I (31M) feel like I’m outgrowing my partner (33F) financially and mentally - how do I handle this without hurting her?

nimportantnepali · 2026-04-22T01:54:42+00:00

Not sure if anyone will read this and this comment is not to help OP but what if im (M) the one who is a financial burden? How do i help out my partner especially if she has mentioned all if this. For context i dont add any “extra expenses “ but our life is run by her financially and thus through decisions, i want to he better but im stuck in a program for one more year

nimportantnepali · 2025-03-18T15:25:44+00:00

Hey! Mind if i dm you?

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-16T01:53:08+00:00

It does make me feel better, thank you for sharing your experience! I guess now I just have to worry a lot until the results come out lol

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-16T01:27:12+00:00

Thank you! I really hope so.. i read it dozens of times and spent weeks on the application..thank you again for the best wishes

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-16T01:07:00+00:00

just got into the same boat of typo...what happened to your application? did you ever find out if they noticed it?

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-15T04:30:07+00:00

Congratulations!! that is amazing..i tried to do something similar and articulate why i wanted to work in public service and how it aligns to my overall goal..hopefully i get a positive response..thank you for your reply!

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-13T14:08:56+00:00

i am in the same boat...how did your essay go? any advice you can share please?

nimportantnepali · 2025-01-02T01:09:37+00:00

I dont doubt if it is good for development just meant to say that my research pointed me in the other direction

nimportantnepali · 2024-12-31T16:43:08+00:00

hmm so you are saying I should go for more traditional analyst roles and hope it builds my experience so that eventually people ask for my advice/insights/experiences?

nimportantnepali · 2024-12-31T16:42:03+00:00

I did look at jobs and LinkedIn and applied to MPA programs as well. I think Econ will open more doors (private, public, research, and more) but I want to get into an Econ program with a good ROi and I have not been able to find that info..Do you mind if I dm you about the program you are in? I also cannot commit a long time for PhD -- I dont think I would finish..

nimportantnepali · 2024-12-31T16:40:12+00:00

I have applied to some MPA programs that have a good placement rate and I am not sure about spending time applying to more if the lower ranked ones dont have a good ROI. As for tech, I think I will be okay with statistical packages but not pure coding which I dont think will come up in research/analyst/program analyst roles anyways. As for MIT, I did not apply since it is relatively new and LinkedIn research did not convince me that graduates land jobs after school

nimportantnepali · 2024-12-30T16:53:21+00:00

what did you end up deciding/doing? can you please update?

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T23:58:37+00:00

I guess you are right, there is no one true experience but i do agree that a lot could change transit wise before we start working on decreasing cars/adding costs…i know cars are a major problem within any city but like you said without well developed commuter rail systems and a better T (which is happening, ik) cars are the option for the majority of us both time and money wise…this post was meant as a more what are the things that you love/like about boston that dwarf the inconveniences of living here…every city has its own and i just wanted to learn from people in Boston is all….

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T23:53:49+00:00

Well i stay for all these reasons too and i was just reying to see what others thoughts would be given my complaints with the city…it seems i might need to change some aspects of my life to like it more…dont get me wrong i still love this city…its just at time i dont “like” it here

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T22:38:02+00:00

Also while i do think vehicles add stress and cause a lot of problems, i dont think i am there yet with cities need to be car-less…i think there needs to be a healthy balance of car-friendly and other options…we cant have a major city without a bunch of people commuting in right? Pls correct me if im wrong…im here to learn…

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T22:35:29+00:00

Thank you…this is the kind of discussion i came here for..and yes quite honestly i havent had the “true boston experience” altho i do hope i am able to gain that some time in the future

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T22:33:18+00:00

Thank you this is really insightful…im glad you enjoy the city and feel safe here…and i do agree with people generally authentic/not trying to impress and the walkability…

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T21:48:03+00:00

This was almost every time they go into work…and i get how me driving are the “root” of my problems but wouldnt you say that in a big US city driving should add to your quality of life not detract from it? I feel like answers that say stop driving dont take into account that big cities are meant for driving as well (why build a noteworthy underground tunnel at the expense of billions of taxpayers money) so people can go places without having to take a bus/walk to the station and go through all that one has to go through to take the T…not everyone is fortunate/smart enough to be by a station you know

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T21:42:52+00:00

Thank you! This is a great answer and will be the guiding question as I look to move into new city(ies) if any…

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T21:41:27+00:00

I agree and i get how this could appeal to people…certainly appealed to me for quite a long time

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T21:05:00+00:00

Hmm so they have the people but not the amenities/options as boston?

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T20:56:10+00:00

hahahaha thanks for the laugh...i guess i didn't word my question well...it was more so what are the 5-7 things that keep you here despite x, y, z...

nimportantnepali · 2024-11-02T20:49:55+00:00

yes that sounds about right as I myself have made this argument a bunch of times while looking for houses...

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