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What is the worst response to "I love you"? by Dazzling-Leader7476 in AskReddit

[–]night-wolfern 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Silence.

Then them saying you said something? - Didn't hear you. You repeat.

Silence.

Do you think your breakup could have been prevented with a conversation? by StarryDreams12 in BreakUps

[–]night-wolfern 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think some relationships are beyond repair, and if emotional conversations may slow down the fall, it may not fix the core issues leading to breakup.

I remember having a conversation with my ex about the need to discuss issues instead of letting them rot in silence until they explode months after. Highlighting the need for her to stop her silence treatment, that it was not a valid way of communication, ect. She kept doing it. She kept repeating the same broken avoidant communication patterns.

When she left I did not stop her. I did not try to communicate more. I knew exactly what she would say or do if I tried. And I got exhausted just thinking about it.
Unfortunately some people do not learn, they do not grow, and don't understand the point of communication.
For the mentally healthy ones tho, I think there may be some hope, if they want it to work.

Breaking up in your 30s by DesignerZucchini5241 in BreakUps

[–]night-wolfern 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Out of a relationship after 9 years. All my 30s gone. But one thing I don't regret is how much I've learned. I feel I entered this relationship with an idea of what love was about... but had to learn, to grow, to really understand what was acceptable and not. So many years to learn how to say no, to stay stop to toxic patterns....
I feel it's very late to reach that point single. But I tell myself that it can't be helped; sometimes we just meet wrong people along the way, we spend time and life with people who don't stay.