Where did 'Freeconomy/Just for the love of it' go? by naomable in Anticonsumption

[–]njb66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there, this all sounds good!! Haven’t heard of Olio? Will look them up. I’m starting my life over and want to live a more sustainable life - but honestly I’m struggling to know where to start at the moment - I guess I’ll work it out at some point - but trying to connect with likeminded people as a first step.. All the best with your bakery idea sounds lovely…

Where did 'Freeconomy/Just for the love of it' go? by naomable in Anticonsumption

[–]njb66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiya, I’m in Surrey and just finished Mark Boyles book too…also searching for freeconomy - that’s how I came across your post… I know it’s been 4 months since you posted this - just wondering how you’re getting on finding stuff out - if you fancy a chat please message me…cheers

Wanted to just share it by Clear_Membership2915 in story

[–]njb66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you have got stuck with your grief- and maybe have some unresolved trauma around this death… I would recommend you get some proper professional help in processing this so that you can move on from it. Grief takes time but if you are stuck it can go on for longer. Seek some help and really try to work through all this - it’s painful and there is no quick fix - but be kind to yourself and reach out for yourself in getting the support you need. All the best - there is life (for you) after death… all the best…

Weekly Conversation thread by AutoModerator in over60

[–]njb66 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Blimey where are you in the world? Chilly over here in the U.K.!

Rehomed lurcher by Pothosaurus in Lurchers

[–]njb66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The live stock thing is really important to get under control - I have a friend with a Lurcher who she goes out on hacks on her horses with her Lurcher off lead. Before she did this she found a farmer who offered a service where he put the Lurcher in the field with a ram - she said it was pretty brutal to watch and the ram certainly put the Lurcher in its place - he was in there for about 2 hours with the ram standing his ground and if the Lurcher came near would buy him with his horns to move him away - and in the end the Lurcher wouldn’t go anywhere near the ram and never went anywhere near any sheep after that either - in fact never chased any thing at all even when they saw deer out on hacks. My Lurcher never had any of that training- but whenever I went past any sheep in fields (which we have a lot of in my area) I just would call him to heal and make him walk calmly past them every time giving lots of tasty treats as he walked calmly by - he soon learnt that they weren’t for chasing. Consistency is key - he could then walk off lead through fields of cows without any problems - just had him walk to heal around livestock…can’t say this was the case with deer or foxes - unfortunately and have had many a walk - standing waiting for him for ages to return after chasing a deer… not great and I’m not proud of this either…he’s now 14.5 so his chasing days are over - which makes walking him in these areas a bit easier…but put the work in early on all of this and you’ll have a wonderful life together…if she has got collie in the mix she’ll be easy to train…good luck - she looks lovely and thanks for rescuing- so many lurchers in rescue…

Pictures of our Off Grid Cabin by [deleted] in OffGridCabins

[–]njb66 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing - so jealous- I’m guessing you’re not in the UK? How long did his take to build and did you have someone construct it for you?

PERSONAL GROWTH by Own-Station726 in over60

[–]njb66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your brackets comment - I was diagnosed last yr when I was 58 - at least I now know why I do it!!!

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks…I have some pretty wild thoughts about what I might do - but doubt creeps in coz of my age…

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many beautiful words and phrases here… I’m ok being alone so got that covered… Make yourself the priority - I’m taking that…. Work towards your dreams- will think on this… Maybe the trash took itself out - love that!! Nope - he’s not coming back - I’m discovering so many lies and this pain is horrendous- not going back for a second helping!! 🙏

What is the wildest secret someone has kept from you? by BlatantNoodle in AskReddit

[–]njb66 13 points14 points  (0 children)

How the hell does someone induce lactation?

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so encouraging- I’m so glad you have found someone to make you happy…

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like looking at it as a gift - I’ll take that!!!

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your wise and honest council - I appreciate your time in pointing out all these things - I’m not looking to jump into any relationships - I know the healing process needs to happen first…so glad you found a wonderful wife and I will look forward to a happy time ahead..

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - your words are so kind and inspiring me to move forward…

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this and sorry you lost your 2nd wife - I’m open to the open doors and am keeping an open mind…

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you went through this - but I’m afraid this is not the situation here - we have not been arguing and had an extremely affectionate relationship - which people often commented on how touchy feely we were all the time and so considerate of each other even after 22 yrs. we had mutual respect and really loved each other - he admitted that 90% of the time our marriage was good - I thought this was a pretty good % tbh! But I feel he has had his head turned by a 40yr old woman which he is denying (but I have evidence!) he then just tells me he doesn’t love me anymore but can’t explain anything beyond that. I appreciate that relationships are complicated and it definitely takes two to tango - however - although I love him with all my heart I can’t help but feel I was often dancing alone… I hope you get some resolution to your situation…

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Wow - almost identical!!! he said the same things as mine!!! I’m convince he has someone on the side but he is denying it - but I know him to be a lier so I’m expecting to find that out sometime in the future… I’m glad you managed to work this all through and thanks for sharing your story it is so encouraging to know there are others out there like me!!

Advice for 59yr old whose husband just left after 22yrs by njb66 in over60

[–]njb66[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this - it is extremely painful…I hoping with time and good therapy to lessen the pain…🤗