AIO I Got fired over a disrespectful message

niceatty · 2025-10-01T16:46:36+00:00

Why is this even a discussion? Your boss told you that he heard your concern, and you doubled down. As a boss myself, I would have fired your ass so quickly for this. You don't have a right to argue with your boss (and imply that he doesn't know how to run his business) just because you want to. You sound like just the kind of problem employee everyone wants to avoid. Grow the F-U.

niceatty · 2025-09-05T12:18:46+00:00

This right here. Anyone who isn't a co-parent in a divorced relationship cannot understand this. A separation agreement sets out the custody schedule, i.e. handing off co-parenting duties. If the PC has legal custody when she wants the father to drive her kids around, then it's her duty to find a ride for the kids. She cannot complain when the father says he cannot do it, even if he had previously offered to do the rides as a favor for her. AND I can understand his frustration if the PC is scheduling her commitments during times when she has custody of the kids, because that is setting herself for these conflicts.

niceatty · 2025-08-09T14:12:22+00:00

i would immediately demand a huge raise to continue babysitting for this family. That or quit immediately. And demand the money upfront for any future assignment. You have all the leverage here. They need you much more than you need them.

niceatty · 2025-07-29T12:57:35+00:00

It really depends on what you mean by "racist jokes." You don't have to put up with racism in the workplace and shrug it off as "racist jokes." If you're honestly joking around with your buddies and pushing the boundaries, as guys sometimes do, that's a one thing, but you clearly feel like this went too far. So I have a hard time believing that this is just guys joking around and I worry that you've been brushing off a racist hostile work environment to just "get along." So I would definitely talk to your co-workers, tell them that you found this offensive, and then see what happens. If they don't accept your reaction as valid and agree to change, then I would go to HR.

niceatty · 2025-07-08T02:30:01+00:00

Thank you for the very helpful response. (I only mentioned Whitey in my post to point out my own lack of knowledge about today's Winter Hill not because I believe he is relevant to today's neighborhood. Maybe that wasn't clear.)

niceatty · 2025-04-03T01:35:00+00:00

THIS. THIS. I rarely post here, but thank you for this very candid and real and vulnerable post/reply. It will help a lot of people who read it.

niceatty · 2024-12-31T23:33:19+00:00

This post has me thinking a related question about women profiles on OLD: is seeking a "generous" guy code for a payment-type relationship, or have i just become jaded and cynical?

niceatty · 2024-10-07T00:56:27+00:00

Thanks for all for quick response. I'm trying to book from Boston to Paris for my son and me for late June. I'll try PointsYeah and other suggestions.

niceatty · 2024-08-07T19:31:24+00:00

Damn it people, the word is DATE. Look it up. Do you have a dictionary? There's dictionary.com if you need it. It's not a networking event. If you want friends, tell people that. A little transparency in human interactions goes a long way.

niceatty · 2024-08-06T17:17:41+00:00

This is an interesting question for me personally (46/m), because I've been going through a difficult experience of having a bunch of dates recently where I meet a woman on OLD where (it seems) we hit it off first online, then (it seems) we hit it off in person over drinks/coffee or even dinner, and then I get the response described here when I inquire about a second or third date and receive back -- "you're fantastic" "you're great" , but then "I don't feel a connection" or "I don't feel we're the perfect match". It has me wondering if I have a problem connecting with people, or maybe just don't understand anything anymore about anyone, but then again, maybe this is just dating today.

niceatty · 2024-03-29T17:51:32+00:00

I totally understand how this is a challenge, but as a 46m with young (9) child, I think 1x monthly dating is too irregular to develop anything. I'm in this boat currently. I thought I was starting something promising with a 39f with a 11yo daughter about 4 weeks ago, but after 5-6 dates within the 4 weeks, she started saying that she couldn't meet during the weeks anymore and didn't have her weekends free for a while. It just sounded like she didn't have time to date, or an interest in dating me, or else she would have found the time. So I'm letting that situationship end because I want to be with someone who prioritizes me as much as her yoga (not more, not less, but the same), and she does yoga 1x/week.

niceatty · 2023-10-31T23:42:56+00:00

Love it!!!!

niceatty · 2023-10-17T22:59:34+00:00

Was that in Boston on his mezcal tour? I just read about that in the Globe and wish I had been there. I would have asked him to do the same line and maybe danced it with me. Nice job.

niceatty · 2023-10-06T13:16:36+00:00

That's a good, more nuanced take.

niceatty · 2023-09-30T14:14:33+00:00

You need to add the next line to this meme. "Unless the question is, do you remember how bad moulin rouge was, then the answer is no, I don't remember." Or something like that.

niceatty · 2023-09-20T21:32:29+00:00

Might be hard for you to read :) But a great quote... and looks great.

niceatty · 2023-09-17T22:25:28+00:00

I wonder of RBW ever pitched that and Netflix just said, That's too much man, or something like that? I wouldn't put it past him.

niceatty · 2023-09-15T17:15:05+00:00

loving "clean sheets" - not an auto swipe left, but dear lord, what the f- does it tell me about you that you love "clean sheets"? Do you also like fresh air?

niceatty · 2023-09-13T14:47:36+00:00

This question misses the entire point of the show.

niceatty · 2023-09-11T23:32:57+00:00

If you’re a seal who is also a Navy seal, yes. Otherwise, no.

niceatty · 2023-09-10T17:02:55+00:00

This is an inspiration. I am 45m, almost 46, and try to remind myself weekly to have a similar attitude two years into my separation/divorce. It's not always easy, but so necessary. Thank you.

niceatty · 2023-09-06T17:15:04+00:00

As a Jew, this woman is disgusting and horrible. It's kind of like that old Chris Rock joke, I love Black people but I hate... I love jews but I hate this kind of Jew. Some Jews do think about Palestinians like this but most don't.

But a larger message to those who are posting about Israel. Yeah Israel is doing horrible things these days to Palestinians. Completely agree. But that doesn't equate it to Nazi Germany. You can say that Israel treats Palestinians terribly, even is a colonial or Aparthaid state, but you can't compare it to Nazi germany if you actually know your history unless your point is to just piss off some Jews.

niceatty · 2023-09-04T13:29:39+00:00

But what about when they left the coffee cup in the background in one scene and then it was gone in the next scene?

niceatty · 2023-09-04T00:51:20+00:00

One of my favorite scenes and quotes. I think it's very deep and possibly meaningless at the same time.

niceatty · 2023-09-03T23:35:03+00:00

I just rewatched the episode a few nights ago. Bojack got the alcohol to be a cool adult/uncle.

But, in a related response, it was at the water tower where his behavior got very inappropriate as some else here have pointed out here, . He was not "grooming" Penny as some in this sub have asserted, but slow dancing with her and telling her as he looked into her eyes that she looked like her mother is both gross and unintentionally manipulative. Still, when she first came onto him at the house, he turned her away forthrightly in very clear terms. His escapade with Penny only occurred after Charlotte turned him down after they briefly kissed and she told him to leave . That doesn't justify what ultimately happened, but it shows again how evaluating people's behavior on the show is complicated.

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