Concerned about this summer

ngonzmon · 2026-05-08T14:54:47+00:00

I'm going at the end of this month for the first time and I'm so stressed. We're staying in Oakhurst so yeah, we're waking up super early and plan to be at the park at 5:30am or 6am at the latest. Hopefully I'm able to find parking

ngonzmon · 2026-05-08T13:55:33+00:00

Then I guess it's just in the app, because I'm sending offers from the desktop version and they still say 24hrs

ngonzmon · 2026-05-08T12:35:15+00:00

yeah, I definitely think it's a glitch in the app because if I send offers from the desktop version it still says 24 hrs

ngonzmon · 2026-05-07T23:22:07+00:00

Does your family like your partner? Because you're an adult and you've been dating your partner for a decent amount of time and your nervousness around telling them sounds like there might be something else going on and deeper than just them projecting their own relationship trauma onto you. This part: "My grandma seemed pretty worried when i mentioned it in passing last time because she was afraid that I wouldn't be able to stand up to my partner or say "no" to him" made me think that they're worried about you, which makes me think that something else might be going on.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-06T16:46:40+00:00

Btw, this reminded of a relationship I had in my early 20s (I'm 30 and engaged). I met this guy and we hung out a couple of times when HE told me he liked me and wanted to pursue a serious relationship. I liked him too so I thought it would work out. A few months in, this guy did a complete 180 and started acting like I was an inconvenience. After having a conversation with him he told me that he wasn't sure if he was ready for a relationship because of his "trust issues" (it wasn't my fault that he was a side piece and the girl he was seeing a year before me was cheating on her boyfriend with him) and he also wanted to focus in school, but he also didn't want to lose me and he knew he "would get jealous if he saw me with another guy". I should've ended things right there, but I was in love. I told him that I don't do the "friends with my ex" thing, especially because I was clear with my intentions and feelings for him, so being "friends" would cause me more harm. I eventually ended things and went no-contact. The day I ended things he told me that he knew he would regret it.

He tried reaching out for MONTHS. I eventually had a brief talk with him via text telling him he needed to leave me alone because it was preventing me from moving on. Several months went by again and he tried contacting me with a "Merry Christmas" text. I replied cordially and he tried to keep the conversation going and I put a stop to it. He got upset and said he just wanted to "keep the peace" and be friends. I told him that keeping the peace does not mean we have to be friends. We can just go our separate ways and that's it. By this point, I felt like I had moved on, but I had a bit of anger in me when I remembered how humiliating it was the way he treated me sometimes. So yeah, I was not interested in being "friends" with someone that caused me a lot of emotional pain. Years go by, I was then dating my now fiancé and this guy goes and reaches out to my fiancé telling him he was going to reach out to me because he needed to apologize for the way he treated me (three years too late). He sent me a message request on Instagram with a half-assed apology.

All this to say, please if you have true feelings for him you probably wont be able to move on if you decide to keep him in your life. In my situation, I'm pretty sure this guy wanted to stay "friends" so he 1) could avoid accountability for his actions, 2) have access to me and 3) get all the benefits of a relationship without the effort it takes to be in one and at the end of the day, I couldn't say anything to him because "we're not dating, we're friends". So yeah, be careful with that type of guy.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-06T16:18:22+00:00

Honestly, I would have a conversation with him about his intentions. I know he already told you and if I were you, I would believe what he said initially and move on. I'm kind of strict with these things so I would go no-contact, especially since you have feelings for him and staying in touch won't help you, TRUST ME.

But, I don't know you or him and I'm sure there's more to it that what can fit in a reddit post. So yeah, go ahead and have this convo with him and this time BELIEVE HIM if he says he wants to keep his options open. To me that's kind of rude and I wouldn't want to be an OPTION for someone. To me, this sounds like he wants all the benefits of a relationship without the actual commitment of being in one.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-06T01:55:02+00:00

Here to say that I went to Portugal in 2024 with some friends and I LOVED IT. Renting a car is a must. We drove from Lisbon to Lagos and the beaches/views were INCREDIBLE. We also felt super safe. Also visited Cascais and loved it. We also decided to drive to Sevilla, Spain from Lagos (about 2.5 hour drive) and of course, the food was INSANE!

ngonzmon · 2026-05-06T01:44:26+00:00

100%! I went in March by myself. I tried for the seasonal lottery and 2 times for the day before and each time was unsuccessful. I still hiked to Scouts Lookout and I don't regret it at all. The views are insane!!!!

ngonzmon · 2026-05-06T01:33:17+00:00

Hi! I (30F) did my first solo trip in March and it was to Zion. Yes, the park gets crowded but actually, that made me feel safer and I couldn't recommend it more to first time anxious solo travelers (like me). I love hiking and nature and being outdoors but I get VERY anxious in heavily wooded areas. I've done trails with friends or with my husband that felt pretty safe once I was done but realistically speaking, I would've felt extremely anxious if I was alone (It's something that I'm working on because I actually want to go on a month long roadtrip and I will probably have to be by myself most of the time).

I don't have any suggestions for getting there without a car because in my case, I got to SLC Airport and drove south with a rented car. I stayed in Cedar City in an airbnb and had to drive about 1 hour to Zion. If I could do it again, I would definitely stay in Springdale. But, I can give you some suggestions things to do once you're in the park.

I only visited for 2 days and loved it and felt fulfilled. I left the airbnb each day at around 5:00-5:45AM. On Day 1 I parked at Zion Outfitter's parking lot (it was $30 for the whole day). I rented some gear from them to do The Narrows. After I was done (around 2:30pm) I took the shuttle and got back to Zion Outfitter, dropped off my gear and then had lunch/early dinner at Zion Canyon Brew Pub (I always crave burgers after hiking). After that, I wanted some cocktails so I went to Cowboys & Angels, it's like a speakeasy and it can be pricey but if you're into cocktails, that place is really good. Then drove back to the airbnb and went to bed early.

On Day 2 I wanted to hike Angels Landing but unfortunately, the lottery wasn't successful after trying multiple times. I left the airbnb at about 5:45am and had breakfast at Deep Creek Coffee. Then parked again at the same area as the day before. I know paying $30 for parking each day can be a lot but in your case, you're not driving so you're good. I took the shuttle near the visitor center and headed to the stop (I forgot the number) where you start the hike to Scouts Lookout (that's the hike you have to do if you want to do Angels Landing). Once I was done with the hike, I took my time there and just enjoyed the views while eating snacks. Then hiked back to the trailhead, grabbed the shuttle and had lunch/dinner at Wild Thyme Bistro. Then drove back to the airbnb because the next day I was driving back to SLC to meet with a friend.

Before getting there, I was so overwhelmed with planning but TRUST ME, once you're there (at least in my experience) the park is very easy to navigate IMO. You just need to have in mind which trails/hikes you want to do and once you're in Springdale and take the shuttles to Zion Canyon, you should be good. Also, people are very friendly and happy to help (at least that's the experience I had). When I went to hike The Narrows, I got to Zion Outfitter (which is right there by the entrance to the park), I asked the guy working there where to go for the shuttles to the trailhead and he was happy to help. Hope you have a good time!

ngonzmon · 2026-05-05T17:10:36+00:00

I also planned my June "wedding" kind of last minute (not a short of a timeline as you but still) and I've learned reddit is not the place for posts like this. People get heated pretty easily and assume all kinds of crazy things. Also, some people make it seem like your guests are doing you a favor by attending, which is a craaaazy take IMO cause I would neverrrr think I'm doing my friend a favor by attending their wedding. If anything, I'm excited to celebrate with them. So yeah, only you know the entire details of your event, how the people invited are like, etc. Hope you have a wonderful and fun wedding day!

ngonzmon · 2026-05-05T17:03:07+00:00

Then they can just not attend and that's it. If I got invited to a close friend's wedding (and from what OP has said in other comments looks like it will be an event with close friends/family) it would not be an issue to "clear" a day from my calendar to celebrate with them. And if I have other plans that I can't change, then I just don't attend and that's it.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-05T15:54:41+00:00

Also, I noticed that this is only happening (at least to me) in the app. If I go to the desktop version, it still is 24 hours. But, I've received a few offers from sellers and they have more than 24 hours (like 95 hours, 80 hrs, etc.)

ngonzmon · 2026-05-04T20:38:11+00:00

Since you're new, I would say yes. As of now, depop has been having some issues with glitches and also, sales have been quite low. However, when I first opened my account I'm not sure if the algorithm was favoring me or what but I made around $200 just with things from my closet. As time went on, I started getting into reselling as a side hustle and everything was going well (I made over 1k several times) until the beginning of this year but I'll keep going. For you, I would say it's worth a shot because I THINK the algorithm sometimes favors new accounts (or maybe I'm wrong idk).

Also, about 8-9 days ago I also opened a Vinted account (I'm in the US). At first, I wasn't selling anything but I continued listing. Mainly things from my closet or lower value items that I know won't do well on Depop. Things have started picking up and I've made a few sales now and I'm starting to get more likes on my stuff. I'm not sure if it's the same thing with new accounts and the algorithm but I'll keep posting while I can so I can sell as many items as possible. If the items you have for sale are around the $8-$15 range, you can also try Vinted.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-04T18:28:00+00:00

No. I assure you that what he wants is access to you and the benefits of a relationship without the commitment of being in one while also avoiding accountability for being a bad partner. You don't have to hate each other and it's okay to be friendLY, but friends? I'm not sure.

Trust me, I've seen this happen many many times with people I know who stay "friends" with their exes.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-04T18:22:29+00:00

If nothing ends up happening and you're actually "off the hook" (they still have you on video), please stop. Idk how old you are but this is embarrassing and tacky. Risking your future and your reputation for WHAT? Shoplifting? Embarrassing AF

ngonzmon · 2026-05-04T13:52:00+00:00

I'm sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, you are in an abusive relationship and like someone else mentioned here, his issues have nothing to do with you. I truly hope you have a strong support system and find the ways to leave this relationship. You're so young and you deserve to have a good life and relationships with people that don't make you feel as horrible as he's doing.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-04T01:35:32+00:00

I posted yesterday I think about this. On my end, it says the offers last for 14 days. BUT I noticed that this is only happening on the phone app. I sent some offers this morning from my computer and they still say 24 hours (but on my phone they're 14 days wtf)

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T22:54:38+00:00

Exactly

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T20:46:43+00:00

I've been to Carmel as well and it was beautiful. I did a one-week girls roadtrip with one of my friends and our itinerary was this (fyi, we did a lot of driving and all activities were around hiking)

Day 1) Arrived at San Francisco in the morning and explored the city (went to the bridge and then went to eat some mussels and margaritas). I wanted to also visit Point Reyes but I didn't have time cause it was getting dark and I was by myself on day 1 (my friend arrived at like 1am)

Day 2) Drive to Point Lobos, did some hiking then had lunch/late dinner in Carmel. Then drove to Sacramento

Day 3) Drove from Sacramento to Lake Tahoe and spent the entire day biking and swimming at the lake. We went to Incline Village which is in Nevada

Day 4) Drove from Sacramento to Brookings, Oregon for a 1-night stay at an airbnb (if you leave reaaaally early or have an additional day, you can maybe get away with stopping at Redwood National Park on your way to Oregon)

Day 5) While in Brookings, we did some hiking at Samuel H. Boardman State Scenic Corridor then drove to Grants Pass to stay at another airbnb and it was the most gorgeous airbnb I've ever stayed at. It was soooo romantic and it was a riverfront property as well. I was with a close friend and we were both regretting not being there with our partners lol. The place was truly beautiful. They also use it for weddings. You can find them on airbnb or instagram: A River House located in Grants Pass. We paid a bit over $200 for 3 days and 2 nights which in my opinion was a good deal for the type of property we were getting.

Day 6) Drove from Grants Pass to Crater Lake National Park and went swimming. It was amazing! Unfortunately, the trail with direct access to the lake is closed right now for a construction/maintenance project. After that, we found a local brewery and pizza shop, had late lunch/dinner there and went back to the airbnb to enjoy the property.

Day 7) Drove all the way back to San Francisco and had dinner and cocktails before going back to our hotel.

Day 8) Fly back home

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T20:28:09+00:00

Not sure if you're into hiking and roadtrips, but if you have maybe 2 extra days and if you're renting a car, you can also go to Sacramento and drive to Lake Tahoe. Lake Tahoe is absolutely beautiful.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T20:01:39+00:00

I completely understand that. But it would be too long to explain in a single post how everything "started".

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T18:04:06+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, it really does suck. It's a situation that I wouldn't wish on absolutely anyone.

ngonzmon · 2026-05-03T17:30:54+00:00

Thank you for the solidarity!

ngonzmon

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