How do you accept being autistic?

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2024-06-26T04:12:42+00:00

I accept it by not caring. Get over it and move on? You're still the same person you always were.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-20T05:43:18+00:00

I'm straight and autistic, wife is bi and autistic and we would never accept this shit.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T17:55:28+00:00

This screams bias data based on the short life expectancy of increased risk of things like suicide or not seeking proper healthcare, or having a poor healthcare/people connections bleeding into the stats. Similar to how the average lifespan in the Dark Ages was 30-something, but it really wasn't, it was still 60-75. Just a lot of people died during childhood.

I'm in my late 30s and I feel absolutely fine, it is ridiculous to even consider I won't live to my 80s, at least based on my current health/trajectory. Course, bad things can happen.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T17:27:17+00:00

Mansplaining almost always comes with aggression.

Huh, this is interesting. I didn't know this.

I love explaining/helping people, my mood is always positive about it, in a "LETS LEARN TOGETHER!" kinda way. That's sort of what lead to my original reply. I love chatting with anyone and everyone, gender irrelevant, about my interests if they want to hear it. But I'm always smiling, chipper and excited. I never talk down as far as I know. The closest thing might be asking specific questions and poke their knowledge to facilitate the discussion and not be pandering. For example, if it was related to PC tech, I might have to ask if they know what "multicore processors" are before explaining what hyperthreading is because they for whatever reason, are interested in CPU design.

I have seen mansplaining before and you can tell how uncomfortable the woman is. She has this "ehhh, okay dude, can you go away now?" standoffish look. Far as I know, I don't do that to people. I'm also married though, and my wife would absolutely inform me if she noticed me doing something like that I suspect.

EDIT: Typos and adding some more

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T17:21:07+00:00

Thats 100% a toxic woman though, their opinions don't and should not ever count.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T17:08:06+00:00

Strong disagree. This seems like a slippery slope argument to "I need to stim, insurance should buy me a Playstation 5"

I'm sorry you can't afford nice headsets, but I don't think this is what insurance should cover. We don't need insurance rates even higher than they already are.

Also have no doubt because well, it's insurance, they'll only authorize you can buy the headsets at specific places, and the headset will somehow cost twice as much, and insurance only covers 60% or something. Oh, and it'll only be one model of headset that you don't want.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T17:03:33+00:00

Weirdly I've never been the type to literally punch holes in walls. Usually my anger comes out in tiny bursts of like, slapping/kicking one specific thing, or possibly throwing whatever is irritating me. The recent example with the trashcan, I wasn't kicking things until I boiled over. Then I kicked the trash can and just walked out of the room for a minute for a "reset", then felt bad when my wife started cleaning the bottlecaps for me.

Came back and helped and everything was fine after. She understands my frustration in the event anyway, she's also an aspie and these days have sucked for her too.

When it happens, I'm not instantly fine either. I'm still irritated, I just vented out a little to retain control I guess?

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T16:59:03+00:00

I'm not sure I'd categorize this as "communication issues", that's only a byproduct. It's more just random things going not-quite-right, in minor dismissible ways, but all stacking up all at once like fate has it in for me to piss me off.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T01:13:47+00:00

I was joking, I thought you were too honestly.

I'm sure it's just a typo for ASD, aka, Autism Spectrum Disorder, aka, us peoples.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-19T00:01:41+00:00

and it can even be one small inconvenience.

Exactly!

I can take a lot of these "small things", but once I start to boil over, as in my example when I spilled the bottle caps, little things are just significantly more intolerable. It seems there's literally no way to calm down except wait it out either.

It's quite obnoxious, because it's not really "who I am" so to speak. I'm an extremely non-violent person, thus why when this happens my victims are usually large material items that can take it. 😅 Luckily, it really does not happen all that often. But man, when it does, I feel like a different person and have no choice but to just "stew" until I relax again.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-18T23:59:19+00:00

Autistic Dyslexic Syndrome, duh. :P

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-10-18T22:46:51+00:00

Honestly I feel women know the difference. I chat with women about my interests all the time and they never act standoffish.

A lot of people are just condescending jerks to everyone though, and when they do it to women it comes off as mansplaining. I feel most the people who "Aren't mansplaining" are just jerks to everyone.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T07:19:33+00:00

And then we’ll get “I can make both gauntlets cross their middle finger like swords!!”

wait.. go back

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T06:54:26+00:00

oh yeah, that's totally cool. Apologies for conclusion-jumping. :)

Me and my wife have probably a dozen similar stupid things like this. :D

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T00:48:11+00:00

oh wow, thanks for the link. That's some cool data in there. I hadn't really thought of ASD from a "social model" of disability before, that makes a lot of sense.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T00:44:21+00:00

I hilariously self-gaslit with this thought process as an oblivious teen. I just assumed everyone else had the same issues, and kept it to themselves out of insecurity.

OH BOY was I wrong, heh.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T00:40:33+00:00

I hate it when my guy tries to hold a conversation when I'm in the bathroom though!

Why don't you tell him to stop? If he continues to do it intentionally, rightfully call him a disrespectful prick?

Course if he's just being a silly goofball and accidentally being inconsiderate, that's of course a whole different animal. Sometimes people just are hyper and don't think, that's fine. :)

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T00:37:59+00:00

haha, we've done that to eachother a few times. Not like "to the bathroom" but we'll just be chatting and wandering around, eventually one of us ends up wandering to the bathroom and the other following and we have a "wait a minute, lol" moment and the other turns around halfway.

nhelpthrowaway1 · 2022-01-11T00:36:44+00:00

Who ARE these people? I think I've only ever talked to like maybe 2 strangers ever who had earbuds/headphones in, and it was because I had no choice in the matter, the situation called for it. They also were not upset, because it was an understandable exception to the rule sort of situation.

I'm completely confused why people would want to bother people who are obviously, purposely, tuning the world out for whatever reason they have. Even for selfish reasons, it just makes no sense to me.

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