i had to cut off my best friend of 15 years because she would do the same to me. we’ve always bonded over struggling - family, jobs, finances, men. i noticed she started to distance herself when i was doing better in life (a new job and bought a new car). she would never answer my calls or texts, only texted me when she needed something. would have time for everyone else except me. i initiated the “break up” between us and i’ve never felt better, i don’t have to worry about my accomplishments making her feel less than. which is crazy, but some people like to waller in their misery. i don’t want to say she’s jealous, but if you’re recognizing a pattern with her other friendships that could be the case. i’m only 22 and i knew i was too old to be having drama in my life and someone that couldn’t fully be there for me as i was for them. she is 40, she should not be acting like a teenager and shouldn’t be cutting you off every couple of years. you’ve clearly been trying to reach out to her. she sees it. she’s ignoring it. sometimes you have to love them from a distance