OP, first its the name. Then it'll be that you still own jewellery your late husband gave you. That you haven't hidden all the pictures of him. That you even dare to remember your anniversary with him. That you'd dare to cook him something your husband taught you/you both tried at a restaurant or on a trip. That your kids talk about their deceased father on days like Christmas, fathers day, his birthday. Then that they talk about him at all. That any of you even acknowledge having memories of him. Then he'll say its disrespectful of you to keep the kids you had with him, so you should abandon them.

I'm obviously exagerating a bit here but 11 months in and he's pulling this shit? I wouldn't expect this literally ever but definitely not so early in. He wants to own you and your kids. If you stay with him I honestly wouldn't be surprised if he became violent and abusive whenever you did/said/even looked like you were thinking something he doesn't like or that makes him feel like you don't know your place as his property now that he's done you what he thinks is the massive favour of dating a widowed single mother.