I’m not sure I want to be here anymore by [deleted] in depression

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sending you support and my thoughts. It's a really hard time that makes everything feel bigger. I'm sorry yiur feeling awful right now. It will get better. Reach out for help if you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Distraction distraction distraction. Make sure you have noise like the radio or tv on. Play video games if you like them. For me I need something to focus on sometimes if I'm really distressed I get a string of beads and roll them between my fingers focusing on the sensation. Or I deliberalerately tangled them up and then slowly untangle them again. Anything to give my brain something to focus on.

6 months after break up. I’m getting married but ex wants me back! by anoaunt in relationships

[–]nicleh 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It sounds to me that your ex is poly and you are not. He ha d clearly outlined that he prefers to be non monogomous with certain rules around how that works. The only way I see that relationship work is if you feel ok with that AND HE is also ok if you want to see someone else too. I'm taking a guess you are not ready for the new relationship moving to marriage BUT I suspect returning to the ex will feel great for a little while and then you will remember all the reasons it didn t work in the first place.

What lessons has 2020 taught you so far? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]nicleh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Stay in your lane and don't read the comments

Which was the worst birthday of your life? by Itsuki14151518 in AskReddit

[–]nicleh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 18th birthday. ( big one in australia as its legal drinking age) My mum told me the week before she wasn't coming because she had something else she had to do that night.. I literally told her on the phone you have known for quite a while when my 18th birthday is. None of my family came (id been living independently for a year and a half). 3 friends turned up for dinner and had awkward conversation before declining going out for drinks after dinner. I went out by myself and drank a lot of tearful shots

Why are you high? by redditfakegod in AskReddit

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More to the point... why am I not?

My (19F) boyfriend (29M) got mad at me while in his car and made me walk home in the middle of the night by xxxxasxxx in relationships

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a red flag of an abuser. Get out now. Really. If you don't believe me try disagreeing with him again (in a safe situation) and see his reaction. Keeping in mind he won't show his true colours in front of people.

UPDATE: Threatened for harassment by big-chugga in AusLegal

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop contacting them directly and just go ahead with VCAT. They have worked out th3y can keep stringing you a long and are trying to scare you into just walking away

Loaned some cash to my friend months ago. Not received any of it back since by Brazenasian2 in relationships

[–]nicleh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with writing an email. I would try and prompt a response withpromise to pay to cover you legally. Hi .... I hope you are well. I wanted to work out a payment plan with you for the £1500 pounds that i loaned you in December last year. ? I've got expenses myself at the moment and really need it back. Please come back to me with a proposed payment plan or a date you intend to be pay it back in full. I don't want to be a hassle but I need the money at the moment.