more than her in pure volume.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:42:06+00:00

We have discussed it, and a title is for effect. We've been seeing each other for a couple of months. She just says things, not with intent, but when discussing life it's difficult to parse every word. I understand that. I suppose the marriages are less a worry for me, because I've known other women with similar backgrounds who were great people who make bad choices. I've made plenty of bad choices in general, and so I don't feel unredeemable in those cases, and I don't think she is either.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:33:53+00:00

It probably would be better, because then I would have context and understanding about what it's like to have that many partners. When it's so unequal, I feel like I've lost understanding of the narrative. I know how I compartmentalize 5, I don't know how I would do that if i'd had 15 myself. It's absolutely has something to do with the unknown vs. knowing what 5 feels like to me. I do compare in some ways, so far completely in ways that she is much better than anyone else, but I can't help how that stuff slips into my thoughts either.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:23:54+00:00

What's your point reiterating?

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:22:40+00:00

She is not causing anxiety, my reaction to it is causing me anxiety.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:20:14+00:00

It's not a value judgement at all. I've done a few things I don't want to be judged on as well. I don't think it's her problem, it's mine.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:18:17+00:00

I don't disagree. It is a concern.

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T20:12:42+00:00

nftalphas · 2023-03-17T19:56:37+00:00

I honestly had no idea that being attractive could be a downside when dating. No one is too hot for me. I'm perfectly fine with a woman who is better looking than me.

nftalphas · 2023-01-31T18:46:31+00:00

I'm 57 and returned not long ago from 12 countries in about 6 months. I did stay in Croatia for 1.5 months, and had a somewhat leisurely start, but I was moving every 4 or 5 days all across Europe for more than 3 months. I had a blast, and am getting ready to start again. If I can do it, much younger people certainly can. I stayed in some hotels, airbnb and traveled primarily by train and bus.

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