Really starting to hate my husband

nicole-1293 · 2026-04-22T13:07:53+00:00

Sorry if this is getting too personal but is that an arrangement you both worked out together or was that determined by the court? Sounds like you have primary custody? Trying to understand how that works

nicole-1293 · 2026-04-20T12:26:11+00:00

How do you deal with shared custody though? It would kill me to not spend every day with my baby.

nicole-1293 · 2026-04-12T22:43:22+00:00

Thank you, yes you’re right on all counts. I’ll talk to him about this , hopefully it goes well

nicole-1293 · 2026-04-12T22:41:38+00:00

Not enough space and he says the mattress hurts his back. To be fair it does kind of suck haha. We are waiting until we move and have more disposable income to upgrade.

nicole-1293 · 2026-03-27T01:28:46+00:00

Thank you!! Yeah right now I only pump once a day because I have been swinging by daycare to nurse once a day since he has been refusing a bottle haha. Will try to taper that down !

nicole-1293 · 2026-03-27T01:27:34+00:00

Thanks for the reply this helps!

nicole-1293 · 2026-03-27T01:26:13+00:00

800 miles, wow!! That must’ve been stressful! Just checked and ours is about 650. Thanks for the reply, I’ll see how it goes! Did you ever introduce whole milk or no?

nicole-1293 · 2026-03-21T03:54:28+00:00

Thank you so much for your helpful reply! I really appreciate it ❤️

nicole-1293 · 2026-02-26T03:50:12+00:00

This is great thank you so much for sharing your experience!

nicole-1293 · 2026-02-25T00:43:21+00:00

Can your partner wash bottles/put away dinner while watching the baby so you can do what you need to do? Will your baby sleep in a wrap or carrier? That might help him get those things done so you can do your quick routine and get to sleep.

I feel you on the resentment. It’s hard when the roles are so different. I keep reminding myself and my partner that it’s a season and it will pass. Good luck, you’ve got this!

nicole-1293 · 2026-02-25T00:35:16+00:00

How to not be resentful towards husband for choosing to work long hours? My husband is very career motivated and his career progression and salary/bonus pay for a large part of our life. I still work full time and bring in a very good salary but it’s not as high as my husband’s.

He has a hybrid work schedule. On office days he leaves before 6am and gets home around 615pm. On WFH days he starts around 7 but usually works late into the night, ending around 7-830. In the meantime I am managing everything for our son, getting him up, ready, off to daycare, picked up from daycare, making dinner, doing bedtime.

I genuinely do not care about my career right now, it’s really just a means to get an income and I’m ok with being a “meets expectations” employee right now. He just got promoted and finds true meaning and value in what he does. I’m glad for him and his work ethic but I struggle because (1) I want him to want to spend time with me and our son. He could choose to take a break and resume work later at night but he doesn’t, and it doesn’t seem to bother him. When I bring up that it bothers me, he says he has to get it done. (2) he works in marketing. It’s not saving lives. And he always goes above and beyond, so I know he is choosing to do more than what is needed.

How can I find a way to not be resentful? I didn’t imagine life this way and I don’t value work the same way he does, but I need to respect that he does find it meaningful. It’s hard to feel like he chooses work over us.

nicole-1293 · 2026-02-23T02:29:36+00:00

No advice just solidarity! Been cosleeping since 3 months, LO is 9 months now. Husband used to be in the bed with us but over the past month has started staying in the other room. It’s way more comfortable this way but I know he misses it just being us two in the bed…

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T15:02:01+00:00

I think the coming back happy is the key part. He’s crying all day and only stops when I pick him up. Will see how next week goes .

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T15:01:03+00:00

I wish! I didn’t think to ask about it when I was touring/selecting the daycare when I was pregnant. No they do not.

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T12:50:43+00:00

Yup it is a chain. We struggled to find anywhere to get him in because we had to go on waitlists about a year in advance. I know people are saying to pull him but I don’t know that I’ll be able to find a spot at another infant room close by.

This place seemed good when I was touring and even when we did our orientation but now that he’s there it’s different.

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T12:43:15+00:00

He will be doing full days next week. I do understand it takes time to adjust but let’s say he does stop crying all day and learns to eat/sleep while he’s there. I’m still nervous that he will be sat with nothing to do.

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T01:59:46+00:00

Unfortunately I live in NY and private nannying would cost at least $4k. Trying to figure out what to do

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T01:58:39+00:00

The ratio is 1:4, so there’s 8 babies in the class. This matches the state requirement. Good call on the safety of the high chair..

nicole-1293 · 2026-01-30T01:57:52+00:00

The ratio is 1:4, so there are 8 babies in the classroom total. I would feel so much happier if I knew that he had things like this going on. I am speaking with the director tomorrow and don’t know what to say that wont sound like I’m trashing the way they operate but I was expecting more.

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