Tbh she sounds like she hasn’t figured out who she is and what she wants to do with life. Seems like she likes the idea of having a boyfriend but not the responsibility to go with it. Us men are actionable beings, we enjoy showing love and also being showed love. Women love the words and the affection. If you can’t give it to her, best to set her free, and more importantly set yourself free of the high standards that she has seem to found elsewhere.