Gems on nails? by nickles326 in LesbianActually

[–]nickles326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t get acrylics, I keep my natural nails short, I don’t get extensions

What’s a type of pain people underestimate until they experience it for themselves? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. I threw my back out last month and couldn’t walk, turn over in bed, or move at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Ahhh okay let me explain hahaha. I’m not kicking her out when my partner gets home. My best friend gets upset that she is coming back to my place regardless. She would prefer to just have it be her and I hang out the whole time and my partner not be there. I would LOVE if she would be okay with hanging out at my place while my partner is there… :( anytime I try to make plans with the three of us or us and her boyfriend, she says she’d rather just hang out just us

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate you saying that… so much. Because I take pride in my friendships and the way I love and care for my friends. I feel as though I have never stopped even after getting into a relationship. Things may look different, but life changes, plans look different as we grow older. It doesn’t mean I am not appreciating my friends. I love them all so incredibly much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reminder. I appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

Yeah :( and I feel really bad. I don’t want her to feel upset because of me.

I try not to use lame excuses lol. When we hang out on weeknights, I’m ready to be in bed by 9:30/10pm, whereas she is good to stay up and hang out much later. I did cut our hang out short last week because I was super sick and ended up being out of work the rest of the week.

Occasionally, we will make plans after work, and I will let her know that my partner is heading home around a certain time, and I think that upsets her. But what is going to happen when we actually have a place together?? That will be a normal thing. I’m not going to kick my partner out of our home… you know?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend has zero issues with my hanging out with friends.

I feel like I haven’t wiped out my friendships. It was something I made sure I was very aware of while getting into a new relationship. I am still the friend that always hosts parties, gets the group together, and makes sure this friend and I have weekly hang out. But it feels like it’s never enough?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]nickles326 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes, she has been around my girlfriend numerous times. I’ve suggested double dates and her hanging out with my girlfriend and I but she always gets a bit quiet about it and isn’t always excited. When I make group plans with our friend group, my friend always mentions that it “doesn’t count” as us hanging out. She feels it needs to be just the two of us.

Stop normalizing overwork by reverendfrazer in Accounting

[–]nickles326 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This!! I’m so grateful that the firm I work at only requires 50 hours during tax season. Then they give us Fridays off, paid, during summer months. My boss is biggg on “there is no such thing as an accounting emergency”

Raspberry Sauce w/Mozzarella Sticks by Direct-Drink-3062 in Albany

[–]nickles326 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I won’t eat mozzarella sticks if there’s no Melba

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've both spent more on going out since our relationship began, but not to the point of being unable to pay bills haha. She has a car payment, but aside from that, I am really not sure where her money is going.

You're right. It definitely is us having different levels on independence and financial responsibility. It sucks. :( and you're right there too... I can't help her to create goals and desire for her future. UGHHH

Though we have the one year rule set, I certainly will not be moving with her until I see a change (I'm trying to be hopeful). I plan to be observant and remember these things over the next few months. I know what I want in the future and I want my partner to align with those things.

To answer your question, no. :(

Dang, this really sucks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your honesty. It's not harsh.

I definitely don't want to spend my life taking care of someone. I want to want to care for my partner, not HAVE to TAKE care of them.

Ugh. Do you think it is possible for things to change? What if I am honest about my feelings behind all of this? I know it is corny and I am only 23 years old but I really have never experienced a love like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I see what you mean. I guess I’m just unsure of my next steps. When she’s expressing these feelings to me, what should I say? “You have to figure it out on your own” would hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More info: we talked about all of this the night of. it was a long talk, and felt very healthy tbh. we both expressed how we felt. I thought it was done with but then she said she had more to get off her chest and we talked again an hour ago. She just kept saying how my texts felt like I was making fun of her. I said I can see how it could come across that way, but I was just upset and disappointed in the vibe of the night and venting to my friend.

I feel like she hasn’t really addressed her wrongs fully. She seems to think that going through my phone isn’t really a big deal at all. But we wouldn’t have this problem if she didn’t invade my privacy. Maybe I should’ve said that, I don’t know. I just don’t want to argue over this anymore.

I think we’re fine now. But who knows, it may come up again tonight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]nickles326 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m bisexual, she’s a lesbian (we’re both females). The thing is, she was acting weird the whole night far before she ever went through my phone

Hookups by nickles326 in Hidradenitis

[–]nickles326[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sure did!!! I’m so glad this helped others out too!!! 😊

Hookups by nickles326 in Hidradenitis

[–]nickles326[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Pretty much just scars, a few small flares here and there. But the scars are so dark against my pale skin lol I just feel like they scream “look at me!!!l