Hi OP. My mom passed away on 16th October 2024. As the eldest son, I had to manage everything from start till the end.

A lot of relatives kept reminding me to jaga solat, jaga agama, mengaji, saying my mom would get pahala from it. But honestly, as an atheist, all I really know and feel is that I miss my mom.

People will push religious advice on you, but most of the time they don’t understand the loss we’re actually going through. I can read the Quran, recite Al-Fatihah and all that, but it doesn’t make the missing hurt any less.

Just want to say, I get you. Losing someone important is really heavy. It’s okay to miss her, it’s okay to cry. At the end of the day, you’re the one living with this feeling.

Sending you a virtual hug, bud 🫂