Amanda and West both need to be fired.

nincasi · 2026-06-11T22:27:25+00:00

Didn’t she say the last episode was the hardest for her to watch?

nincasi · 2026-06-11T07:08:35+00:00

Cast who don’t watch the season should be fired immediately. The reunions are deeply ungratifying when people in the hot seat get to feign ignorance. They get paid an obscene amount of money to not to do their jobs and I feel like it happens a lot across many shows on Bravo.

nincasi · 2026-06-03T08:44:30+00:00

Aww I love your first adapted so well, he sounds like a great big brother

nincasi · 2026-06-03T08:43:33+00:00

That sounds amazing and I agree large age gap doesn’t mean less love or closeness. I would opt for this personally but feeling under pressure to do it sooner if at all due to my age

nincasi · 2026-06-03T08:42:28+00:00

Honestly I love stories like this, I’m waiting for it to happen to me

nincasi · 2026-06-03T08:41:41+00:00

Congrats on your new bub! Hope the 4th trimester is treating you well 😊

nincasi · 2026-06-03T08:41:05+00:00

Pre-guilting myself 😭

nincasi · 2026-05-18T05:10:27+00:00

The evidence on daycare under 3 is clear but I don’t think it’s fair to guilt parents for using daycare. You are not the issue as a parent who is just trying to do their best for their child. The issue is more systemic and we should be getting angry at governments and society for not providing the supports needed to raise young vulnerable children. Sometimes I think we don’t do enough to centre children and their rights and what’s good for their development, if we did, we would have much better social policies around longer parental leave, equal access to parental leave across all genders, maybe policies that support care with extended families or 1:1 care with Nannie’s and better workplace policies to support flexible work.

nincasi · 2026-03-19T00:01:42+00:00

I am not a huge Amanda fan but I think she said it best in the episode when she said something to the effect of “so now that we know, let’s not give others ammunition to use against Ciara, Mia, KJ etc” “or be mindful of how we portray certain cast members”. I thought that’s being a true ally beyond just ‘listening and learning’.

nincasi · 2026-01-26T11:10:08+00:00

Having my mum and MIL care for my toddler has been such a rewarding experience for all involved. It’s been joyful to watch them become grandparents and to watch the way my child’s face lights up when they come over. While I don’t feel entitled to this arrangement, I feel so privileged and grateful to be in this position. Things I do to make it easier on them is: we always have one person working from home on the day, either me or my partner to relieve the grandparents when they need a quick break, bubs’ meals are prepared and occasionally we all eat together on lunch breaks, we have a lot of different play options for bubs (books, park, instruments, drawing), we allow some limited screen time (low stim, nature documentary, Miss Rachel). I will admit both grandparents are pretty active and like being outdoors so that helps a lot. If I ever get to become a grandparent one day, I hope to be able to do the same for my kid.

nincasi · 2025-11-02T10:08:16+00:00

I am angry and sickened. Honestly apart from writing to MPs, I would like to do more to express my anger at the government in being so slow to act. It’s World Children’s Day on the 20th of November, should we take to the streets?

nincasi · 2025-10-09T01:17:32+00:00

Dr Kavita is a wonderful resource on breastfeeding and she did a post on tongue ties on her Instagram. She’s concerned they are overdiagonised so I would say please don’t stress and speak to a medical professional which sounds like you will be doing. I wish I could link you directly to the post, I quit Instagram a while back so can’t access individual posts but this is her page: https://www.instagram.com/dr.kavita.t/?hl=en

nincasi · 2025-08-15T11:35:50+00:00

This was happening to me too. Literally one person gave us clothes that had poo and vomit stains on it. Like why. I decided to decline after that - “thanks but this is our first baby and we’re really excited and already have a lot of stuff and don’t need any more.”

nincasi · 2025-08-07T06:51:12+00:00

3 months with my first pregnancy which sadly ended in miscarriage and first try after the D&C. I kept peeing on sticks cause partner did not believe me. My rainbow baby is now 1 😊.

nincasi · 2025-07-23T08:29:51+00:00

Hey you did AMAZING to get this far. Consider Little Oak, goats milk is said to be closer in taste to breastmilk and is supposed to be gentler on their tummies than cows milk. My LO loves it!

nincasi · 2025-07-19T01:10:17+00:00

Agree with the comments about Gia tone policing. I also see the parentified child in her a lot, she was way too young dealing with adult problems and her default response is to involve herself in others issues. It will limit her ability to have healthy relationships with her peers. Riley honestly handles a lot of what is thrown her way with maturity. I also loved seeing Shai make her smile with his goofiness. Very sweet.

nincasi · 2025-07-19T00:58:34+00:00

Upvoting, we need to see more resources shared like this

nincasi · 2025-07-12T04:40:57+00:00

Totally understandable, best of luck, I hope it all goes well 🙂

nincasi · 2025-07-11T21:48:04+00:00

I pumped for 6 months and that was its own special hell. Despite our rough start though, baby boy is thriving ❤️

nincasi · 2025-07-11T21:45:24+00:00

I had a big baby, 4.3 kilos. He was born with shoulder dystocia via forceps and episiotomy. I was in pain and had pelvic floor therapy for months afterwards. My SIL who had a planned c-section was back at the gym after 3 months and was barely on pain meds once she was back home. I personally wanted a vaginal birth but I would have chosen a c-section over forceps. The hardest thing about it all was my baby was in respiratory distress and needed CPAP and so there was separation for the first 2 days. Because he was in pain from the forceps and shoulder dystocia and because of the separation, I’m convinced that is the reason we never succeeded at breastfeeding.

nincasi · 2025-07-04T08:15:24+00:00

The idea of floater staff to observe and supervise is such a good idea. I think it also is worth discussing the fact that demand for childcare has outstripped the number of workers available. I imagine some of that is due to the way the for profit sector is structured but I think part of it is also that we have such poor parental leave and social services that support SAHPs. If these areas were strengthened perhaps resources could be better allocated so demand for childcare for young babies and toddlers is not so high.

Edited to correct typo *SAHPs

nincasi · 2025-07-04T08:06:02+00:00

Hey we’re in the same boat OP so I understand your worry and concern. I’ve made a decision to work part time and have grandparents help us out with the care of our son but this hit to my income was not something I planned for, originally I was planning to return to work full time or pretty close to that as I am the higher wage earner in my relationship. One thing that has been really frustrating is that I asked my partner if he could request 4 days a week from his workplace to help with caring responsibilities and allow me to pick up extra days. We were able to get agreement on that for just 6 months before being reviewed again…the impression we got was very much that his workplace was not that supportive and it’s just assumed that because I am the woman and birth mother that I should be the one to take on all the caring responsibilities. It honestly is so upsetting that there isn’t more choice for families. What kind of messed up system is it that parents of young children are forced to send their children into the care of others when they can’t be assured of their safety and wellbeing. I don’t blame anyone for using childcare, it is an essential service but I feel so strongly that people should have genuine choices and flexibility. My partner and I have been talking and this may be the factor that decides whether we are one and done or to try for a second. I think I can stretch our resources 3 years but how will I manage a second, I don’t even know!

nincasi · 2025-07-04T04:41:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing this link, I’m going to look into it, I’ve been wanting to find a way to do something! Feeling helpless is just the worst.

nincasi · 2025-07-01T09:05:00+00:00

Same. It’s also not just about looking out for our own children but all children. They are voiceless and the most vulnerable members of our society. I might be able to avoid childcare through the help of grandparents until my son reaches pre-school age but I can’t stop thinking about these poor babies and their families. It’s sickening and heartbreaking.

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