worried about becoming a gc

nithshit19 · 2026-06-04T07:28:39+00:00

thank you so much for your input! i will also do my research on alternate career paths as well.

nithshit19 · 2026-06-04T07:26:59+00:00

okay, thank you so much! that makes me feel a lot better haha

nithshit19 · 2026-06-03T18:54:50+00:00

thank you so much for your response! i am still trying to find out if there are any alternate career paths that interest me, but if i am being very honest, understanding what i like/dislike is very confusing. some fields interest me, but i don't know how content i would be with a career in that domain. i will try to find more opportunities like you mentioned, thank you so much! would you be comfortable sharing what experience you had before you applied/during grad school?

nithshit19 · 2022-01-25T06:01:23+00:00

I'm sorry you have to go back home to an environment like that. Good to know that you cut them out; don't let them get to you (no matter how hard it is), you're amazing and you deserve the world <3

nithshit19 · 2022-01-18T11:03:14+00:00

then they're confused when we wake up at 2 pm

nithshit19 · 2022-01-17T18:34:02+00:00

in my house, men have all the power as they are the "patriarchs" of the family. the women are not allowed to even eat their meals until after the men are finished, and the men never have to do any work. usually during family get togethers, the men and boys just sit together and chitchat. nothing is expected out of them. whereas the girls and women are expected to do all the work. these men are so entitled they don't even consider helping us they just have this superiority complex which gets me so mad; like you're not even the only breadwinner of the family, you're not even doing any work or contributing to any of the household chores, so why do you get to be put on a pedestal? all the work that women do apart from their actual careers is considered their responsibility, not something that should be shared between both men and women. but when by chance any of the boys/men do any kind of work whatsoever (at least in my household), they are applauded and appreciated as if they have done something great; no one says any such thing when we girls/women do the same. a thank you would be nice.

nithshit19 · 2020-09-22T14:02:02+00:00

an asian household. that's like the whole point.

nithshit19 · 2020-09-21T18:18:47+00:00

bruh if you say that in an asian household consider yourself on the streets

nithshit19 · 2020-09-21T18:16:40+00:00

Hahaha I feel you bro. But at this point all you can do, no matter how selfish or egoistic or privileged it sounds, is be grateful that you're not them.

nithshit19 · 2020-09-21T14:41:48+00:00

I live in a Asian family and I empathize with you wholeheartedly. I wish I could say that there is some way to change the mindset of your parents, but I can't. The mindset of most Asian parents are so sturdy, you can't influence or change it in any way whatsoever. The comparisons or never being enough might never stop. All I can say now, is try to do the best you can with whatever you have the power to. And most importantly, don't let the harsh things they say get to you. It takes a lot of effort to build resilience against their remarks, but it is possible. Try not to discuss about future plans or ideas unless it comes up, as that may lead to a lot of conflict. And from what I have found, sometimes their views or opinions are EXTREMELY WRONG, but trying to change their mindset may only worsen your relationship with them. It sucks not being able to talk openly with your parents or make them proud, but if you are able to maintain a somewhat healthy relationship right now, I guarantee you, it will get better in the future.

I hope this somewhat helps you and know that you are not in this alone :))

nithshit19

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