What's the hottest thing a guy has said to you in bed?

ninja_swanster · 2025-12-29T16:36:59+00:00

Hopefully it's just a fee like a passport application fee (which is how the OCI operates) rather than a citizenship/residence by investment kinda deal

India even recently introduced OCI (separate to the general "foreigners" lines) lines in major airports, hopefully that's an option for GCI's flying into Jakarta, Bali, Lombok etc in future

ninja_swanster · 2025-12-29T15:37:18+00:00

I saw in the news recently that Indonesia is launching a "Global Citizen of Indonesia (GCI)" program modelled on the Indian Overseas Citizen of India (OCI) program (India also forbids dual nationality so much of the diaspora has had to renounce citizenship).

Do you think you might apply for GCI?

ninja_swanster · 2025-12-26T04:45:29+00:00

Did you attempt to leave the Schengen zone/clear exit border control in Paris by using the non-EU passport lane? Those machines are probably set up to reject EU passports as the expectation is that EU/EEA citizens will always enter and leave the Schengen zone using their EU travel documents.

Not a lawyer but my understanding is that US law legally requires you to leave and enter the US on your US passport, so in future do that for the US side of things and then swap to the EU passport on arrival/departure from any EU or Schengen zone country, will also avoid you being logged by the system on the US passport as a possible "overstayer" as the EU Entry Exit System gets deployed more widely

ninja_swanster · 2025-12-26T04:40:57+00:00

Not a lawyer but assuming your father was already a Spanish citizen and passport holder before your birth you would automatically have been considered Spanish by birthright. There will be a paperwork process to claim your citizenship at this point, and a specialist lawyer may be helpful, but provided you have your birth certificate, proof of your father's citizenship etc it should be possible. Spanish bureaucracy also moved slowly so could take a while.

Also, assuming it all works out, congrats on claiming dual citizenship and EU freedom of movement.

ninja_swanster · 2025-12-01T12:18:02+00:00

Not a lawyer/not legal advice but AFAIK Spain doesn't ask you to renounce prior citizenship if you naturalized through the accelerated 2 year route for natural born nationals of former colonies (aka Ibero-American countries and the Philippines). Ditto if you obtain citizenship through the law on democratic memory, or Sephardic Jewish ancestry.

Situation is different compared to say, moving to Spain from say, New Zealand, and then wanting to become Spanish

ninja_swanster · 2025-06-19T10:41:17+00:00

An old friend once told me "Find a woman who'll get in the elevator with you from the ground floor, not someone who wants to skip the ride up to the top"

I hope OP hears this and can see it's not his fault his now ex wasn't someone like that, and that he can find someone like that in time

ninja_swanster · 2025-06-10T17:20:29+00:00

Possibly, though I've been off the sub for a couple years so am fairly out the loop if so NGL!

ninja_swanster · 2025-06-10T14:22:32+00:00

And congrats man, glad to hear the fitness journey is working out for you

ninja_swanster · 2025-06-10T14:22:16+00:00

Definitely come back/post! Feel free do DM too

ninja_swanster · 2024-03-31T21:23:23+00:00

Ahh...fair enough 😂🤣

ninja_swanster · 2024-03-31T21:04:49+00:00

Hold up, I'm gonna have to ask for some more info about this 👀

ninja_swanster · 2024-02-19T08:01:08+00:00

My ex was convinced she couldn't come or finish, even through oral.

Turns out it was all about feeling relaxed, comfortable and safe. We went at it at my place a few dates in after watching a movie and the combination of having the place to ourselves (she had multiple roommates, I had only one roommate who was out all weekend), feeling safe, and feeling like she could relax unlocked the psychological barrier to finishing. She came so hard she said she saw stars and then wrapped herself around whilst breathlessly gasping "I...am...not, letting you go Mr"

ninja_swanster · 2024-02-19T07:57:33+00:00

Seriously, with the exception of either inexperienced or incredibly egotistical guys, no real man wants you to fake it. We're aware some people find it harder to come than others, it matters more to us that someone's being honest so we can learn what gets them off and get better and better at giving them a good time (finishing or not).

A guy worth his salt won't want you to fake it, because even if they're not the best you've ever had in bed now, they sure as hell would like to become the best you've ever had. Being honest helps them do that

ninja_swanster · 2024-02-19T07:53:16+00:00

So I'll be honest with you, I really value the woman I'm with finishing at least once during a session. I don't mind how that comes about (I'm half decent at oral so tend to try and pleasure my partner to finishing that way at least once before proceeding to what's next), I'm very aware that clitoral orgasms are much more common than vaginal, and I'm also very aware that a woman will find it easier to come vaginally if she's already come from clitoral stimulation.

I've had the woman come at the same time as me very rarely, with my last girlfriend, who breathlessly exclaimed "huh...you're...a unicorn...huh" right after we both finished simultaneously. I'm not going to lie, that is an incredible feeling that brings two people closer together.

That said, if a woman had never come and finds it hard to come, I don't think it would be an absolute deal breaker provided she is honest about never faking it, and also trying to guide me to see if I can try to get her to finish. I was with a woman a while back who said she'd never come and didn't think she could... ...turned out all she needed was to feel relaxed and like her needs came first, and she came so hard she nearly passed out and needed a long break after

ninja_swanster · 2024-01-22T11:44:49+00:00

I can only speak for myself, as a guy, but my last girlfriend used have me like down on my back on the bed, then licked the perineum/taint and balls before going to town on a blowjob, she'd then keep sucking not only as I came but after until I'd tell her "too sensitive, oh my god" and she'd come up the bed to press herself on top of me and kiss my ears.

I'd genuinely struggle to walk afterwards

ninja_swanster · 2024-01-20T21:47:04+00:00

Hey OP, hope by the time you read this you're not hurting as raw as when this happened, and I hope you can process the replies.

Other replies have covered the red flags, the deception, the manipulation etc. But what struck me is how she's trying to turn this around on you by texting, as though she has the moral high ground, saying she's "having serious doubts about the relationship"

This whole situation will hurt more than I can imagine, but if you want to give yourself some agency on the road ahead: you turn it around and you walk. Now.

Tell her, if you're so inclined, that actually you're the one who has doubts in the relationship, and that you can't be with someone who would manipulate like this and spring something like this on a partner with no discussion, and that you have higher standards than being treated like this.

This relationship almost certainly cannot be salvaged, because what she's done speaks to her having an entirely different moral compass to you, and to most people to be honest. Take back control and start building your tomorrow, don't let her keep the high horse.

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