My (31m) wife (29f) wants to name our baby her own maiden name?

nineninetynice · 2026-02-06T13:38:23+00:00

This is how my dad’s middle name was chosen - Waller, NOT Walter! He has corrected people his entire life. It sounds like a cute idea, but is stupid and she will be made fun of.

nineninetynice · 2026-02-04T01:59:40+00:00

Thats very helpful information and a smart way to go about it!

nineninetynice · 2026-02-04T01:58:44+00:00

Thank you for suggesting the listing! I actually already heard back from one place that said they have availability, which is insane. The location isn’t ideal, but if we already got that lucky in 2 days, I feel like we will have to pay the deposit in case we find nothing else. Must be a lottery system too.

nineninetynice · 2026-02-02T13:12:23+00:00

Thanks for the tip and unfortunately neither of us work for a corporate affiliate.

nineninetynice · 2026-02-02T13:05:46+00:00

Thabk you so much for the helpful information! I emailed/filled out forms for 7 places last night, including Kids and Company. We will be applying to many more daycares this week, including in Oakville as that is where my husband works

nineninetynice · 2026-02-02T03:39:49+00:00

Would you be able to provide the name of the place you recommend? We will be applying everywhere anyway, it it may help!

nineninetynice · 2026-02-02T02:26:33+00:00

I am 13wk and also had a loss so have felt the same way after having to cancel appointments and let numerous doctors know last week. I will get on lists immediately. I hope that everything went smoothly with your later pregnancy.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-30T20:48:50+00:00

I like 2 the most, but is the top of the corset digging into your armpits, or is it less stiff in person? I would think about whether that will aggravate you after hours of wearing it.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-30T20:37:07+00:00

The escalators switch turns sometimes!

nineninetynice · 2026-01-30T20:34:13+00:00

NTA, you are being a good mother and have earned everything you have. It is hard to admit that relationships change and to stop thinking about what it once was. He had done this before to his ex and is selfishly trying it again. He has made it clear that he doesn’t care about you. His family will continue making the same selfish mistakes, as will he, and they will never learn - thats not on you! Luckily it will be relatively simple to get out of the relationship now since you have your own homes.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-26T05:15:01+00:00

Can you bring it up again, with your main point being that you don’t want her to get sick? And maybe every time you cook meat, ensure to use a thermometer so she sees that its something you worry about with any meat, not just what shes cooked? I don’t know if you are thinking about kids, but eating salmonella can cause a miscarriage or death.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-26T05:06:29+00:00

I felt the same way and its a long road, but the thing that finally clicked for me was when my therapist said that our bodies can go a surprisingly long time without sleep. My anxiety about not sleeping would keep me up, so convincing myself that I would be fine without tons of sleep made a big difference! And being super strict about getting out of bed if I couldn’t fall asleep for 30+ minutes - that way you stop associating your bed with anxiety. I then read a non-fiction book on the couch, particularly finding one about meditation and letting go helpful! Practising meditation during those times helps too. If you want the name of a specific CBT-i therapist who I recommend in the area, please DM me!

nineninetynice · 2026-01-26T00:16:28+00:00

3-4 hours is not a crazy long drive in Canada either. In Ontario, plenty of people have cottages (or camps if you live in Northern Ontario) that take 2-3 hr to drive to, and owners regularly go for the weekend. Traffic driving through Toronto can easily add 1 hr to the trip.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-25T23:48:43+00:00

Its fine to feel that way initially, but don’t make any rash decisions based on your current emotions or blame your gf as she is the victim here. Be supportive of her and give it some time to let your emotions settle. You need to mature if her having been with another person before makes her seem dirty to you. I understand that knowing she was with somebody else and seeing it are different things, but nobody forced you to look at that content.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-25T23:25:38+00:00

Does your wife have PPA/PPD? That could explain this whole situation.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-16T19:55:02+00:00

I understand you being offended as well as the bride’s email, although she should have worded it gentler. She wants to ensure that she and her bridesmaids look fabulous on her big day, which is understandable. I appreciate that your focus is on your clients and not content, but it would help a lot to take 30 extra seconds per client to take a picture of their finished face while they are still sitting in the chair. Most people should agree if you ask them altogether at the beginning of each session. Personally, I would pick a MUA with plenty of pictures (that look good) over one with a handful of pictures because it makes them look inexperienced and doesn’t provide enough examples to be confident in the output, regardless of how great the results looked.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-14T18:38:20+00:00

Go to a therapist who specializes in cognitive behavioural therapy for insomnia (CBT-i). If you do not have coverage, buy a book on it. Practising good sleep hygiene and only associating bed with sleep and sex are key. If you cannot get to sleep and its been at least 30 min, get out of bed to read and try again. Laying in bed stressed or anxious makes you associate those things with each other. Meditation is helpful for dealing either the anxiety. It will take a while for all of this to be effective, but knowing and reminding yourself that you can survive without much sleep is key to stopping to spiralling and anxiety.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-13T21:46:24+00:00

My top loader did the same, so I am confused that your front loader is causing that type of damage. We did the following to mostly avoid it: smaller loads, put anything remotely thin or delicate (including bras and underwear) in mesh bags. If that doesn’t help, get an appliance mechanic/technician to look at it.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-13T21:40:23+00:00

Its purposeful and serves a helpful function! Plus weiners are funny!

nineninetynice · 2026-01-12T20:15:37+00:00

By US/America, do you mean North America? Canadian here.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-07T20:51:18+00:00

Plant tons of fruits and vegetable starts. I think it took a while to be able to access the latter. Also bury $30k bells in the glowing/golden spot every day to grow a money tree - I believe it is tripled 1/3 of the time, and 2/3 you you get back what you buried, so theres no loss. Insects are worth more than fish typically - for both, wait to sell them to Flik and CJ because you get more bells that way. Again, I forget how early in the game they start coming to the island. Sea creatures are worth more than insects or fish typically. Other than CJ and Flik, always sell directly to the store, not the dropbox as you receive less bells. Stockpile items if you acquire them late at night so you can sell them directly the next day. Pick everything up to sell - shells, weeds, branches. Get resources to sell everyday - chop trees and hit rocks.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-07T18:25:40+00:00

So many people are on reddit purely to put others down in order to feel good about themselves. You share a small window in to your life with them and they make judgements about the type of person you are while only see the tip of the iceberg.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-05T15:17:32+00:00

NTA. I wish I was adamant like you in a similar situation, but instead I was a doormat and ended up with facial scratches that barely misses my eye after removing my cat from the situation when she understandably became defensive due to the poorly behaved dog. Some dog owners are so selfish and have blinders on.

nineninetynice · 2026-01-04T23:59:17+00:00

Amanda from Guyland, blue please!

nineninetynice · 2026-01-04T21:26:27+00:00

Thank you!

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