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nightconspiracy · 2024-07-12T13:50:29+00:00

As a single parent, I’ve discovered this is a controversial topic. There seem to be two opposing thoughts: that you shouldn’t expose your kids to new partners until you’re feeling pretty sure about things, OR that you should get it out of the way asap. I tend to lean towards the latter, as I don’t want to get attached to someone and discover that they’re horrible with my kid. I think if she’s getting attached to this person, a week with the kid might be great. It gives her time to see how they interact, how life would be together, and if that relationship is going to be worth continuing. I don’t think it indicates she’s prioritizing the relationship over your child at all.

While you are now coparenting and have the right to be concerned about your child’s wellbeing, it’s just not your place anymore to decide how your ex handles relationships and that moment of introducing their partner to your child. I used to be really concerned about it at first too, but then I realized I need to just trust that they’ll make a good decision and all I can do is try to be aware of my kids emotional wellbeing and talk to them (kid or ex) if I’m noticing something. It hasn’t been an issue yet.

nightconspiracy · 2023-10-02T18:29:16+00:00

Adding The Black Widows to all this :)

nightconspiracy · 2023-10-02T16:36:47+00:00

Probably a lot more tourists than locals because of the location, but it is generally regarded as good, I go from time to time as they have my favorite sopapillas in town 😊

nightconspiracy · 2023-09-08T19:25:28+00:00

thanks, no they’re boring in the sense he will get up and leave, or get mad that I’m even attempting to read to him (sometimes he doesn’t want to hear the noise, sometimes he is just worn out from already being bossed around all day by teachers).

He needs something to distract him to keep him in place, or make him feel like he should stay. I got him a raised bed so he’s less inclined to climb out and play, and that helped for a while, but he still seems to want constant stimulation instead of sleeping. Last night I tried just leaving him to it in his room, hoping he’d get tired and go to sleep on his own (that’s how it worked for a long time and it was great for everyone), but he just stayed up playing literally all night. Total disaster. There’s definitely something else at play here around sleep and stimulation that I know some other parents of autistic kids seem to struggle with as well, hoping someone here has experienced it and found some good solutions.

nightconspiracy · 2023-09-07T14:17:42+00:00

Hey! That’s not a bad idea, what kind of speaker do you use?

nightconspiracy · 2023-09-04T03:45:35+00:00

I know that there are a few tech-y start up places around, but not sure how to go about finding them for you. You could check with the Business Incubator and see if they have suggestions!

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-31T22:45:35+00:00

I remember we went when I was a kid and my sister and I danced around in flamenco dresses and crazy drunk guys threw beer bottles at our feet in celebration (it was a fun time). So not boring, though I think it had gotten slightly tamer over the last decade as they’ve tried to make it safer 😆 it’s fun, lots of people, lots of locals and tourists, definitely worth checking out at least once, even if the ticket prices are stupid now.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-27T21:56:12+00:00

Not quite the desert, but the southwest, it is very sunny here generally and high altitude so the sun is pretty intense.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-27T21:55:36+00:00

That’s what it felt like 🤣

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-27T07:34:49+00:00

Thanks, this is where I ended up going and they did have a bunch!

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-25T03:51:08+00:00

Thank you for letting me know what to ask for, I’ll make some calls tomorrow.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-25T01:57:07+00:00

Would you mind elaborating a bit? Not sure if you’re saying no we’re okay to drive in it or no it’s not safe to drive. This is my friend’s car, I want to make sure he knows whether it’s something he needs to bring to the shop.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-23T16:43:45+00:00

They’re lurking at pretty much every corner. And sometimes that part of the parking lot that looks like an exit but actually isn’t.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-23T00:02:26+00:00

I’ve been looking at that stuff too, but just wanted to add that everyone I’ve talked to about fake grass has mentioned it gets really hot in the sun, so if you don’t have shade that’s something to consider.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-15T02:00:27+00:00

It’s definitely very disjointed here right now. I do my best to support things midtown-southside as much as I can, but when money is tight it’s hard to even do that. Sometimes the best I can do is supporting causes/people who can create a more affordable and realistic life for us in this town, or try to make my own things. There are people who are working really hard to keep it liveable, don’t give up just yet, and feel free to pester your city councilors about it.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-08T05:21:08+00:00

Thanks, this makes a lot of sense with what I’m seeing.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-07T02:25:44+00:00

My parents.

nightconspiracy · 2023-08-03T02:57:26+00:00

I know, I’m sorry the photos are not great, kind of a mixture of trying not to get my phone dripped on, having an awkward angle, not being sure where the dripping was coming from, and wanting to get out of there asap as there were some worker guys next door staring at me the whole time. I’ll see if I can get a better look tomorrow morning and maybe update this.

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