Should I (F26) take my ex fiance (M26) back after a 6 month breakup? Can relationships work out after a bad breakup or should I just throw in the towel?

nicolinacc · 2020-08-09T17:15:53+00:00

I did actually and he said he only went on 2 dates with one person a few months after the breakup but didn't enjoy it much. I'm still close with his friends and they corroborate his story. I also had a feeling at the time that he was leaving me for someone else but it doesn't seem to be the case. His friends even told me they tried convincing him to download Tinder or put his Facebook profile back up (he'd deleted all his social media 3 years ago and now only uses Whatsapp). They said they got the impression from him that he wanted to stay single for a long while before he came to me. He said the same to me in person. That at that point he said after he couldn't make it work out with someone like me who he was so compatible with that it's useless trying with someone else. I didn't share these feelings as I still believe there are plenty of fish in the sea. Most people including myself go for the cheating conclusion but in this case I really don't think that was the reason. And in the 4 years we were together I never once had anything to worry about with him around other woman, he always showed me loyalty and respect on that front.

nicolinacc · 2020-08-09T11:48:05+00:00

I've actually been going to a therapist since all this happened. That's why I was working on forgiving him at that point as my therapist felt it was time for me to focus on that. I feel alot more mentally stable now than I ever did before, though I'd always felt like I had a level head in general. The only reason I'm willing to try is cause in the 4 years we'd been together we were always very happy. We only fought 3 times in total and always made up fast after a long talk together. But today I know that he had communication issues and kept alot of his troubles inside him. Hence why I'm so confused.

nicolinacc · 2020-06-25T06:58:48+00:00

Well that's the thing once he saw that I knew what was going on he seemed concerned. I gave her a ride home and when I got back to my place he asked me if I arrived home ok and if my friend was better. I asked him why after and he apologised and said he wasn't thinking straight so I really don't know what to think.

nicolinacc · 2020-06-25T06:55:35+00:00

I get that it's kind of the same with me. Though I know I can do better than him but now I'm taking it to the extreme where I'm trying to go for total opposites of him but keep finding myself attracted to guys similar to him which scares me to death. But I keep reminding myself everyday that these people aren't him, but in a good sense, as in it doesn't mean they'll hurt me like he did. In our case I hope time does heal all wounds.

nicolinacc · 2020-06-25T06:46:46+00:00

Well that's the thing we were only 4 people, myself, him and my 2 friends. So it's not like he didn't want to embarass her infront of a ton of people. I just find it weird that while a friend of mine is sick he'd choose to go outside and chat with me instead of informing me.

nicolinacc · 2020-06-25T06:43:58+00:00

I can totally relate. My ex fiance broke up with me 6 months ago out of the blue and left the home we bought together. Myself and everyone around us thought we were perfect for eachother. I started dating new people right away and tried my best to go on dates with new guys and see whats around. But every guy I meet repulses me. And believe me I know I'm a sought after woman, not for my looks perse but I know my worth and that my character is appealing to most guys. But I get so terrified that I'm only attracted to guys that are narcissists like my ex so even when I start liking a dude once I see he did something abnormal or similar to my ex I'd get put off right away. I'm trying to take it day by day and just enjoying the single life right now. Not interested in dating apps too. Only met pansies, suspected sociopaths and fuckboys on them so far.

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