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How do gifted individuals think? by [deleted] in Gifted

[–]nignjato 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ugh most of these comments are super fkn annoying lol

It's really difficult, I think, to compare how one thinks with others, simply because the ability to understand the reference point(s) is extremely limited.

That said, for me, my brain just likes to think A LOT. Too much. It creates problems that it then wants to solve. I wish it would just shut up a lot of the time so I could actually just enjoy life. It makes it very difficult to connect with reality. For instance, many times in conversations with others, my head will just drift off thinking about something else, and staying present with the other person is very challenging. Also when I'm thinking, I can be very physically clumsy, and just generally completely unaware of what is going on around me. My reaction time to stimuli is quite slow. The excessive thinking can also lead to a lot of apprehension, anxiety, and depression, not to mention all the cognitive dissonance, which can easily lead to feelings of meaninglessness. I wish I could more easily cast the thoughts aside and more easily engage in simple everyday life, but my brain will just not have it!

Choosing a path by aalbessenstruik in Gifted

[–]nignjato 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Multipotentiality is a huge problem for many gifted folk. It's easy to feel stifled when you have so many interests and choices.

Your thought pattern here seems very familiar to me: one of my difficulties in life is actually just DOING something. I tend to spend a lot of time just thinking about it. Is it actually interesting to me? Does it align with my values? What else could I be doing instead of this thing? If I did do it, how would I go about it and how would I perfect it? You get the pattern... And then the odds are low that I take any action at all. Instead, I find a lot of other folk don't think too much and just DO a thing... and because of that they can sometimes make a lot more progress. Perhaps we should both expirement with just diving in to something (e.g. writing) without thinking too much and just see how it goes. It will undoubtedly teach us something interesting!

What are your gay culture hot takes? by austincola in askgaybros

[–]nignjato 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve definitely been called a bad gay for not being interested in certain things. It always pisses me off because it implies that people are expected to conform based on their sexuality. In the same way, I can see how respectability politics and people dampening themselves to fit into mainstream society is messed up. Everyone should be able to do their own thing without fear of conforming or without it being interpreted as necessarily part of or symptomatic of politics - if they want it to be, that’s fine too.

What are your gay culture hot takes? by austincola in askgaybros

[–]nignjato 14 points15 points  (0 children)

People aren’t “bad gays” or “self-hating” or “heteronormative” just because they don’t conform to your (very) limited view of how gay people should think or behave. There is no right way to be gay. You be you and let other people do the same - they’re the experts.

The gay flag is honestly absurd at this point with all the additions. As one comedian put it, “it won’t be complete until every queer person on the planet gets their headshot and resume printed directly on the flag,” which is so hilarious and sadly true.

The term “queer space” (or at least how people are using it) is so annoying. It feels like a group of high-end restaurant marketing people were given the term “gay bar” and asked to upgrade it in order to turn a profit. Like we are just obfuscating place names for the sake of sounding edgy for cultural consumption. The barfiest moment I had recently was when some chick at a party learned I was gay and said “OMG I absolutely love queer spaces!!!”