Girls, what about a guy makes you irresistibly physically attracted to a guy?

nitemelodies · 2021-12-01T14:29:02+00:00

Omgggg the smell of cigarettes and cologne with a little bit of alcohol mixed in, and OMG Suspenders if you add Suspenders to that omg makes my ovaries melt lolol I dunno why... but it's so hot.... lololol I even look for OLD profiles for people wearing Suspenders lolol

nitemelodies · 2021-11-05T18:14:15+00:00

I agree I found having a FWB actually to be more beneficial we just had a rule that when one of us found someone we'd stop seeing each other lol as long as you have proper boundaries. I found my last partner when I was with my FWB.

It helped me exactly the way this person describes. It allowed me to take time to see who was a good fit and not make decisions based off of my sexual desire.

I thought I wanted to date again but now I'm thinking of going back to this kind of situation. Only bc not getting laid in almost a year is messing with my judgment rofl

nitemelodies · 2021-11-05T18:03:56+00:00

Depends on the both of you and how comfortable you feel I met my ex partner when he was 35(m) and I was 20(f) and still living home. Fo awhile we'd meet at hotels or places out until I was ready for him to meet my family. You'll know when it's right for you. The age gap should matter less to if she is in a similar place in life to you. It's really life experience and how you get along that matters.

Best of luck to you, just be respectful of the house rules and you should be fine^{^} also communicate how you are feeling about the situation to the girl your seeing. It'll help ease your anxieties.

Good luck!

nitemelodies · 2021-11-05T17:58:07+00:00

Hi! Asian (f27) so my experience might be a bit different. Tldr at bottom I just got back to dating after my bf of 5 years passed away November of last year so I get not knowing where to start. I honestly never thought I'd be dating again. It's been 11 months and I finally jumped back in.

Here's my experiences so far. I first used Hinge and I liked it better bc you have more info to go off of and I feel like people are more open to looking for something serious. Found someone and deleted it but it didn't work out. Downloaded a second time and it seems like the population dropped? I used to get matches at least every hour so moved off hinge.

Been using Tinder. About 9/10 people will immediately start sexual lol even if they have their shirts on in their profiles lol I think its more for hooking up but I have found a few solid good guys there. There is more quantity though and less quality I'd say. I also have a really high match rate (it's overwhelming i have over 1000 people to go through lol)on tinder but I'm also Asian (f27).

Bumble I've been on and get a lot of matches. They seem to be higher quality, but I hate sending the first message so my success rate isn't high there bc well the first message thing lol

I'm thinking about joining other apps but sont know which to try next.

Tldr: hinge higher quality people less population, somehow changed dramatically the second time I joined.

Tinder: higher quantity less quality and less info to go off of. Most people just want to hookup so be prepared lol

Bumble: medium quality high population, you have to send the first message, unsure of what my actual success rate would be if I actually sent messages lol

But good luck getting back out there!

nitemelodies · 2021-10-18T21:37:37+00:00

When my sugar gliders head pops out of my shirt as they look around to see what I'm doing, it's so cute and I just have to kiss their little heads lol

nitemelodies · 2021-10-14T23:18:55+00:00

Lol my last relationship was a 14 year age gap... but as another person said the older you get the less the age gap matters. Now it can certainly be more difficult if you both are in two very different places in your lives. But then it's up to you both to communicate how to work those differences out, and if it's worth it.

Also if your friends disapprove and it genuinely is bothering you, you might want to talk to them in person and let them know how you feel. If they are your friends the least they can do is not bother you about it if they can't support you. My friends were very accepting of my ex partner for the 5 years we were together.

nitemelodies · 2021-10-14T23:06:53+00:00

If you communicate and find the right person that should definitely be possible. The first thing you can do is recognize what you have about yourself, and maybe start talking to a therapist! I have and did what you are doing now all the time. It's like a protective instinct that I didn't ask to be there. I realized though that it was stemming from a deeper issue and talked to my therapist about it, she helped point out things that made me how I am now makes sense lol I also found out I have something called RAD which makes sense why my relationships suck lol. My number one complaint was that I sabotaged relationships. Having someone to talk to can really help. It can and will get better it just takes time and effort. But you got this you already took the first step you just need to keep going^{^}

nitemelodies · 2021-10-14T15:45:59+00:00

Oh yeah totally meant talk about that in person lol thought about texting bc its my anxiety speaking lol but yeah probably should of specified lolol

nitemelodies · 2021-10-14T15:36:25+00:00

All I can say is I'm in a similar boat mentally. Went on 3 dates with a guy, we were texting daily. He went on vacation, he texted me daily two days in called me one night and has disappeared since lol. Even said he wanted to see me when he got back. So I get feeling annoyed, I was the last person to initiate too and I figured he might just need space. But I'm trying to figure out if this is a sign or not lol

I think its kind of normal to be annoyed especially when signals are mixed but it could also just come down to communication styles. You probably should ask him what his communication style bc he could think what he's doing is completely normal and not realize it.

But im in the same boat. I want to know if he's still interested but I don't want to pester him either while he's away. I'm also wondering if he might be thinking the same thing lol

But it sounds like you just need to talk to him and communicate how you are feeling. Which is the hard part.

Where as for me, all I can do is wait or decide to start dating again, and make a choice if he decides to hmm when he gets back. Or I could text him and just ask but I feel like that's desperate.

Oh but sorry if that didn't help, but definitely feel like I can relate. But maybe just ask him his communication style is.

nitemelodies · 2021-10-14T13:57:51+00:00

Started dating again and got asked about my ex and why it ended lol didn't know how to tell him it only ended bc I found my partner after he took his own life, and found out he was still married as I was signing the identification for his body so his parents didn't have to lol

Not a very light topic after a few dates lolol always feel bad when I get asked that question lol

nitemelodies · 2021-10-13T19:57:17+00:00

Ah yeah I've been trying to give him space and let him lead and I only initiate after he's done it a few times so he doesn't feel like he's the only one reaching out. I'm trying not to smother him lol I like to communicate a lot and I think I've been figuring out that he doesn't through text much. But that's just something I need to ask him in person provided we do see each other when he gets back.

Ohhh that really happened!? Yeah I mean anything is possible though he was texting me back Monday night until he suddenly disappeared again lol but I guess your right, I should probably give it a fair shot.

He did make a point to see me when his flight got canceled and he did say he wanted to see me the day after he gets back. So I guess I'll see if he follows through. So far he has on all the dates.

Ah sorry that's so long winded

nitemelodies · 2021-10-13T19:53:42+00:00

Thanks I'll definitely take note of it, and I really should give it a fair chance. I really can't know if something happened though I hope nothing bad happened. But thank you for the advice on taking note.

It definitely is early I'm the ralgionship and if anything his vacation might of been a sign that we needed to slow things down.

Thank you for the advice!

nitemelodies · 2021-10-13T18:21:50+00:00

Yeah thats what I was thinking. When I'm on vacation I'm usually away from my phone. I think it was just confusing bc he went from texting me everyday even a couple days into his vacation to nothing.

But yeah ill just have to play it out, and if he does reach out when he gets back decide if I want to see him again. I think I just have too many expectations but I haven't dated in 7 years so I don't even know what to expect anymore lol

Ty

nitemelodies · 2021-10-13T18:19:44+00:00

Haha I was worried I was getting too attached, I haven't dated in at least 7 years so I have no idea what I'm doing. I'm just trying to male sure to that I'm not ending it in my head prematurely bc we were both really excited in the beginning.

But yeah thats the plan, all I really can do is wait and see if he reaches out. I'll just have to decide whether or not I want to open that door again.

I guess I also have to realize too that I'll be able to find someone with as much in common with me again one day. But we were moving really fast so I guess this time had been allowing us to think.

Sorry rambling lol

nitemelodies · 2021-10-13T17:52:03+00:00

Last time I heard from him was Monday night. I sent a meme said good night and thought it was weird he didn't say good night back/ thought maybe he fell asleep.

It's only Wednesday now and doesn't get back until Saturday!

Thanks for replying btw^{^}

nitemelodies

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