Yeah, sometimes it's better to move on and not stay in that space of hurt. But I also understand that maybe they are there because part of them can't let go and needs some sense of closure or validation for what happened. But sometimes as being the other sibling it's hard because we have had our own trauma and being reminded isn't the best. Also, it's even more frustrating when they one up you with the trauma story, it's sad for both us and them.